This country really does disincentivize marriage #GMB

[Rawtid]

my point is you don't gotta be poor to get it or need it. but if you're not poor, you can't be married

Lol if you’re not poor and can’t qualify for subsidies, married is BEST, financial partnership in general is best.

 

[IsThatBrothaMouzone?]

I’ll give Kevin Samuels credit on this one. When you are married it’s easier to get promoted and keep jobs. Not for women unfortunately if they have children. Because they are viewed as a liability unfortunately. Which isn’t fair. But for men it Might sound dumb. But white folks in blue collar jobs really look at you differently when you have a family. They favor you in promotions over married men because they feel like you value the job better. I’m speaking on experience. With that said of course if you single and got a good job and don’t want to get married I respect it. But It’s not the government that does not provide incentives though. There are a lot of if you know what to look for. Scholarships for children. Bigger Tax returns on just having a dependent in itself being a wife. . They have a lot further to go. A lot. But as a married man I can’t think of many financial or legal disadvantages to having children or being married. Unless you get divorced.The disadvantage is the actual cost of a family. Been married 9 years now. Groceries, tuition and all that. Which is why I don’t bash single people. Because the cost of living is mad expensive. But it’s a capitalistic country.

Been doing white collar work since I graduated college....every single middle manager, director and VP plus 95% of the consultants are married. I can only think of one exception. I'm a senior consultant along with my several other folks on our team and all of us are married....and all dated our spouses for a long time before getting married.

It's not even an age thing as we're talking people from like age 27/28 to age 60+. Most are on marriage #1 while a few are on #2. Kids or no kids doesn't seem to matter as much but there is definitely something about being married that helps men for sure. Probably women too tbh.

There's a chicken/egg element but I think it's best when the man and woman both show potential but are young in age. Get together and build so you grow as one. Struggle early but you eventually start moving very quickly.

 

[The Intergalactic Koala]

I guess being married is good if only 1 person is working... but wtf I look like maintaining a functional adult human??

Sighs...I'll bite.

As a married man whose currently stay at home, the benefits outweighs the both working commitments involving a married couple. Especially when they have a son. In a way, this country strives on individuality, but awards the efforts of family units. Its a big catch 22, because when I was working along with my wife...the shyt was more frustrating than when one of us was working.

Benefits would be far and lmao because "fukk off". Despite, having a good source of income...the income ended up going to a shyt load of rent, insurance and etc. It even affected the abilities to help out our child who has needs on a gifted level. The reality hit when I realize that there's more problems with me being stubborn at a job because "work", versus trying to fulfill my goals of being a writer and being at home where I need to be for my child.

As time progress:

• My wife did not have to worry about going all over the world to take me to work (fukk these southern states and lack of public transportation), deal with my son's antics at school, and trying to get back to work
• Take the benefits as they are because help is better than none
• Understanding that pride is a insidious roadblock that stops you from getting to your destination

Folks that are single that get jealous over the benefits of married couples need to realize that they have the freedoms to do whatever they please. I can't get up and be like fukk IT...I'M GETTING A CDL! Because there are layers to the shyt, especially with family involved.


So its all a catch 22. We all getting fukked in this society either you are married, single, or involved in a wave of mating seasons.

 

[Dave24]

Been doing white collar work since I graduated college....every single middle manager, director and VP plus 95% of the consultants are married. I can only think of one exception. I'm a senior consultant along with my several other folks on our team and all of us are married....and all dated our spouses for a long time before getting married.

It's not even an age thing as we're talking people from like age 27/28 to age 60+. Most are on marriage #1 while a few are on #2. Kids or no kids doesn't seem to matter as much but there is definitely something about being married that helps men for sure. Probably women too tbh.

There's a chicken/egg element but I think it's best when the man and woman both show potential but are young in age. Get together and build so you grow as one. Struggle early but you eventually start moving very quickly.

Good points

 

[Elim Garak]

Since when?

 

[Kingofthereal]

Lol you Coli nikkas wild, you don’t want to get married for government hand outs? I ain’t calling you a bum but damn my guy.

 

[Dafunkdoc_Unlimited]

I mean, this is an all-time low for #GMB.

You don't want to get married because it'll lower your EBT payment.​