So Valentine's Day is coming up, and my curiosity is piqued. I love to people watch, and I always watch how couples love each other. I'm not talking about saying the words, but the expressions that show love. Words are nice, but actions are so important. I also watch how people act with their families and friends, just because everyone has such a different expression of love. Even the way we accept love is different, so that got me wondering if y'all have heard or know your five love languages?
Here's a link to the quiz that will tell you your 5 love languages:
Language Profile | The 5 Love Languages®
My top two are acts of service and quality time.
This manifests in someone doing something small they know I'd appreciate. For instance, one of my friends knew I had a "bad brain day" (I became a migraineur after acquiring a brain injury) and she showed up at my house unannounced with a large cherry Coke, no ice, just like I like! I think I had only mentioned that once in passing before. But the fact that she heard and remembered that I take my pain medication with a caffeinated drink and just need to lay low really mattered to me.
As for quality time, I don't need to actually hear (often) "I love you," as much as I need it shown, and I need time where I have undivided attention with that person, regardless of how we relate to one another because that shows me I'm loved. We could be doing absolutely nothing, but if we are in each other's presence just talking, watching a show or movie, maybe eating, in the past when I could still drink... I loved to drink a J&G or beer with friends on a sunny day.
I think I developed these methods of accepting love because of how invested my father was in my life. I've mentioned it a few times here, but he passed away last year when I was 27 and it's been beyond difficult. He was truly my greatest support and a friend. He was a father and mentor first, and it's true that a man's first born daughter has a special bond with him. He just always did what had to be done (without complaint, without being prompted) to show affection in little ways. Writing me small notes, calling to say hi, taking my car for maintenance, making sure I had winter essentials every time a storm was approaching.
We had the best quality time, too. We would talk about cars, he took me racing with him, taught me about how a woman should be, talked to me about the news, taught me how to stand up for myself. We cooked together, listened to music together, ran errands together, worked out together 3x a week where he got me into his bodybuilding/marathon running lifestyle. He was the greatest influence and I'm so blessed he set me up to know love in those ways!
I love people in small and big ways, but it's helped me love them better in the way they accept love by knowing what "speaks" to their hearts.
What about y'all?
Here's a link to the quiz that will tell you your 5 love languages:
Language Profile | The 5 Love Languages®
My top two are acts of service and quality time.
This manifests in someone doing something small they know I'd appreciate. For instance, one of my friends knew I had a "bad brain day" (I became a migraineur after acquiring a brain injury) and she showed up at my house unannounced with a large cherry Coke, no ice, just like I like! I think I had only mentioned that once in passing before. But the fact that she heard and remembered that I take my pain medication with a caffeinated drink and just need to lay low really mattered to me.
As for quality time, I don't need to actually hear (often) "I love you," as much as I need it shown, and I need time where I have undivided attention with that person, regardless of how we relate to one another because that shows me I'm loved. We could be doing absolutely nothing, but if we are in each other's presence just talking, watching a show or movie, maybe eating, in the past when I could still drink... I loved to drink a J&G or beer with friends on a sunny day.
I think I developed these methods of accepting love because of how invested my father was in my life. I've mentioned it a few times here, but he passed away last year when I was 27 and it's been beyond difficult. He was truly my greatest support and a friend. He was a father and mentor first, and it's true that a man's first born daughter has a special bond with him. He just always did what had to be done (without complaint, without being prompted) to show affection in little ways. Writing me small notes, calling to say hi, taking my car for maintenance, making sure I had winter essentials every time a storm was approaching.
We had the best quality time, too. We would talk about cars, he took me racing with him, taught me about how a woman should be, talked to me about the news, taught me how to stand up for myself. We cooked together, listened to music together, ran errands together, worked out together 3x a week where he got me into his bodybuilding/marathon running lifestyle. He was the greatest influence and I'm so blessed he set me up to know love in those ways!
I love people in small and big ways, but it's helped me love them better in the way they accept love by knowing what "speaks" to their hearts.
What about y'all?
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