I mean, gayness is inherently misogynistic.
Add to that the concept of gay "realness", which is basically code switching. Or passing for straight to the average person is not something black women can really do.
No wig or inflection is gonna make SOCIETY (especially the whites) see you other than a black woman.
And I'ma say it but gloss over it, (some) black women do that "bestie" nonsense because they would like to *believe* they are socially higher. It's a facade. Same way some use their kids to masked their ain't shyt-ness lol.
What's wild is black women are amazing but sometimes succumb to these fits of fragmented, mammy of no nation stereotypes because it no longer serves a function. They the most educated about everything except they selves in certain environments.