Depends on the girls where you grew up.
My mom taught me the complete opposite.
Where I grew up the girls fought more than the dudes, (my mom included) they was completely disrespectful to any nikka they thought they could get over on, and would put their hands on them, so the nikkas that grew up around them was extra hard on women, especially ones that tried to move like us, to maintain the natural balance.
And they loved us for it.
Most of us ended up dating seriously people outside of the culture we grew up in, because it exited them to be with genuine hood people like a fetish, and that’s where the problems begin, when the fetish ends.