There is nothing wrong with patriarchy, but right now, we don't have a black patriarchy. It's more of a matriarchal bubble, that is maintained within another man's (white) patriarchy. Women get all their provisions/resources from another man's patriarchy. An actual black patriarchy would actually be better for black women than the current one (because they could go to black men for jobs, resources, etc), but black men will have to build together in order for that to happen, We can't complain about black women not following when we aren't even building.
This black patriarchy that some black women complain about, does not even exist. It's not a real patriarchy. I can understand if they're complaining about it being a fail patriarchy imitation. But saying that we "don't ever need a black patriarchy"

you should be encouraging a REAL black patriarchy, if you're a heterosexual black female, because you'd benefit a lot more from that then the current fail patriarchy that the black community has right now.