What would u do in this situation? (V-Day related)

[flea]

Me and the girl i was dating broke up two weeks ago. She says she got me a v-day gift before the break up and wants to give it to me. I tell her I'll give her something too. She tells me not to. I tell her dont give me anything then because I wont accept it without giving her anything. She says she wont give me anything then. In the event that she does, will i look like a complete jerk off for not getting her something in exchange? should i buy something now just in case? I really dont want to because I really dont want to rekindle anything. I prefer to be alone. Relationships aint me anymore.

 

[Sam Peel]

 

[flea]

cotdamn i hate these grainy ass pictures. how does this even happen on a phone in 2013?

 

[Rawtid]

It's really up to you, I personally would buy her something SMALL (Card and some candy), just to be prepared in the event she still tries to give you your gift. If she doesn't give it to you, you can always eat the candy and keep the card for next year.

You're not obligated to buy her anything though and should feel comfortable with that decision if that's what you want to do.

 

[The BasedFather]

Tell her to cancel her original gift and to give you that p*ssy. You'll give her that D in exchange.

You both get a gift and everything works out. You won't have to spend any money either.

 

[Malta]

Like the brehette @Rawtid said, just get her a card, who knows she might have gotten you something really nice

 

[WaveCapsByOscorp™]

i wouldn't worry about it. i mean, if she gives you her gift that's her decision. just like if you want to buy her a gift now, that's your decision. no one is obligated to do anything. the feeling like an a$$hole part is more of a judgement based on what you think people expect from you. but y'all just broke up, there should be no expectations at this point. i'd just ask myself "how do i want to make her feel". and, if i'm lukewarm about making her feel good, then i just won't do it. nothing's worse than giving gifts and not meaning it...

 

[flea]

It's really up to you, I personally would buy her something SMALL (Card and some candy), just to be prepared in the event she still tries to give you your gift. If she doesn't give it to you, you can always eat the candy and keep the card for next year.

You're not obligated to buy her anything though and should feel comfortable with that decision if that's what you want to do.

thanks. i was actually expecting your response. u give good advice.

i'll do the card and candy thing. cant really lose there. im just used to giving gifts that hold sentimental value and kinda lets her know i pay attention to the little things she likes. thanks again.

 

[flea]

i wouldn't worry about it. i mean, if she gives you her gift that's her decision. just like if you want to buy her a gift now, that's your decision. no one is obligated to do anything...

im 99% sure she's going to try to give me a gift so i guess thats where i feel a sense of obligation to get her something. I know one thing though, this'll be the last time i date a 21 year old

 

[Rawtid]

thanks. i was actually expecting your response. u give good advice.

i'll do the card and candy thing. cant really lose there. im just used to giving gifts that hold sentimental value and kinda lets her know i pay attention to the little things she likes. thanks again.

Thanks, I appreciate that :-)

I feel you on the gift giving thing. I LOVE to give gifts. I LOVE to give useful and meaningful gifts as well but at the same time if you two have broken up, it's really no point. If you two get back together, then you can buy her a good gift for just no reason and that's better than getting a gift when you're expecting one.

 

[Rusty Kuntz]

You're better than me. Once you're an ex, all communication ceases, so the convo wouldn't have even happened in the first place.

 

[Mr210]

if the 2 of you arent together anymore I wouldnt give her crap and keep it movin

 

[Binary]

cotdamn i hate these grainy ass pictures. how does this even happen on a phone in 2013?

Because you can't share photos off of Instagram like you can on FB so these idiots screenshot these photos then repost on instagram which makes it more grainy. It goes on and on and on.

#themoreyouknow

 

[sfgiants]

wait
u broke up with a broad, she got you a gift, you didnt, she tells you she doesnt want anything, and yet you insist on buying things for someone you already broke up with/have no connection to anymore?

 

[flea]

wait
u broke up with a broad, she got you a gift, you didnt, she tells you she doesnt want anything, and yet you insist on buying things for someone you already broke up with/have no connection to anymore?

yeah im a bit of a softy. i dont want her to feel bad.