The Nigerian
The Realest Member of TheColi
Okay, so does anybody else in here feel like they've been intimidated out of openly expressing their sexuality?
Like, I don't flirt with anyone. I don't make sexual advances in public. If women flirt with me I do my best to totally kill the vibe and mute any sexuality going on. I don't tell ANYBODY about any sexual encounter I've had. I never name names, dates, or locations when discussing past sexual encounters amongst friends.
Why?
Well, it's been beat into my head that all that sh!t can get you arrested. I'm very conscious of this. From a young age it's been reinforced in my head that being sexual in public will get you locked up. I remember teachers telling female students not to date me because I told off color jokes. I would make jokes in class and a few teachers would respond by saying things like "None of you girls should date [The Nigerian]. Just stay away." Like, I've *never* seen teachers do that sh!t to anyone else. Just me. It happened all the time.
I remember guys I grew up with telling me that every girl that expressed interest in me was a "whore" and that I shouldn't mess with them because whores are nasty, right? Then those same guys would turn around and get with those same chicks they were telling me were total sluts!
As I've gotten older it just seems even less acceptable to be caught flirting with women. Like, the sh!t is damn near a crime.
Even in college the sh!t was weird. With the rise of "hook up" culture there was also the rise of rape awareness. Seemingly innocent college experiences could easily become something worse. There was always this lingering fear that a drunken encounter with a woman could become a rape.
Nowadays, I can barely be sexual with a woman that I know without feeling like I'm setting myself up. I only have sex with women that I do not know personally. The only thing I discuss with these women is having sex with them. I DO NOT learn much about their personal lives. I do not ever get into relationships after sex. Most of these encounters are never followed up on.
I've tried relationships but after I have sex with a woman 2 or 3 times I become completely disengaged from them sexually. I start firing up my sex apps as though they're already out of the picture. Like, I'll literally be out on dinner or just driving a woman around and the whole time I'll just be on Tinder working on new prospects.
Honestly, I don't know the last time I had sex with a woman that I was publicly associated with. Only strangers from the Internet. That's it. That's the way it's been for ages.
Anyone else know what I'm going through or am I alone on this one?
Like, I don't flirt with anyone. I don't make sexual advances in public. If women flirt with me I do my best to totally kill the vibe and mute any sexuality going on. I don't tell ANYBODY about any sexual encounter I've had. I never name names, dates, or locations when discussing past sexual encounters amongst friends.
Why?
Well, it's been beat into my head that all that sh!t can get you arrested. I'm very conscious of this. From a young age it's been reinforced in my head that being sexual in public will get you locked up. I remember teachers telling female students not to date me because I told off color jokes. I would make jokes in class and a few teachers would respond by saying things like "None of you girls should date [The Nigerian]. Just stay away." Like, I've *never* seen teachers do that sh!t to anyone else. Just me. It happened all the time.
I remember guys I grew up with telling me that every girl that expressed interest in me was a "whore" and that I shouldn't mess with them because whores are nasty, right? Then those same guys would turn around and get with those same chicks they were telling me were total sluts!
As I've gotten older it just seems even less acceptable to be caught flirting with women. Like, the sh!t is damn near a crime.
Even in college the sh!t was weird. With the rise of "hook up" culture there was also the rise of rape awareness. Seemingly innocent college experiences could easily become something worse. There was always this lingering fear that a drunken encounter with a woman could become a rape.
Nowadays, I can barely be sexual with a woman that I know without feeling like I'm setting myself up. I only have sex with women that I do not know personally. The only thing I discuss with these women is having sex with them. I DO NOT learn much about their personal lives. I do not ever get into relationships after sex. Most of these encounters are never followed up on.
I've tried relationships but after I have sex with a woman 2 or 3 times I become completely disengaged from them sexually. I start firing up my sex apps as though they're already out of the picture. Like, I'll literally be out on dinner or just driving a woman around and the whole time I'll just be on Tinder working on new prospects.
Honestly, I don't know the last time I had sex with a woman that I was publicly associated with. Only strangers from the Internet. That's it. That's the way it's been for ages.
Anyone else know what I'm going through or am I alone on this one?
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