Subject: My wife has moved in Her Wife
Letter:
My 2nd wife and I met through a dating service September 2007; I had been separated from 1st wife since March 2007 so she played no part in my 1st divorce. We moved in together December 2008, but we had already been intimate many times. I proposed on Xmas 2008 and she accepted; January 2009 she became pregnant, and we married October 2009.
There are Many Issues here, and being raised old school I've been trying to see past those issues. Besides almost physically cheating with a co-worker at work, while 5 months pregnant and engaged (they didn't do anything because he couldn't 'get excited"), there were other strongly sexual emails and messaging back and forth between the two. With her carrying our child and on the same lease, what was I to do?
She finally ended that, and now she has determined that she is gay. She states that with all the men she has been with and the feelings she had for what those men would let her do to them that she really wanted a woman. She had her first experience with a girl when she was 15, has had a "female fling' some other times and actually involved me in one threesome since we've been married. What I / We are going through now is totally differernt from that.
Within the last 4 - 6 months she met another woman on line who lived 2 hours away. Over the phone, email, and text they hit it off great, have met, and now my wife has "a wifey" and states that in this new relationship she is the "husband" part of the union. This new Wife that my wife has, has moved in with us and the two girls, our 3 year old and an 8 year old from a previous relationship, are being told that Shay is an old friend from high school.
My wife says that she loves us both and is trying to find the right balance between what she knows she wants and needs and our marriage. Being raised "old school" and still loving her, I'm still hanging in there, going to bed every night on one side of the bed, my wife in the middle and Shay on the other side.
I am the only one currently employed, but Shay is supposed to be writing her resume for the five jobs she had so far to use for applications now "in her new home". So far she has not gotten this done. I should add here that I just turned 51 and my wife is about to turn 32. Shay is only 30, and there is Zero chance of there ever being any involvement between us; far as I'm concerned or care or even know about her she is just a body taking up space.
As much as I care for my wife and her daughter and absolutely want to be there for our 3 year old, I could really use some advice. Due to my job I am unable to discuss this on the show but you may feel free to. Any / all advice or possible resolution can absolutely be sent to my email address ".
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Strawberry Letter