what breaks up a marriage quicker than fighting over money?

[no.]

It's no joke. My parents have been married twenty-two years, but money can still make them come close to packing up their bags and going their separate ways. It's like, they'll buy things for each other just so they can boast about it and hold it over one another. Sometimes buy things and lock them away for their exclusive use, then yell at each other about it. Complain about all kinds of bills and wasting too much money, then accuse each other of avarice.

Sometimes they ask me to pick a side, his money this, her money that... I'm like , it's all going to me when you die anyway But no, seriously, it sucks. I don't even get why they fight, all the money is getting split in half if they divorce anyway.

So... come on, coli, what are your thoughts on money and marriage? Any pre-nup enthusiasts? Any traditional male providers here? Any golddiggers? Any ''trust and dialogue''-minded people?

 

[King Poetic]

my parents are old and sleep in different rooms because years ago my mom got mad cause my dad said his money is his.

my mom don't want to go anywhere with him or nothing. i don't say anything about it cause u can't tell old ladies especially your mom anything

it's a love/hate relationship but i can't stress myself over it anymore

 

[Rawtid]

I think couples should take financial counseling and get on the same page. Im not for separate accounts while married.

Prenups are fine, imo for couples that have assets before they enter the marriage. If you aint got shyt it doesnt matter.

 

[Broke Wave]

bytches that talk back to their man. Your momma should know not to disrespect your father.

 

[Supercoolmayo]

They woudn't argue over money if they woke up and took charge of their money at https://www.wakeupnow.com/

 

[BocaRear]

If you ain't no punk you better get pre-nup, a divorce can ruin a man & if you have kids you gon be living in that studio apartment at 50 years old swag

 

[StickStickly]

separate bank accounts is the only way to go.

people work hard for their money, give up their life for their money. money represents lost time. you give up your money to someone who didn't work hard for it, it feels like you worked blood and sweat for shyt.

prenups are good. men and women should not be funding their exes' lifestyles when they're supposed to be funding child support.

 

[Heafcliffe]

separate bank accounts is the only way to go.

people work hard for their money, give up their life for their money. money represents lost time. you give up your money to someone who didn't work hard for it, it feels like you worked blood and sweat for shyt.

prenups are good. men and women should not be funding their exes' lifestyles when they're supposed to be funding child support.

I agree with this. Wife and I have separate and it works the best for us. We have a joint for all the bills and joints ventures we plan to accomplish in the future (i.e. house, kids, etc.).

We don't have time to scrutinize one another purchases. We have bi-monthly finance meetings to discuss things so nothing is a surprise.

 

[LimitedEdition]

I sincerely think people should really have these conversations before marrying. If youre marrying a selfish person, dont expect that to change after marraige. I'm not sure what woudl make me say "My money is my money," to someone, unless I was dealing with someone that felt entitled. I highly doubt I will mary someone that shows me they feel excessively entitled.

Separate bank accounts are cool. I dont see why you wouldnt have separate accounts. Heres how I think it shoudl work:

Person A makes 60,000 a year
Person B makes 40,000 a year

Total household bills = 100%
Person A contributes to 60% of the bills
Person B contributes to 40% of the bills

Whatever is left over is yours. Additionally percentage deposits should be made into family vacation accounts, etc. Just be fair.

 

[BillCosbyAteMyHomework]

I agree with this. Wife and I have separate and it works the best for us. We have a joint for all the bills and joints ventures we plan to accomplish in the future (i.e. house, kids, etc.).

We don't have time to scrutinize one another purchases. We have bi-monthly finance meetings to discuss things so nothing is a surprise.

That's exactly us. We both contribute to our mutual account for our new house and things we're going to need for it, as well as bills. Neither of us are very frivolous spenders, but it's nice to know that if I end up dropping $50 at happy hour with the girls or whatever, it's not looked at a certain way- as long as we're saving and the bills are paid. I'm sure he feels the same way.

The bolded is awesome. Noted for the future.

 

[Couth]

Your parents are tripping. My mom never worked. My parents never argued about money. And they argued like 24/7, but never about cash. Cash was just a given. My mom would just go in my dads pocket and take out whatever she wanted. In fact i remember her stealing his credit card and taking me and all my siblings on a shopping spree cuz she caught him cheating. He didn't say shyt to her.

When i get older my girls not gonna have to work. I'm gonna find a loyal female to have my kids and spoil the shyt outta her. I feel like thats how it should be. I'll make sure shes spoiled. She'll make sure my kids are being taken care of, my dinners cooked, and everythings good at home.

 

[SemiEnlightenedBum]

no money

 

[Taadow]

What breaks up a marriage quicker than fighting over money? Doin' her sister, that's what.


Just bring me the money, sweets...you'on' know what to do with it...*smacks her on da bizzutt*

 

[LimitedEdition]

What breaks up a marriage quicker than fighting over money? Doin' her sister, that's what.

Some mofos are just disrespectful. Friends and family are off limits. Homo activities are off limits. Dont hump the whore that does my hair or the damn baby sitter. Some people just take stuff too far.