The culture of family members being a financial burden . . .

[Jalether]

This phenomenom is very common in Africa and the caribbean with families with a bread winner or those who have family members abroad. Their sense of entitlement is the absolute worst part.

They ask (scratch that, they demand) for money on a monthly and sometimes even bi weekly basis and as the " son" or "daughter" or " cousin" or nephew" you are almost required according to the fukked up culture to commit to being their montly source of income and God help you if you refuse or you will have the entire family on your neck.

My question is, how common is this problem in black American families or is it just an african and caribbean issue.

 

[Diondon]

So you think kids should be cut off once reaching 18?

 

[Doobie Doo]

This phenomenom is very common in Africa and the caribbean with families with a bread winner or those who have family members abroad. Their sense of entitlement is the absolute worst part.

They ask (scratch that, they demand) for money on a monthly and sometimes even bi weekly basis and as the " son" or "daughter" or " cousin" or nephew" you are almost required according to the fukked up culture to commit to being their montly source of income and God help you if you refuse or you will have the entire family on your neck.

My question is, how common is this problem in black American families or is it just an african and caribbean issue.

It's just an African Caribbean issue

 

[African Peasant]

African and Carribean countries are third world countries. Your family is basically your insurance/healthcare/unemployment check/etc.

The situation is different in the West.

 

[Rawtid]

Definitely not a Black American thing. It really wouldn’t be as we don’t typically migrate from other countries and leave family behind.

 

[Jalether]

It's just an African Caribbean issue

Definitely not a Black American thing. It really wouldn’t be as we don’t typically migrate from other countries and leave family behind.

Y'all are lucky in that regard. I barely have any savings as most of my disposable income goes to helping out adults some of whom have jobs

This shyt is killing me

 

[badtguy]

It's just an African Caribbean issue

No its not

The first thing you hear from a black man in america when he makes it is he's going to buy his momma a house and put his siblings through school, give jobs to all his family members.

It's very common

Edit
Among those who make it. Now if we discuss how many black men in America actually make it enough to make a difference in their family....... that's a different issue.

 

[Swirv]

Y'all are lucky in that regard. I barely have any savings as most of my disposable income goes to helping out adults some of whom have jobs

This shyt is killing me

Hold your head Breh. Think about cutting off the ones who are not actively trying to help
Themselves. Old Mas and Pa I can understand and maybe some school fees alright. But people who just chill all day hell nah.

 

[ba'al]

This Arab I know who lived in North Africa and Parts of west asia and now the states was saying how he has to send money back to his family every month. They depend on him heavily. Like a hundred dollars American money in some of these poor countries can buy you alot the exchange rates are insane.

 

[Brolic Scholar]

Not only does it exist in black families when one family member is doing well, I’ve seen it in Mexican families also. I think in most situations where the family comes from not having much, help is expected, whether right or wrong, after one of them “makes it”.

 

[The Radiant One]

lol this isn’t an African thing most Africans send money to their mom or dad or direct relatives. Plus money from US is major money back home. They also only pay for kids education.

 

[GoFlipAPack]

I remember before I came in the Air Force my parents sat me down and said "So let's discuss how muchbyoure going to send to your mother every month"...I had the face all rolled in one. I said 300 and was like well I dont know how much I'm really going to be getting paid. I knew exactly how much I would make. That whole 300 a month thing lasted about 2 months before I threw mom dukes in the bushes

 

[Rawtid]

Y'all are lucky in that regard. I barely have any savings as most of my disposable income goes to helping out adults some of whom have jobs

This shyt is killing me

Set boundaries. Send a reasonable, consistent amount that doesn’t leave you hanging and still helps them. Leave it at that and say no to anything else.

 

[The Radiant One]

These relatives better not be in the States sending money to a third world country is different because a dollar goes a long way

 

[Jalether]

lol this isn’t an African thing most Africans send money to their mom or dad or direct relatives. Plus money from US is major money back home. They also only pay for kids education.

This Arab I know who lived in North Africa and Parts of west asia and now the states was saying how he has to send money back to his family every month. They depend on him heavily. Like a hundred dollars American money in some of these poor countries can buy you alot the exchange rates are insane.

Nah the inflation rate in most African countries, especially west africa, is crazy. that $100 you sent is gone in a matter of days. ask anyone on this board who visit families back home how quickly they run through their travel budget