Throwback: Woman Leaves her Dude Cause he's too Nice

[Boujee Bonita Braxton]

That isn't nice. He could slap you one minute, then cook you breakfast and be all "Baby please, I won't do it again" the next. You don't have to be nice to not respect

boundaries when your partner wants space. In fact, thats the opposite of nice. You said you needed a little street. How are nice guys not able to be street? Your definitions are a bit

off. Also, the bolded makes absolutely NO sense whatsoever. The two don't correlate.

If a guy hits me and/or cheats on me wouldn't those be two examples of how he is an a$$hole?

I get what you are saying but you aren't getting me. My husband for example is the PERFECT example of what I mean. He cooks for me and even babies me to a certain extent but please believe if some shyt pops off while we are out or someone disrespects me, I know he is going in. Basically, it comes down to feeling like I KNOW he is the man where as the other relationship his personality made it hard for me to feel that way.

 

[MikelArteta]

All these harlots deserve is a pof account and a I've had my fun and looking to settle down

 

[At30wecashout]

If a guy hits me and/or cheats on me wouldn't those be two examples of how he is an a$$hole?

I get what you are saying but you aren't getting me. My husband for example is the PERFECT example of what I mean. He cooks for me and even babies me to a certain extent but please believe if some shyt pops off while we are out or someone disrespects me, I know he is going in. Basically, it comes down to feeling like I KNOW he is the man where as the other relationship his personality made it hard for me to feel that way.

Of course thats an a$$hole, but a clingy guy with boundary issues and a crybaby attitude isn't an exclusively "nice guy". Thats all im saying.

And good on your husband for giving you that feeling, and maybe I shouldn't take it literally, but you don't need to be "street" to defend your woman. Thats inherently a manly thing,
whether you grew up on the block or in the burbs. Best believe if I was with a woman and someone popped shyt, she would see what 10 years of Judo/Karate can do, and I stayed
away from the streets.

I get what you are saying, but the definition of "nice guy" seems to get shifted into some unfavorable traits all the fukking time and it just irritates me. Same with people calling dudes
a$$holes simply because they are assertive to the point of callousness and achieve results.

 

[DrX]

this is the avg black women, it you're too nice you're boring, if you're too mean you aint shyt


this is why a black man in american cant win, u catch hell from every direction....between your cacs, cacs at your job, child support system, justice system, and other black men looking to inflict harm on u.......youre boxed in

 

[Frump]

but please believe if some shyt pops off while we are out or , I know he is going in. .

So you want a guy who will fight someone instead of trying to diffuse a situation or try to avoid a confrontation?

That's not gonna keep you safe in fact it could have the opposite effect

 

[DaddyTime]

I've broken up with a guy because he was too nice...

nikka use to boo hoo cry on the phone during arguments and wanted to be under me 24/7.

Being sensitive to my needs is one thing but I need a little "street" in my man. How am I supposed to feel safe with you.

Crying on the phone and wanting to be under you isn't the result of being nice. It's insecurity. Big difference.

Define "street." You can hold it down without these kind of titles.

 

[DaddyTime]

So you want a guy who will fight someone instead of trying to diffuse a situation or try to avoid a confrontation?

That's not gonna keep you safe in fact it could have the opposite effect

Lol, a lot of these woman just want some fictional TV type dude.

 

[Arithmetic]

Of course thats an a$$hole, but a clingy guy with boundary issues and a crybaby attitude isn't an exclusively "nice guy". Thats all im saying.

And good on your husband for giving you that feeling, and maybe I shouldn't take it literally, but you don't need to be "street" to defend your woman. Thats inherently a manly thing,
whether you grew up on the block or in the burbs. Best believe if I was with a woman and someone popped shyt, she would see what 10 years of Judo/Karate can do, and I stayed
away from the streets.

I get what you are saying, but the definition of "nice guy" seems to get shifted into some unfavorable traits all the fukking time and it just irritates me. Same with people calling dudes
a$$holes simply because they are assertive to the point of callousness and achieve results.

i'm sorry..i couldn't help it

 

[⠀⠀⠀]

i would try to steal her from him but homie may be about that life and try to kill me

 

[At30wecashout]

i'm sorry..i couldn't help it

It's ok. I always at the fact that I guess because I generally don't show a ton of aggression or hang on the block, I can't be there to slap up and subdue

some chump if shyt really went down. Problem is, most women won't be in such a situation so the "feeling safe" aspect is way overblown, unless its the kinda woman

to talk reckless to men as long as she has a man to back her up. Patrice covered this.

 

[Chelsea Bridge]

So you want a guy who will fight someone instead of trying to diffuse a situation or try to avoid a confrontation?

That's not gonna keep you safe in fact it could have the opposite effect

Exactly. Personally I'm getting sick of hearing women talking about they need protection or need to feel safe.

No how about we get our black asses out of there so neither one of us have to worry about it escalating to something more serious?

We have too many people out here quick to shoot someone over anything so I rather not get involved in such a situation.

And that doesn't make a guy less of man. It makes him smart.

 

[At30wecashout]

Exactly. Personally I'm getting sick of hearing women talking about they need protection or need to feel safe.

No how about we get our black asses out of there so neither one of us have to worry about it escalating to something more serious?

We have too many people out here quick to shoot someone over anything so I rather not get involved in such a situation.

And that doesn't make a guy less of man. It makes him smart.

Thank you for talking sense. The best way to be "safe" is to get the fukk out when trouble brews. A chick that wants a dude to fight is probably the type

who likes drama in her private life. fukk we look like throwing hands if we don't have to? Give that woman a gym pass so she can get her cardio up. First sign of trouble

and we leave skid marks on the pavement.

 

[Wario]

Personally I like masc men and believe in traditional gender roles and submissive, clingy men are annoying.

 

[Boujee Bonita Braxton]

I want to know who the hell said anything about pulling a gun or even fighting. We're most definitely not in high school and we aren't walking around looking for fights. When I say I feel protected I mean he puts my welfare above his own. If we are out somewhere and shyt pops off of course he is going to grab my hand and say, "Let's go" versus running up on someone. We're adults with TWO little ones. We're not trying to go to jail or be killed. Now if someone tries to physically harm us that's something different. That's what I meant.

 

[NY's #1 Draft Pick]

Tupac in a business suit?
Gunplay in a cardigan?

I need to see this as a smilie