The fragility of relationships [your thoughts]

[Matt504]

You ever think about how easy it is to unintentionally throw a monkey wrench into someone's relationship without even intending to?

Isn't it terrible that a simple text from an old friend can result in an hour long fight when you know the truth and the truth is that you'd never do anything to hurt her/him, you know you'd never entertain the person texting you but insecurity is so vicious that it can blind a person to rationale and logic, insecurity is like giving a child a blank canvas and crayons and saying "let your imagination go wild", insecurity will make a person give even the most ridiculous "what ifs" more thought than they deserve.

All it takes to fukk up someone's happy home is a random, "hey stranger, what you been up to ?" text.

What are your thoughts Coli world?

Do you believe relationships are way too fragile?

 

[Knuckles Red]

I think people's egos are too fragile. Perception is reality, and if someone wants to make more of something than is actually there...they will.

 

[Swirv]

People are just scared of the worse. Especially if theyve been hurt before.

 

[Matt504]

I think people's egos are too fragile. Perception is reality, and if someone wants to make more of something than is actually there...they will.

"perception is reality"



Realest shyt ever said.

 

[Suleiman Bey]

People are just scared of the worse. Especially if theyve been hurt before.

Or just looking for a reason to end things or reasons to justify their slimeyness.

 

[Queen]

When strong boundaries are set and enforced early, there are no questions of security down the line.

 

[Rusty Kuntz]

Depends on how strong the relationship was in the first place. People think their shyt is strong until something happens, whether big or small. The two people in the relationship have to be honest with themselves and determine whether or not both parties are being truthful with one another.

If something as simple as a "hey, how are you doing?" text makes someone have a complete meltdown, then that foundation was shaky as hell in the first place, and prior (or current) insecurities weren't effectively dealt with.

I don't deal well with insecure people; I couldn't imagine being in a relationship with one.

 

[Raava]

It's about trust. It shouldn't be that easy, a random to text and your world is falling apart. You should trust of you SO tells you they don't deal with that person l they don't. If you don't believe that you should move around.

You can't control what other people do. Someone you havnt talked to in years who doesn't know your relationship status could text at anytime. Even if they do know, still text. I would be more concerned about they reaction afterward, how did they proceed?

 

[CinnaSlim]

Is that what happened to you?

Anyway, I just want to enjoy a person, their time, their energy and their company. I think one problem is people think they own the other person. They don't realize that they tighter you try to hold on someone, you'll end up suffocating them. That's why trust is so important. you can't be two halves yearning for completion, you need to be two whole individuals who support eachother.