What do you owe to people you cut off?

[LoMax30]

I have a friend I've known roughly 15 years. We used to be tight but more recently I realized we're waaaaay different now He lives a couple hours away so I don't see him all that often but we speak sorta regularly. Over the past two year I noticed he's pretty insecure and negative so I try to keep conversation basic and positive. He still finds ways to occasionally throw shots at people, myself included

When we first started hanging out sometimes we'd hit up my aunt's crib and she'd make us plates (that catfish ), maybe give us a lift if we didn't have a ride , etc. She was very motherly A year ago she started having some health issues and she was barely able to walk. She got a little better since then but she's still using a walker and hobbling around I've gone back to see her a couple times but she recently ended up moving to an old folks home near some family even further away. I did go back to see her before she moved.

Over the course of the year I've mentioned to this friend multiple times my aunt can't walk, she doing bad, etc. Dude lives 15 minutes from her house and never went to see her once Whenever I mention she sick he entertains the topic for 30 seconds and then starts talking about some freaks he messing with or a new Fabolous mixtape

Do people like this deserve an explanation before you cut them off?

 

[Doobie Doo]

U owe them if they gave u money or an opportunity u couldn't get on ya own. Other than that fukk em

 

[Splash]

That your aunt aint it

 

[BaldingSoHard]

I've only really cut off one chick in my life.

She was boring and weird and a drain on my resources.

Had some excellent p*ssy and beautiful brown skin tho.

 

[Actually6Foot3]

Kim thinking about cutting off my friends right now. A few of em just talk shyt about me and each other behind the others backs. Shame since we call met in highschool but we're men now I done feel like I owe any of them shyt but some people are the type to feel like since "they knew you" you owe em.

 

[James Gordon]

Not a gat damn thang

 

[get these nets]

When we first started hanging out sometimes we'd hit up my aunt's crib and she'd make us plates (that catfish ), maybe give us a lift if we didn't have a ride , etc. She was very motherly A year ago she started having some health issues and she was barely able to walk. She got a little better since then but she's still using a walker and hobbling around I've gone back to see her a couple times but she recently ended up moving to an old folks home near some family even further away. I did go back to see her before she moved.

Over the course of the year I've mentioned to this friend multiple times my aunt can't walk, she doing bad, etc. Dude lives 15 minutes from her house and never went to see her once Whenever I mention she sick he entertains the topic for 30 seconds and then starts talking about some freaks he messing with or a new Fabolous mixtape

Do people like this deserve an explanation before you cut them off?

How does he interact with his own family?
He should show your aunt the same love she showed him as a youth, but some people just don't see things that way. If he would or does treat his own blood family like this, you can't be mad at him for being himself..
Unless you are the best friend ever, and have no character flaws of your own.....I say accept him for who HE is, and keep him at arm's length.

Personally speaking, person who wouldn't do for me what I'd do for him isn't a friend, so there's never a reason to cut off what wasn't there.

 

[mortuus est]

Seems like your friend is selfish and not the good kind from what you're saying from him talking negative and not seeing your aunt

you can cut him off or you can be a man and tell him the bullshyt he's been on and maybe get a different perspective on why his like that, you might get an answer or you wont get anything

either way, you've come to the conclusion of cutting him off so it shouldn't hurt to ask and dig deeper this last time


inb4myfriendjustcutmeoffbrehsthread

 

[Black_Panther_JS]

You shouldn’t expect him to care about your aunts well being, that’s not his family

 

[LoMax30]

you can cut him off or you can be a man and tell him the bullshyt he's been on and maybe get a different perspective on why his like that, you might get an answer or you wont get anything

either way, you've come to the conclusion of cutting him off so it shouldn't hurt to ask and dig deeper this last time

I've called him out about other shyt a couple of times before in a non-confrontational way only for him to be like "you preaching to me right now " so now I'm to the point of

 

[Rawtid]

I think if you have years in, you at least owe an explanation, but that's the most difficult part tbh. . I have a similar situation with a friend and I've been maintaining distance and I always say I'm going to cut her off for good and just let her know how I feel, but then I just end up lying and saying I was working or something.

With this friend, she lives in her high school years. We can talk in length about 9th grade, but not about our goals and future because she doesn't plan that far ahead. She moved to Philly with her cousin and kids. In one breath the tells me she's able to save $1k a month living there and in the next breath she says she moving back home where here income only covered rent. . I told her to stay and save up some money. At least come back with a nest egg. She was diagnosed with MS, but her mentality hasn't changed at all. I'm like yo, it's time for you to start solidifying yourself and your future. If she passed away today, her kids would have nothing.

 

[LoMax30]

With this friend, she lives in her high school years. We can talk in length about 9th grade, but not about our goals and future because she doesn't plan that far ahead. She moved to Philly with her cousin and kids. In one breath the tells me she's able to save $1k a month living there and in the next breath she says she moving back home where here income only covered rent. . I told her to stay and save up some money. At least come back with a nest egg. She was diagnosed with MS, but her mentality hasn't changed at all. I'm like yo, it's time for you to start solidifying yourself and your future. If she passed away today, her kids would have nothing.

Same with my friend, he lives in the past. Dude has a decent paying job and be scamming on the side and still complains to me how he doesn't have a nest egg..but be out here buying Giuseppes

 

[3rdWorld]

You shouldn’t expect him to care about your aunts well being, that’s not his family

Is he not a human being?

 

[An ashy lil fap hand]

You shouldn’t expect him to care about your aunts well being, that’s not his family

This. Now, my friends would check in on my family, but I wouldn't look down on them for doing them.

 

[Yehuda]

I don't owe them anything.