Someone School Me On The Online Dating Game!!!

[Prince.Skeletor]

I'm new to this....
I downloaded Bumble and Hinge.
I made way more matches on hinge but the convos don't go anywhere much.
It's my fault too, i'm not trying enough, but neither are they.

Sometimes i'll get a match, they send me a note, I send them something back and maybe ask a question and they don't reply back.
And that's even when it's them who initiated the match up.
What's that all about?

Also, I got 3 kids, what age is too low to go where those girls don't wanna deal with a man with 3 kids? Mid-30s?

Also how come so many women on these dating apps have cats?
And how come most profiles have them with a glass of wine in their hands.

I'm #HandsomeGang so I don't think that's the problem

I'm kinda turned off by the process too.

How do I up my game?

 

[Lilbeast]

I need help too lowkey lol

 

[CouldntBeMeTho]

"Also how come so many women on these dating apps have cats?"


What's the problem

Maybe you got your ugly gang membership card and don't even know it

 

[Morethan1]

#uglygang speaking

1. Take 6-8 decent pictures.
2. Download quality apps (you've mentioned a few already)
3. Put effort in your profile
4. Even though you're weird don't creep women out.
5. Consistently (If you truly want to fukk)
6. Be confined.

I've meet some quality women with my ugly ass, no I'm not insecure but I realized being confident in your skin is key. You have to take care yourself, you have to show women you're in control and the authority.

From what I get from women in my age bracket is the same divorce, kids, and job. Women are waiting to fell 1% special and taking her out of her day to day which will open her up.

Drinks, dinner, walking, talking on the phone are all things women want you just have to adjust the options

 

[Thurgood Thurston III]

#uglygang speaking

1. Take 6-8 decent pictures.
2. Download quality apps (you've mentioned a few already)
3. Put effort in your profile
4. Even though you're weird don't creep women out.
5. Consistently (If you truly want to fukk)
6. Be confined.

I've meet some quality women with my ugly ass, no I'm not insecure but I realized being confident in your skin is key. You have to take care yourself, you have to show women you're in control and the authority.

From what I get from women in my age bracket is the same divorce, kids, and job. Women are waiting to fell 1% special and taking her out of her day to day which will open her up.

Drinks, dinner, walking, talking on the phone are all things women want you just have to adjust the options

Don't false claim.

You're not uglygang.

 

[Serious]

Better question is what’s end game for you.

Sex in the short term or finding someone long term?

 

[CreepyMcCreeperson]

I would advise you to put effort into meeting women in day to day life. You will pick up a vibe, she has already seen what you look like in person, and you can get a feel of her energy.

BUT

A lot of brehs on here want to meet up right away, but personally, I think you can vet a woman easily by having conversations with her for a week before asking to meet. You notice the way she speaks, her tone, can hear stuff in the background, and that may help you weed out the ratchets. After couple days of messaging, ask for her number, and call her. Sometimes, the messages can be dry, but the voice conversations can be good.

If she asks for money, bush immediately. Don’t stick around to see what else will happen. If she just talks about herself, and doesn’t ask about you, or listen to you, then bush.

Be upfront about what you’re looking for, and your children. I’d stick with women who are in the same age range, and you’ll probably meet a lot of single moms, because you have 3 kids, and honestly, at the mid 30s, more women have children of their own.
Keep in mind a lot of those women don’t look like their photos, so don’t be surprised.

And there is nothing wrong with having cats.

 

[TRUEST]

Lol u need to be dedicated to that sh1t. Like u really have to be one of them cats that can’t stand to be alone so u have all the time in the world to be starting silly conversations…all with the hope of sticking your precious member into places that aren’t so precious.

 

[Lurkio]

You missed the golden age of online dating…shyt is beyond wack now

go out and meet regular women who don’t have 100+ men in their inbox

 

[buzzkill]

Dating apps suck nowadays. But if u really want to know... skip the small talk and try to get a number or get them on the in app video call asap. Next get them on a date within the next few days..these hoes on there typically have 100s of dudes gassing them up and messaging them so options are unlimited while their attention span is trash.

Have a pic in a suit have one dressed casual and one group pic, if you workout have one full body pic that shows your physique. Bonus points for pet, event or travel pics.

 

[LuuqMaan]

https://www.thecoli.com/threads/quick-lil-gems-on-dealing-with-women.10146/unread

You’d get more serious replies in that thread

 

[Jazzy B.]

Rule number 1. Don’t take apps or the women on there seriously. Most are just there for attention, self esteem boosts, out of boredom/pass time at their job or to boost IG followings. Most ain’t actually trying to meet. And half of the ones that are usually have some sort baggage or trauma.

Rule number 2. Get the woman’s number or if she doesn’t want to give the number arrange a meet up/date within 6-8 combined messages between y’all on the app. If you are the woman’s type LOOKS WISE one of the two at the minimum will happen.

Rule number 3. Do not get invested until you’ve actually met the woman in REAL LIFE.

Rule number 4. The meet up/date HAS to be within a week MAX of y’all talking or it will probably fizzle out.

As for the profile you don’t really need more than 1 line. Dating apps are based on pics/looks. A detailed profile aint gonna change a woman mind if she thinks you’re an ugly nikka, she swiping left

3-5 pics is enough.

 

[Dre God]

What state are you in @WeWillAllChangeOurStances

As a member of #averagelookinggang I’ll take your word for it that you’re #handsomegang and give my advice:

1. Take about 2-3 good pictures with the right angles that actually give a good idea of what you look like (a lot of men aren’t good at taking pictures of themselves myself included so you could be handsome gang in real life but come off as average gang or even ugly gang if you don’t photograph right) women complain a lot about online dating cuz men aren’t good at photographing themselves.

(A picture of you on vacation is always a bonus. Shows women you got bread to take a vacation and you like to travel)

2. Make your profile funny/ light hearted don’t be on hinge thinking every woman on there is looking to get cuffed and married in 6 months most are on there looking to get fukked just like the other apps or just using it as an ego boost. Hinge has just branded itself as a somewhat “high class” dating app that’s socially acceptable for the elite baddies to troll for dikk on. Your voice note has to be funny, since this site is full of comedians this shouldn’t be too hard. One of my old VN’s was hilarious and I was getting matches and dates just off that. Even smashed 2.

3. If you’re not attracted to a woman DO NOT MATCH WITH HER. If you match with an ugly woman out of boredom or just for a quick fukk that’s telling the algorithm that you like women like her, and it will show you more ugly bytches.

4. Link your IG. Since you’re handsomegang you should have a good social media following on there, unfortunately social media followers are currency and women judge men off that. That’s just the era we live in.

5. Turn off the push notifications, I’ve noticed when I take hours to get back to a match the woman tend to be more engaged, and answer back faster. This might be different for a handsomegang member tho.

6. Don’t try to move the conversation too fast off of the app itself. Try to feel the women out, and build a rapport first. A lot of fine women get turned off when you match and trying to get their number within the first day of talking on hinge. (Again, speaking as an averagegang member might be different for you)

7. Use the prompts wisely, just don’t pick random ones, actually put some thought into which ones you use.


What I like to do is only use hinge between the months of April-September. The weather is nicer, and it’s not as hard to coax the 7.5’s and up out of the comfort of their apartments.

In the “off season” as I like to call it I like to use FB dating and tinder cuz all the bytches on there is mid it’s like the G league/minor league, and you don’t gotta spend no real money or effort to fukk.

Just don’t be a socially retarded weirdo, and you’re good.

I’ll add more later if I can think of something.

Good luck out here

 

[MikelArteta]

Meet up asap

Don’t waste your time being a text buddy

 

[CodeBlaMeVi]

Better question is what’s end game for you.

Sex in the short term or finding someone long term?

This is a very important distinction because if it’s the latter of the question OP then I don’t recommend online dating.