Stand Up Dude or Sucker?

[Sharp]

I have a friend who has a daughter who is 6 years old. Him and the mother have not been together since his daughter was 6 months old. He has bi-weekly weekend visitation with his daughter.

His daughter's mom got involved with a new dude a year later and they had a baby (who is about 2 years younger than his daughter- another little girl). Unfortunately, her second baby father is a deadbeat and is not involved in his daughter's life in any capacity.

When he goes to pick up his daughter, he usually takes the other little girl for the weekend as well. His reasoning is that they are siblings and it isn't her fault that her dad was an assh&le. The mother of course is okay with it.

His current girlfriend is kinda concerned because she feels that the baby mother is using him and that even though he is concerned that is not his child, and that the mother needs to deal with that, not him.

You can easily tell that he genuinely cares about the other daughter. He buys her things as well and acts like a father figure to her. As far as I know, he isn't still smashing the baby mother. Is he being a stand-up dude or is he being a sucker?

 

[Akata Man Bromo]

My boy is in the same situation (not smashing his BM also) and the kid even calls him "daddy" I never looked at it that way because it seemed so authentic. He wasnt doing it to be cool with his childs mother, or to get back with her he just really liked the kid.

In this case your boy seems like he is the same way. He is just a cool dude who cares about kids, nothing wrong with that. Its not like he is fully raising the kid. However, if it becomes too much of a financial burden on him then I could understand why ppl would be concerned.

 

[Chief]

That's a man right there he needs to be praised and not called a simp.
The world would be better with more like him

 

[NSSVO]

No sir, not me! Tell that slut of a mother to keep her legs close next time. This nikka do double duty tricking.

 

[gldnone913]

I have a friend who has a daughter who is 6 years old. Him and the mother have not been together since his daughter was 6 months old. He has bi-weekly weekend visitation with his daughter.

His daughter's mom got involved with a new dude a year later and they had a baby (who is about 2 years younger than his daughter- another little girl). Unfortunately, her second baby father is a deadbeat and is not involved in his daughter's life in any capacity.

When he goes to pick up his daughter, he usually takes the other little girl for the weekend as well. His reasoning is that they are siblings and it isn't her fault that her dad was an assh&le. The mother of course is okay with it.

His current girlfriend is kinda concerned because she feels that the baby mother is using him and that even though he is concerned that is not his child, and that the mother needs to deal with that, not him.

You can easily tell that he genuinely cares about the other daughter. He buys her things as well and acts like a father figure to her. As far as I know, he isn't still smashing the baby mother. Is he being a stand-up dude or is he being a sucker?

he's not being a sucker, but he needs to let that other dude play daddy. she not getting no support from son?

keep doin what he's doin for his daughter, but don't do too much for the other lil girl

 

[Toe Jay Simpson]

That other little girl didn't do anything to him, there's no need to have her growing up resenting his own daughter because of her parents...especially if we talking about a bi weekly arrangement

 

[Maschine_Man]

That man is a stand up dude

commend him, and let him know he gets props being a good man
not to mention , that hes showing his own daughter how to be a stand up dude. and maybe his daughter will look for that type of man when she grows up.

and the fact that that other little girl isn't his, but is his daughters sister means alot as well.

that other little girl is a huge part of his daughters life(as a sister) so anything that affects her will end up affecting his own daughter.

hes doing the right thing, in a ashytty situation

 

[NSSVO]

Y'all trippin man. I'm all for the children being taken care of, I got real lucky in life, like increadibly lucky. She is manipulating the situation by allowing him being a quick fix for a 18 year old situation. So how long does this go on? Twelve more months or twelve more years? That time, that money, that commitment could be going to the betterment of his already fragile relationship with his daughter. Sometimes God will be alright with you being greedy.

 

[Soundbwoy]

I have to this guy, its not an obligation for him and it comes from a good place. He has to make sure he doesnt get trap tho

 

[TRUEST]

I have a friend who has a daughter who is 6 years old. Him and the mother have not been together since his daughter was 6 months old. He has bi-weekly weekend visitation with his daughter.

His daughter's mom got involved with a new dude a year later and they had a baby (who is about 2 years younger than his daughter- another little girl). Unfortunately, her second baby father is a deadbeat and is not involved in his daughter's life in any capacity.

When he goes to pick up his daughter, he usually takes the other little girl for the weekend as well. His reasoning is that they are siblings and it isn't her fault that her dad was an assh&le. The mother of course is okay with it.

His current girlfriend is kinda concerned because she feels that the baby mother is using him and that even though he is concerned that is not his child, and that the mother needs to deal with that, not him.

You can easily tell that he genuinely cares about the other daughter. He buys her things as well and acts like a father figure to her. As far as I know, he isn't still smashing the baby mother. Is he being a stand-up dude or is he being a sucker?

I don't think your boy is a sucker. just tell him not to be dumb enough to sign anything that makes the other lil girl his sole responsibility. because next thing u know he'll be stuck taking care of her for life.

based on what u said, he's obviously a good dude. because when u think about it, it really takes a heartless person to pick one kid out of a house to go have fun, while the other one stays behind.

he should be smashing the mother though. at least get some head or somesh1t.

 

[MikelArteta]

Sucker

 

[SolesKing305]

he is a good dude.. as long as he can afford it i see nothing wrong with it

 

[SuikodenII]

Stand-up......takes a hell of a muthafukka to help raise another person's child when they're not obligated to do so

She'll be better off for it, her future will be brighter. That's what life is all about folks, spreading love to the next generation any way you can

His girlfriend sounds jealous, but the concerns are valid, make sure he knows the laws so he doesn't become lawfully obligated to take care of both kids

 

[Cynical Thoughts]

Sucker

This. No good deed goes unpunished.

I'm tired of hearing "it ain't the kids fault her dad is a dead beat", I ain't your friends fault either though.

By that logic the next closest person to any fatherless child is responsible for that child. Tell your boy to stop.

"All this is going to affect his real daughter cause her sister doesn't have a dad" is the mothers problem. You can't tell an adult what to do but if they fukk up you willing to burden you self w/their mistake for 18 years.

What if she gets pregnant again by this deadbeat dude?

 

[big bun]

I have a friend who has a daughter who is 6 years old. Him and the mother have not been together since his daughter was 6 months old. He has bi-weekly weekend visitation with his daughter.

His daughter's mom got involved with a new dude a year later and they had a baby (who is about 2 years younger than his daughter- another little girl). Unfortunately, her second baby father is a deadbeat and is not involved in his daughter's life in any capacity.

When he goes to pick up his daughter, he usually takes the other little girl for the weekend as well. His reasoning is that they are siblings and it isn't her fault that her dad was an assh&le. The mother of course is okay with it.

His current girlfriend is kinda concerned because she feels that the baby mother is using him and that even though he is concerned that is not his child, and that the mother needs to deal with that, not him.

You can easily tell that he genuinely cares about the other daughter. He buys her things as well and acts like a father figure to her. As far as I know, he isn't still smashing the baby mother. Is he being a stand-up dude or is he being a sucker?

Stand up dude