I'm trying so hard to look past it because he has a lot of good qualities but it's a struggle 
... Should I inform him that his breath is stank? I've known him for 2 years but we've only been dating for a few months now.
We're going out tonight and I'm already mentally preparing myself for the odorous, gastrointestinal assault that I'm going to experience in 6 hours.
As for my friends and family members who are familiar with him, the general consensus is that although his breath is
, I should give him a chance to fix it so that we can move forward. Is it up to me to tell this man that his breath smells like manure? Would you be this patient with someone who has bad breath? Can the attraction be saved if the person manages to fix their breath?
Update:
I didn't want to say it bluntly because I suffer from secondhand embarrassment, so I figured out a way to sneak it into conversation. We were on the phone, talking about nothing, when I suddenly remembered that he gets sick more often than I do. I asked him if he wakes up with a sore throat regularly and he confirmed that he does. After pressing the issue of him not drinking enough water and the fact that he still has his tonsils, I explained to him that he may have tonsillitis. Coincidentally, the day before this went down, he had a conversation with someone else about when they got their tonsils removed. He said he didn't see the point of removal and that the only benefit is laying in bed and eating ice cream all day
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Moving along, I told him that I "have a cousin" who dealt with tonsillitis in the past and that "cousin" always complained about the deathly smell of their tonsil stones. I kid you not, this man said:
"Hmm. Maybe that's why my breath stinks sometimes."
I froze and almost punked out but I was already in too deep and decided to roll with it. I asked him, "So you know your breath stinks, but you're not doing anything to fix it?!"
This man LOL'd and said, "Yeah, I know, but I'm lazy and sometimes I just need a little 'push' to get me going. Like I was saying earlier, I know what I need to do to fix certain things about myself, I just drag my feet when doing it."
Tf? Who just walks around stankin' and not giving a fukk? I told him that he needs to see a gp or a dentist because it could be worse than tonsillitis and he just said "OK..." I realized that he wasn't taking it seriously so I told him to get a spoon, use it to scrape the back of his tongue and then smell it. He did it and got firsthand experience of what his mouth smells like to other people. He claims that he'll see a doctor but I told him to drink more water and to use a tongue scraper in the meantime. He appreciates me telling him (apparently I'm the first person to do so) and will "take action", but only time will tell...
... Should I inform him that his breath is stank? I've known him for 2 years but we've only been dating for a few months now.We're going out tonight and I'm already mentally preparing myself for the odorous, gastrointestinal assault that I'm going to experience in 6 hours.
As for my friends and family members who are familiar with him, the general consensus is that although his breath is
, I should give him a chance to fix it so that we can move forward. Is it up to me to tell this man that his breath smells like manure? Would you be this patient with someone who has bad breath? Can the attraction be saved if the person manages to fix their breath?Update:
I didn't want to say it bluntly because I suffer from secondhand embarrassment, so I figured out a way to sneak it into conversation. We were on the phone, talking about nothing, when I suddenly remembered that he gets sick more often than I do. I asked him if he wakes up with a sore throat regularly and he confirmed that he does. After pressing the issue of him not drinking enough water and the fact that he still has his tonsils, I explained to him that he may have tonsillitis. Coincidentally, the day before this went down, he had a conversation with someone else about when they got their tonsils removed. He said he didn't see the point of removal and that the only benefit is laying in bed and eating ice cream all day
.Moving along, I told him that I "have a cousin" who dealt with tonsillitis in the past and that "cousin" always complained about the deathly smell of their tonsil stones. I kid you not, this man said:
"Hmm. Maybe that's why my breath stinks sometimes."
I froze and almost punked out but I was already in too deep and decided to roll with it. I asked him, "So you know your breath stinks, but you're not doing anything to fix it?!"
This man LOL'd and said, "Yeah, I know, but I'm lazy and sometimes I just need a little 'push' to get me going. Like I was saying earlier, I know what I need to do to fix certain things about myself, I just drag my feet when doing it."
Tf? Who just walks around stankin' and not giving a fukk? I told him that he needs to see a gp or a dentist because it could be worse than tonsillitis and he just said "OK..." I realized that he wasn't taking it seriously so I told him to get a spoon, use it to scrape the back of his tongue and then smell it. He did it and got firsthand experience of what his mouth smells like to other people. He claims that he'll see a doctor but I told him to drink more water and to use a tongue scraper in the meantime. He appreciates me telling him (apparently I'm the first person to do so) and will "take action", but only time will tell...
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