to my brehs in a relationship

[Dog Based Gremlin]

I usually pay only because I make like 4 times more than her.

When she plans dates though, she pays.

Sad thing is I be falling bad for her. Like, you putting all this time, energy, and effort into a date, and I'm bout to go fukk this other bytch tomorrow.

That let's me know at the end of the day, ole girl really ain't shyt

 

[StretfordRed]

I had a talk with my current chick regarding this.

At first for about three months it was 90% me. Even when we would go shopping she'd put all her tampons, tights, etc with the groceries for me to pay

But now we split it as I'm earning much more than her. For example I buy the main part of the meal and she'll buy the veggies. Or is were out then I buy the main course and she kops the drinks

Women want equality eh

 

[Kidd Dibiase]

do you pay 50/50 when ya'll go out to dinners or movies? like one night you pay....the next time she pays

Yup

 

[eXodus]

Varies.
I'd say it's 70-30 with me paying the majority of the time.
She offers to pay a lot more than I allow.
Typically if she wants to do something, ie - "I want to see the new Hunger Games, Killer
" -
But I don't - -
then she pays.
And vice versa.
Any mutual activities, I foot the bill usually but sometimes she'll pay.
70-30, essentially.

if i a broad had a 90-10 mentality ? how would you deal with such a woman?

 

[Killer Instinct]

Varies.
I'd say it's 70-30 with me paying the majority of the time.
She offers to pay a lot more than I allow.
Typically if she wants to do something, ie - "I want to see the new Hunger Games, Killer
" -
But I don't -

-
then she pays.
And vice versa.
Any mutual activities, I foot the bill usually but sometimes she'll pay.
70-30, essentially.

 

[eXodus]

Edit: double

 

[eXodus]

I had a talk with my current chick regarding this.

At first for about three months it was 90% me. Even when we would go shopping she'd put all her tampons, tights, etc with the groceries for me to pay

But now we split it as I'm earning much more than her. For example I buy the main part of the meal and she'll buy the veggies. Or is were out then I buy the main course and she kops the drinks

Women want equality eh

Yea I think after 3-5 months that transition should happen.. Becuz that 90% can be taxing as a muthafukka..
I wouldn't mind doing 90% organically if I jus decided to and was in a good enough space financially to do it.. but if a chick is working and has this sense of entitlement where she not even tryna pick up 30% .. I gotta question her as a partner.....

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What is you ladies take on this? What is the ideal split of dates, dinner, trips in a long term 5 month or longer commited/exclusive relationship in your opiion?

 

[christi Jayleen]

I pay SOMETIMES..... but my man mostly pays cuz he the bread winner... unfortunately not me

 

[eXodus]

I pay SOMETIMES..... but my man mostly pays cuz he the bread winner... unfortunately not me

if you guys made comparable salaries him 60k you 50k..
what percent would you expect him to pay ideally?

 

[Rawtid]

Yea I think after 3-5 months that transition should happen.. Becuz that 90% can be taxing as a muthafukka..
I wouldn't mind doing 90% organically if I jus decided to and was in a good enough space financially to do it.. but if a chick is working and has this sense of entitlement where she not even tryna pick up 30% .. I gotta question her as a partner.....

What is you ladies take on this? What is the ideal split of dates, dinner, trips in a long term 5 month or longer commited/exclusive relationship in your opiion?

I don't think a man should be financially responsible for a woman that isn't his wife. If people are going to live together and not be married, they should establish financial responsibilities early. Gather up list of all shared bills, take that amount and they can decide what percentage each is responsible for. Just because someone makes more doesn't make them automatically obligated to pay more because if the couple lived apart they would still be responsible for those bills on their own. You're doing each other a favor.

As far as dates go whoever asks should pay. Some men aren't comfortable letting the woman pay and that's fine too. If I didn't have the money to at least pay for myself I wouldn't have accepted.

 

[Mr Rager]

Why do ya'll obsess over who pays during dates???

Must be a broke nikka thing, because I don't care about paying. I enjoy spending time with my lady so I have no problem tossing a few dollars to see her and myself have a good time

If you're going to be petty and complain about a woman not paying, maybe you need to stay single and get your money up