threattonature
Veteran
I dealt with this with my ex. We were living together and I was handling all of the bills. She was doing all the cleaning and cooking (and doing a great job of it) so I had no problem with the setup. And I'd give her a couple hundred a week of spending money. She got mad when I told her stop spending $10 a day just on Starbucks. So she decided she wanted to get a job so she has her own money to spend. So since she was now working she wanted me to split cooking and cleaning duties with her. At which point I told her she needs to start kicking in on a couple of bills. Not even half but just handle the cable bill. She got mad that I even asked. I broke down to her that her getting a job makes my life harder while not benefiting me at all. And how all this stemmed from her not being willing to sacrifice one way or the other.Depends on if she was purposely being wasteful. If you’re busting your ass to make twice what the partner makes and they’re wasting resources it’s natural to tell them to pick up the slack.
She also got mad that and called me cheap because I was wanting to build my savings up. Some women don't want to be treated like or act like adults at all.




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