The "male best friend", should men worry about the male best friend?

[Mirin4rmfar]

I am out on a date with this girl last night, she drops she had a male bestie(in another city). We were talking about cooking and stuff. Let's just say I am considering not taking her seriously because of it. Does this make me insecure?

 

[Roid Jones]

What else did she tell you about this best friend?

 

[Cleansprite]

Why wouldn't u care about the guy secretly hitting your girl?

 

[RARI_Godwind]

 

[SadimirPutin]

well yes and no

You cant evaluate it until you have more information on their interactions

On one hand its 2018....the idea that a woman you have interest in has zero male friends is shyt only spouted on the internet by people who dont leave their basement...

However it doesnt mean you should be a fool......there are people who have "friendships" which stretch the boundaries of common sense....some where clearly there are unrequited feelings on one end

take it on a case by case basis

 

[Rawtid]

If you're going to worry about him, worry about every other nikka she comes in contact with as well. Just worry yourself stupid. It doesn't sound like y'all are together, so just focus on you and how she's treating you. If you sit back and observe, you will be able to tell if this dude is a factor or not. Keep dating others in the mean time.

 

[Gold]

If you guys are in a relationship, then yes.
If no, then don't worry about it.

You gotta remember, a best friend is far more than just a friend or acquaintance
For women, a best friend is someone that they confide in when shyt goes left, someone they go on trips with, someone that they feel is integral to their life.

So when you guys fight (which all couples do, it happens), she will go to him for advice.
There will be times when she flies out to meet him or vice versa
etc etc.


Personally I don't "worry" about male best friends because I dont even entertain the idea of seriously dating a woman with a male best friend.
Just like I don't think I would be serious dating material if I was always with a female best friend. I've seen it go left far too many times



However in your situation OP, it sounds like you dont have nearly enough info to make that determination, and you also don't seem to be in an actual relationship so its not really your business yet.

 

[TLR Is Mental Poison]

Nothing to worry about. Who wants to ruin a good friendship? To the bushes goes she ESPECIALLY if the male "best friend" is single

 

[Gold]

Now that i've given my serious, mature well-thought out response...

Here's my fukkery response





GMAFSB to females with male best friends brehs

 

[The Coochie Assassin]

Good chance they've had sex in the past. If you cool with a woman keeping a dude around who she used to fukk then

 

[Morose Polymath]

Girls with male best friends is always a red flag. fukk the dumbshyt, keep it light with her and protect yourself.

 

[Ghost Utmost]

I have never ever had a female friend that I spent time with that I wasn't tryna fukc

In the few instances where she wasn't even cute enough to make me really wanna, I'd end up letting her swallow me or something just cause she was begging for it

Maybe I'm weird

But I know plenty of dudes and they all seem to be on that same type shyt

All this "Bro" and "Sis" bullshyt but they smash on the low

 

[African Peasant]

He does not exist. So I don't have to worry

If you have a female "friend" with who you kick it on a close level (movie, come to the crib, diner, etc), and if you really care about her, the day she has a man, you need to be out of the picture, even if she says you don't have to.

That's my politics. never my allowed my girl to have a male best "friend" and I never allowed myself to be that "best friend"

I only had a close female "friend" twice : in both cases i wanted to smash.


I have female accointances I care about deeply, but I don't hang out with them. I'll see them once in a while just to check on them. That's it.

 

[NotAnFBIagent]

In those types of relationships there's a high chance at least one has more than platonic feelings for the other

 

[Weaver31]

It depends....

Is the male best friend her type? Is he gay or feminine? Is he a simp or just not good with women? I know some females who have male friends they not into sexually and bytches will friend zone some males really quick. No need to always be concerned unless most or all her friends are male.