Spin: Tips on how to have and keep a successful marriage/relationship

[iMajor]

I'm tired of all these negative threads. It's like some of y'all feed of the darkness and pessimistic thoughts or something. Throw some thoughts on how you and your s/o build up instead of making everything look grim.

What does marriage mean to you?

How long do you think relationships should last before entering a marriage?

Also put down relationship tips because this is not just focused on marriage we all are at different stages.

 

[Olivia Pope]

Now at days people (men and women) tend to love drama in their relationships. I'm guessing its some form of excitement now at days.

Single and loving it.

 

[Rominati]

-Let ya shorty bytch. Dont argue, jus let her get her emotions off

Its depressing as fukk tho. All women nag people to fukking death. When they comfortable enough with you. Usually happens once the honeymoon phase is over.


Thats why I chuckle when cats see bad bytches and trip. Give em 11 months with her. And nikkas would be ready to fly out that door

 

[kevm3]

Now at days people (men and women) tend to love drama in their relationships. I'm guessing its some form of excitement now at days.

Single and loving it.

I ain't gonna lie that this is true. These days, it's better to be the dude that gives a woman problems than the one that fixes them... otherwise the average woman is going to get bored and leave.

To me the Bible has the key. Do not be unequally yoked. That means if you looking for something long-term, look for someone who is equally committed to making something work over the long-term and that means a firm commitment to values and morals.. It also means that she doesn't have the Disney mentality that relationships should be peaches and cream, happily ever after and all that. They got to realize that relationships take work and sacrifice, but the reward will be more than worth it. You got to get with someone who really wants what you want and is ready to get it... Make sure you get what you're looking for in the first place instead of trying to play alchemist and change a lump of coal into gold. I'm a laid back dude, so I can't deal with drama filled women so I make sure to steer around them. Keeps things way simpler.

 

[ROFL_GUY]

cant speak on marriages

research: push and pull

 

[Wildin]

I ain't gonna lie that this is true. These days, it's better to be the dude that gives a woman problems than the one that fixes them... otherwise the average woman is going to get bored and leave.

To me the Bible has the key. Do not be unequally yoked. That means if you looking for something long-term, look for someone who is equally committed to making something work over the long-term and that means a firm commitment to values and morals.. It also means that she doesn't have the Disney mentality that relationships should be peaches and cream, happily ever after and all that. They got to realize that relationships take work and sacrifice, but the reward will be more than worth it. You got to get with someone who really wants what you want and is ready to get it... Make sure you get what you're looking for in the first place instead of trying to play alchemist and change a lump of coal into gold. I'm a laid back dude, so I can't deal with drama filled women so I make sure to steer around them. Keeps things way simpler.

My nikka, you said the same thing in another thread. What do you consider a drama filled woman? Let's focus this on you though, we aren't talking in general. Obviously a bytch with 7 kids and 4 babydaddies is gonna be drama filled. But for you as an individual, what do you consider drama filled. You sound like you have this crazy little thing we call life all figured out so enlighten us.

 

[MikelArteta]

From what I see the few successfull marriages, Compatibility. Too many people marry thinking the other person will change after marriage. Communication etc

 

[kevm3]

My nikka, you said the same thing in another thread. What do you consider a drama filled woman? Let's focus this on you though, we aren't talking in general. Obviously a bytch with 7 kids and 4 babydaddies is gonna be drama filled. But for you as an individual, what do you consider drama filled. You sound like you have this crazy little thing we call life all figured out so enlighten us.

Hmm drama-filled... how about a woman that loves to test her man, loves to keep all her male 'homies' around when she is in a relationship, loves to go clubbing despite being in a relationship, demands he take her to dinner, tries to withhold affection as a tool to manipulate him. I can go on and on. If you cool with accepting that in your life, that's on you. I like to peep where a woman is coming from beforehand.

 

[Wildin]

Hmm drama-filled... how about a woman that loves to test her man, loves to keep all her male 'homies' around when she is in a relationship, loves to go clubbing despite being in a relationship, demands he take her to dinner, tries to withhold affection as a tool to manipulate him. I can go on and on. If you cool with accepting that in your life, that's on you. I like to peep where a woman is coming from beforehand.

Do these woman really exist or is this like the worst case scenario type broad for you?

I assume in one fashion or another you've experienced some of these variables, even in combination perhaps. Where are you now? Are you in a 'successful' relationship?

 

[TRUEST]

steer clear of women who find pleasure in being in clubs/bars/parties and getting drunk.

argue this all u want, but these types of women are never to be wifed.

 

[BeezyWeezy]

Communication is the number one thing, point, blank, period. Anything else thats claimed, is just static/background noise. Listen, you can have everything in common together, have all the same likes and dislikes, both be bomb in bed, have tons of money so not to worry about it, good friends, no temptations etc Basically the most perfect relationship ever, and it aint about a damn thing if there ain't no communication. If there's one constant in life, it that there are no constants and things inevitiably change. So once one of the perfections changes and throws things off balance, if you can't communicate and talk about it so that you can be on the same page in trying to fix the problem, then that will have a trickle down effect of leading to more problems. Considering nobody has that perfect life/relationship described, it makes communication that much more important. There's other things, and tips, that are importanat, but if you don't recognize communication as the FOUNDATION and key to a successful marriage/relationship, then it will eventually be a problem.

 

[iMajor]

Communication is the number one thing, point, blank, period. Anything else thats claimed, is just static/background noise. Listen, you can have everything in common together, have all the same likes and dislikes, both be bomb in bed, have tons of money so not to worry about it, good friends, no temptations etc Basically the most perfect relationship ever, and it aint about a damn thing if there ain't no communication. If there's one constant in life, it that there are no constants and things inevitiably change. So once one of the perfections changes and throws things off balance, if you can't communicate and talk about it so that you can be on the same page in trying to fix the problem, then that will have a trickle down effect of leading to more problems. Considering nobody has that perfect life/relationship described, it makes communication that much more important. There's other things, and tips, that are importanat, but if you don't recognize communication as the FOUNDATION and key to a successful marriage/relationship, then it will eventually be a problem.

I wouldn't say communication is the end all be all. Kevm3 has a point if y'all are unequally yoked it's a wrap y'all have a "humpty dumpty" relationship. It was cool once upon a time but now y'all fallen off and broken into pieces. There has to be a commonness between the two to even have "effective" communication or less it will be IMO a lot of bickering about who is right and who is wrong because of two totally diverse morals/background beliefs etc... If this makes sense

 

[iMajor]

Hmm drama-filled... how about a woman that loves to test her man, loves to keep all her male 'homies' around when she is in a relationship, loves to go clubbing despite being in a relationship, demands he take her to dinner, tries to withhold affection as a tool to manipulate him. I can go on and on. If you cool with accepting that in your life, that's on you. I like to peep where a woman is coming from beforehand.

Breh you are aware that marriages with churches, secular, military/private&public jobs that allows weapons. Are 1/2 It's an epidemic.

 

[BruhMayne]

Step #1

Dont marry a woman that needs an extravagant wedding

 

[Buckeye Fever]

I ain't gonna lie that this is true. These days, it's better to be the dude that gives a woman problems than the one that fixes them... otherwise the average woman is going to get bored and leave.

To me the Bible has the key. Do not be unequally yoked. That means if you looking for something long-term, look for someone who is equally committed to making something work over the long-term and that means a firm commitment to values and morals.. It also means that she doesn't have the Disney mentality that relationships should be peaches and cream, happily ever after and all that. They got to realize that relationships take work and sacrifice, but the reward will be more than worth it. You got to get with someone who really wants what you want and is ready to get it... Make sure you get what you're looking for in the first place instead of trying to play alchemist and change a lump of coal into gold. I'm a laid back dude, so I can't deal with drama filled women so I make sure to steer around them. Keeps things way simpler.

Where's ya avi, fam?