Social experiment: Will i get more tips as a female or male?

[Misreeya]

Social Experiment: Will I Get More Tips as a Female or Male? - What the Doost!?

SOCIAL EXPERIMENT NUMBER ONE!!!!BARTENDING:
WILL I GET MORE TIPS AS A FEMALE…. OR A MALE?

After a full evening of bartending as both male and female, I had some interesting observations and a WINNER of the sex battle. Now this is important to note that the bar chosen was HOOK AND CLEAVER in Greenpoint, Brooklyn. The typical crowd is 25-45 years old and are coming in for dinner and cocktails. The pricepoint average is $15 per cocktail and $50 for dinner. This is not a club environment. Also I alternated gender every hour and fifteen minutes to even out the gender representation throughout the night… for a more consistent notation. (Gender meaning as female I was higher voice, shirt showed cleavage, slight makeup and softer mannerisms… male meaning suit and tie, lower voice, heavier mannerisms no makeup.)

MALE:

OBSERVED BENEFITS: -I could work, without need to make conversation and no one would question me. Looking busy meant not being available for entertainment. Which also meant— people would not stay and watch me work— which meant higher turnover of checks and instant cash.-Men and women trusted me to make them classic cocktails. They never asked what I was putitng into them or why I was doing them a certain way. Older men would just belly up to the bar and ask for a drink, and whatever they threw out there such as AVIATOR, GIMLET, OLD FASHIONED they would just demand it. They would not ask me “Do you know how to make this drink?”
OBSERVED NEGATIVES: -If I messed up on a drink, I got a harder time. Twice I made a mistake intentionally, and both times the recipient would chew me out over it. “Whats wrong with you? Are you sure your a bartender?” or “Come on, pay attention to what you are doing!”-My tips were small- often $1 or $2 on a $15cocktail.-If someone wanted something from me, they would ask directly “Hey you- can you do this?”-Younger ladies a few times would assume that their drinks were free or would not tip at all. At one point, a girl received her dink and turned around to walk away from the bar. I had to ask her to pay me. She batted her eyes and said “Awww… but arent I worth it?”-I tried telling a pushier customer who was teasing me about my soft voice to ‘Hush and drink their cocktail.” They caleld over the manager. it was ugly.

FEMALE:

OBSERVED BENEFITS: -Large tips $4 or $5 on a $15 cocktail. Often people just left a twenty on the bar for every drink they had.-Whenever someone asked me to do someting for them they would ask very poltiely ‘If its not too much trouble could I get… please”.-Mistakes are forgiven easily. I intentially made 3 mistakes as a female, and every time the person said “Its alright! Just next time Id love the drink actually ordered.”-I received a lot of compliments… every time I made a cocktail, people would tell me how well it was constructed as if they were surprised. Theis never happened as male.



-I received a lot of free shots ordered by both men and women, who often would get them at the end of their meals or drink experiences. Liquoring me up eh?

-If someone was rude, I could flirtatiously be like “Aww stop it, shut up and drink your cocktail.” and it was considered cute and acceptable.

OBSERVED NEGATIVES: -People stayed at the bar. They wouldnt leave. They got their cocktails and watched me work. Even when I ignored them, they stayed..and watched. Almost every single person whop came into the establishment made a beeline for an open stool to stay at the bar instead of at a table… but they would not leave.

-Whenever an older male ordered a cocktail, they would often ask “Do you know how to make a—” as if there was a potential I might not. This did not happen as a male.

-People would flirt, which isnt such a bad thing… but it made it difficult to work. When I was busy, one guy even grumbled “What Im boring you or something? Why cant yo talk to me?”…because I working…. duh. As a Male I could appear busy and I didnt appear rude.

SO WHO WON?

Well the interesting thing is that as a female, I was receiving larger tips. Including that $60 tip on a $40 ticket. However, while the tips were often much bigger… people would tend to stay at the bar to eat and watch me make cocktails. There was a high turn over, which meant while teh cheks were big they werent frequent. When it came to being a male… the tips were almost 50% less. However, people would not stay to watch me make drinks or flirt with me or hang out in general. I could appear busy without seeming rude- and that meant a higher turnover of checks.

FEMALE: $210 in tips

MALE: $340 in tips

THE WINNER IS MALE!

I’m the SAME PERSON…. don’t I deserve the SAME money?What does this say about society? Leave a comment and give me your feedback!

(NOTE: This was one night, in one location, done by one person, with specific aesthetics. It does not represent all of the world or America or even Brooklyn. Nor does it represent all women or men or bars. But— its still pretty damned neat.)
CONTEXT:
For those of you who are new to who I am, My name is Rain Dove- Rain like from the sky, Dove like the bird. I am an androgynous model and actor working both male and female roles. Outside of my professional life- I carry these gender bending capabilites into the daily activities. I like to call it GENDER CAPITALISM… which means I present myself as whichever gender gets the most out of an envionment, person, or space. Money, love, respect… I don’t care if you think I have dikk or a vagina… or if you think I have boobs or pecs— what does it matter? And if it DOES matter… then I want to know why, and I want to know which gender spectrum you feel most comfortable with so I can get the most from our interactions.

Social Experiment: Will I Get More Tips as a Female or Male? - What the Doost!?

 

[Strawberry]

Damn, I thought the girl was gonna win cuz she was gettin bigger tips.

fukkin bar creeps stayin forever at the bar. That shyt's the worst.

 

[Misreeya]

I thought so too that the female would win, the problems was the men consistently staying and acting like typical creeps. Nevertheless it was interesting.

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

I knew the male would get more.

 

[Misreeya]

I knew the male would get more.

Really, How?

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

Really, How?

Men are usually rewarded by their work. Women are rewarded based on how they appeal to a person. I use to work in a club and would watch people tip the hell out of security for standing by the damn table while waitresses would be upset at the end of the night b/c they made no money. Most ended up trying to be flirtatious in order to get better tips. Also men tend to feel entitled to women's attention. It's why the guys stayed at the bar and expected shim to entertain then. It's also why men think it's fine randomly walk up to a woman ask for their number and then be upset if she doesn't respond to their liking.

 

[At30wecashout]

Men are usually rewarded by their work. Women are rewarded based on how they appeal to a person. I use to work in a club and would watch people tip the hell out of security for standing by the damn table while waitresses would be upset at the end of the night b/c they made no money. Most ended up trying to be flirtatious in order to get better tips. Also men tend to feel entitled to women's attention. It's why the guys stayed at the bar and expected shim to entertain then. It's also why men think it's fine randomly walk up to a woman ask for their number and then be upset if she doesn't respond to their liking.

I was going to say something similar. Obviously it isnt the rule, but unless a dude is stellar looking, people pay and move on, not really giving him any time. My time in a bar and two restaurants showed me that typically female interactions would be more drawn out because of guys who became super suave or chatty with a female worker who they obviously felt attracted to, especially since the patrons are sitting in such close proximity.

They get bigger tips for chatting up dudes, but miss out on sheer volume because of it. Some nights as a host I was making more than the female bartenders and waitresses because the expectations were lower for me, and a smooth joke and good service was enough. I could get away with the face while women who werent smiley and flirty usually got negative reactions from customers.

 

[Misreeya]

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