SPIN-OFF: Is Marriage The Next Level In A Relationship?

[thegreatest]

Inspired by the thread about Enrique and Kournikova.

Personally, I think that the idea of marriage as the next level in a relationship is horseshyt. People who believe it is - mostly women - are just buying into what society tells them.

Where did this idea originate? Why do we believe in it? A relationship is a relationship. Registering your commitment to each other with the gov't doesn't change anything. It just creates an illusion of stability and removes the stigma of being unmarried from a woman's life.

If you expect your man to propose to your ass at some point, keep it real. Say, "I want to have a little something something if we ever divorce and not just be left with zilch for all the years I spent with you." Or say, "my family and girlfriends look at me funny because I don't have a ring on my finger." If you want a back-up plan or care so much about the opinions of others, it's cool - just be real about it.

Personally, I think the idea that marriage is for everyone is one of the worst things that happened to humanity. It's an outdated, irrelevant legal agreement that I would agree to do for a woman I love - but then again, I don't see myself falling in love with a woman who gives a shyt about marriage

 

[Mr210]

ok.....so whats the point of this thread


for all the coli men for the 5000th time to talk about how pointless marriage is

 

[Pammy91]

Inspired by the thread about Enrique and Kournikova.

Personally, I think that the idea of marriage as the next level in a relationship is horseshyt. People who believe it is - mostly women - are just buying into what society tells them.

Where did this idea originate? Why do we believe in it? A relationship is a relationship. Registering your commitment to each other with the gov't doesn't change anything. It just creates an illusion of stability and removes the stigma of being unmarried from a woman's life.

If you expect your man to propose to your ass at some point, keep it real. Say, "I want to have a little something something if we ever divorce and not just be left with zilch for all the years I spent with you." Or say, "my family and girlfriends look at me funny because I don't have a ring on my finger." If you want a back-up plan or care so much about the opinions of others, it's cool - just be real about it.

Personally, I think the idea that marriage is for everyone is one of the worst things that happened to humanity. It's an outdated, irrelevant legal agreement that I would agree to do for a woman I love - but then again, I don't see myself falling in love with a woman who gives a shyt about marriage

 

[thegreatest]

ok.....so whats the point of this thread


for all the coli men for the 5000th time to talk about how pointless marriage is

If you disagree, tell me why I'm wrong. If you make a good argument, I'll change my mind - I'm a pretty reasonable guy.

 

[White Power]

Marriage is for white people.

 

[thegreatest]

Marriage is for white people.

I'm white as can be, motherfukker

 

[Mr210]

If you disagree, tell me why I'm wrong. If you make a good argument, I'll change my mind - I'm a pretty reasonable guy.

Im not in the business of changing people's mind, so think what you want

 

[blackslash]

Welp for me, I take marriage seriously, very seriously

The union between a man and a woman both literally and even more important spiritually.

Marriage is where me and my wife become one, become a bond that cant be broken, we are as one being.
This entails things like unconditional love, a partnership that takes top priority, and in whatever bullsht we might go through I fight to continue to love her and strive to love her unconditionally, whatever may become of her. Being an image to Christ's love for the church.

Now this may all depend if u believe in all of that to see the beauty of marriage but for me personally marriage is a glorious and beautiful thing.

Dating for me is jus me seeing if u have the necessary requirements for a union with ya boy. If u do and I feel like ur the one I'm meant to love as such then thats when ya boy poppin the question

Dnt gotta agree wit me but hey, thats jus how I see it

 

[MeachTheMonster]

If you disagree, tell me why I'm wrong. If you make a good argument, I'll change my mind - I'm a pretty reasonable guy.

I agree that marriage isn't for everybody. But if two people decide they want to be together and build a family, marriage is a must. Two people can't make life decisions, investments, sacrifices together if they are legally considered single.

It's the same reason gay people are fighting to be allowed to marry. There are plenty of rights and responsibilities only granted to those that are married.

 

[thegreatest]

I agree that marriage isn't for everybody. But if two people decide they want to be together and build a family, marriage is a must. Two people can't make life decisions, investments, sacrifices together if they are legally considered single.

It's the same reason gay people are fighting to be allowed to marry. There are plenty of rights and responsibilities only granted to those that are married.

If we're talking about things like family healthcare, being the next of kin in emergencies and other legal stuff, that's all true . But I was under the impression that you could do all that stuff without being married, and that for gays a civil union gave all the same rights. Is this not the case?

Im not in the business of changing people's mind, so think what you want

Why did you feel the need to open your mouth, then? Shut the fukk up and get out of this thread.

Welp for me, I take marriage seriously, very seriously

The union between a man and a woman both literally and even more important spiritually.

Marriage is where me and my wife become one, become a bond that cant be broken, we are as one being.
This entails things like unconditional love, a partnership that takes top priority, and in whatever bullsht we might go through I fight to continue to love her and strive to love her unconditionally, whatever may become of her. Being an image to Christ's love for the church.

Now this may all depend if u believe in all of that to see the beauty of marriage but for me personally marriage is a glorious and beautiful thing.

Dating for me is jus me seeing if u have the necessary requirements for a union with ya boy. If u do and I feel like ur the one I'm meant to love as such then thats when ya boy poppin the question

Dnt gotta agree wit me but hey, thats jus how I see it

I can dig that, homey . But would your feelings be any different if you weren't married?

 

[Mr210]

 

[winb83]

So what if you're dating two women long term and want to take the relationships with both of them to the next step? do you marry both because that's the next step?
you can't really because its illegal and because marriage has a definition of being a binding legal contract between a man and a women.

second case. you're the son of a rich family and your mother and father have hand selected a woman of another rich family for you to marry and so you do. you have married a woman you don't even know. is that the next step of your non-existent relationship with her?

marriage and relationships are two independent things. a marriage can exist without a proper relationship and a proper relationship can exist without marriage.

here's an example of the next step. you graduate from high school or get a GED then you go to college. that's a step because in the process going to college requires the previous step.

 

[blackslash]

If we're talking about things like family healthcare, being the next of kin in emergencies and other legal stuff, that's all true . But I was under the impression that you could do all that stuff without being married, and that for gays a civil union gave all the same rights. Is this not the case?




Why did you feel the need to open your mouth, then? Shut the fukk up and get out of this thread.



I can dig that, homey . But would your feelings be any different if you weren't married?

Thing is im not, Ive jus seen and been around examples of marriages that made me change my whole outlook on it and see how different it really is than just dating someone

 

[MeachTheMonster]

If we're talking about things like family healthcare, being the next of kin in emergencies and other legal stuff, that's all true . But I was under the impression that you could do all that stuff without being married, and that for gays a civil union gave all the same rights. Is this not the case

Naw you can't do any of that stuff without being married. Life insurance, health insurance, investments, taxes, you name it. Especially emergencies, if your mate gets hurt and your not married they won't even ask you what you think about it.
As for civil unions, i dont think they are recognized universally so it still creates some of the same problems.

 

[winb83]

Welp for me, I take marriage seriously, very seriously

The union between a man and a woman both literally and even more important spiritually.

Marriage is where me and my wife become one, become a bond that cant be broken, we are as one being.
This entails things like unconditional love, a partnership that takes top priority, and in whatever bullsht we might go through I fight to continue to love her and strive to love her unconditionally, whatever may become of her. Being an image to Christ's love for the church.

Now this may all depend if u believe in all of that to see the beauty of marriage but for me personally marriage is a glorious and beautiful thing.

Dating for me is jus me seeing if u have the necessary requirements for a union with ya boy. If u do and I feel like ur the one I'm meant to love as such then thats when ya boy poppin the question

Dnt gotta agree wit me but hey, thats jus how I see it

how would your first wife feel about the bond with your second as in the bible it is stated to be premissable for men to have multiple wives granted he isn't a church leader?

Exodus 21:10-11

New International Version (NIV)

10 If he marries another woman, he must not deprive the first one of her food, clothing and marital rights. 11 If he does not provide her with these three things, she is to go free, without any payment of money.

as long as you feed her clothe her and fukk her you can have many wives. such a beautiful holy union no?