Theres a difference between respect and obedience. People get the two mixed up.

[Scustin Bieburr]

Summary for ADHD posters:
-Man approaches a woman sitting in the library with her son

-He tells her to take off her hat in the library.

-She asks him where in the library's rules it says she can't wear a hat.

-He tells her it's about respect and she should respect him, an elder.

-She explains that what respect means to her is being kind to people and not bothering them if they're not hurting anyone and trying to understand others.

-She asks him to explain the difference between obedience and respect seeing as her son is there and she needs to be able to teach him.

- He can't, because the two are fused in his mind. He's come to believe that being an elder entitles him to obedience and someone disobeying him is the same as someone disrespecting him.

 

[BaggerofTea]

I don't take anyone seriously who would tell a woman something they wouldn't tell a man.

 

[big bun]

I would have told that “elder” to get the fukk out my face in front of my kids. Then told my kids to never let ANYONE approach you on some bullshyt like that.

 

[Geek Nasty]

For young brehs it used to be etiquette to remove your hat indoors. But we’re in a me-first society so every rule turns into an existential debate about why it matters. And moral relativism means nothing matters.

 

[invalid]

For young brehs it used to be etiquette to remove your hat indoors

He asked a woman though.

 

[J Money]

Wasn't worth the video

To aj older person it would be considered normal to take your hat off when you get I side, its what they did. Just let the dude keep it moving and go about your day...

 

[Fillerguy]

This didn't happen

 

[MajesticLion]

We'll see how far that "conscious parenting" babble goes when that child decides they know better than her and tells her to shut up, or just plain ignores her.

 

[Umoja]

Wearing a hat indoors is uncouth.

I don't let it bother, but I do take notice when people don't bother with certain customs. When you're dealing with strangers, it is a pretty good indicator of their character as in it lets you know right away that they're willing to make small gestures in consideration of the people around them.

 

[CopiousX]

Same thing. You require a bare minimum of respect to follow somebody’s orders.


We could be in a fire and bobo the clown might be a former firefighter but nobody is following his orders while he is dressed like a clown.

We'll see how far that "conscious parenting" babble goes when that child decides they know better than her and tells her to shut up, or just plain ignores her.

I loved growing up as a kid and hearing the cafeteria stories from the white kids at school where they would literaly call their mother , “you dumb btch”



After hearing the white kids stories , me and the other black kids were like




but then when we (the black kids and Hispanic ones too) would go around talking about the last whooping we had for doing stupid sht, those same white kids from earlier would also hit us with the





what this taught me as I got older was that there is a lot of leeway with parenting. Those white kids all went to college and became normal adults much the same as the black kids despite the radical difference in parenting style. On some level I think it’s just parental preference.

 

[Koba St]

Why would you get upset about someone wearing a hat in a library?

 

[Neo. The Only. The One.]

No clicks but like breh above said, it's considered basic etiquette to remove your hat when you're inside. But all you can do is tell someone. You can't force them to do anything. If he wanted to say something like that, he should have said it in a nice friendly way, almost humorously, and then moved around. He ain't the hat police.

I know the etiquette and I don't take my hat off when I'm inside. Cause I don't be wanting to.

 

[Neo. The Only. The One.]

Same thing. You require a bare minimum of respect to follow somebody’s orders.


We could be in a fire and bobo the clown might be a former firefighter but nobody is following his orders while he is dressed like a clown.






I loved growing up as a kid and hearing the cafeteria stories from the white kids at school where they would literaly call their mother , “you dumb btch”



After hearing the white kids stories , me and the other black kids were like




but then when we (the black kids and Hispanic ones too) would go around talking about the last whooping we had for doing stupid sht, those same white kids from earlier would also hit us with the





what this taught me as I got older was that there is a lot of leeway with parenting. Those white kids all went to college and became normal adults much the same as the black kids despite the radical difference in parenting style. On some level I think it’s just parental preference.

Most white people are psychopaths, breh.

 

[FTBS]

People throw around a lot of words with no understanding or regard for what they mean.

Funny that she made this big stink about the true meaning of respect and then made up her own definition .

Being kind or understanding can be the result of respect just like obedience.

 

[FTBS]

We'll see how far that "conscious parenting" babble goes when that child decides they know better than her and tells her to shut up, or just plain ignores her.

You can communicate and have dialogue with your kids without them being disrespectful. That's actually part of the problem with the older generation...the belief that you don't have to explain shyt. That allows people to not actually think about or even know what they are talking about. "Do as I say or get your ass beat" only teaches a child to conform and follow. You either gonna raise a pushover people pleaser or a wild, uncouth a$$hole who doesn't give a fukk because they are just rebelling against everything. Now a certain level of conformity is needed, especially for young children but what you teach in childhood informs the kind of adult they become. A level of questioning and willingness and ability to pushback on things that don't make sense or seem off (in a respectful manner) is necessary. It's just as important, more so actually, to teach kids how to have conflict that doesn't come down to "I'ma whoop yo ass if you don't do what I say".