What're your parents like? Are you like them?

[SeveroDrgnfli]

My mom is the smartest woman I've ever met. She's ambitious, independent, glamorous, courageous, and resilient. She holds it down.

Most of my memories of my mom involve her reading. She owned multiple small businesses throughout her life. I rarely saw my mom with a job. She made me help her run her businesses.

She and I have always been friends. We chat about politics, history, and health. We've been doing this since I was in 7th grade.

I have my mom's interests. She ran track and played tennis in college. I played soccer. I love running and cycling. I've owned a small business. I don't plan on having a job for a long time.

I read a lot. I love health. My mom and grandmother were cooks. I am a cook.

My mom lived a few blocks from where I live now when she first moved to Oakland.

 

[Neuromancer]

My mom ins horribly independent. And I guess ok with it. She's also industrious and family oriented

My pop was the same and a ladies man, but also very sensitive.

Both were creative. My mom designed dresses for rent Aretha Fraklin and my dad was a writer and managed Doug East. Fresh at one time.

I only inherited their creativity and some independence.

 

[SeveroDrgnfli]

My mom ins horribly independent. And I guess ok with it. She's also industrious and family oriented

My pop was the same and a ladies man, but also very sensitive.

Both were creative. My mom designed dresses for rent Aretha Fraklin and my dad was a writer and managed Doug East. Fresh at one time.

I only inherited their creativity and some independence.

Are you like either of them?

 

[Neuromancer]

Are you like either of them?

People say I'm like my mom. I'm industrious and as independent as I can be with what I have. I personally think I'm more like my dad minus the ladies man part. My mom says I sound like him sonetimes. I channel him at some points I think.

 

[Dea]

 

[The BasedFather]

No dad.

My mom has a very strong personality and short temper so we used to butt heads when I was younger. Our relationship didn't improve until I moved out.

I'm nothing like my parents because me and my sisters took care of ourselves as kids because my mom was barely around for work and stuff.

I do admire my mom for being a hard worker though and resilient.

 

[Lady.Libra.]

Strict, over-protective, stern, no nonsense, very logical, worrier, but underneath it all has a beautiful heart. Always wanting to help various people.

Father was very laid back (had hustler-like tendencies - betting on the dog tracks/shooting pool) and people loved the ground he walked on - everyone always wanted to be around him.

I like to play alot
Around strangers, I am sort of like my Mom- standoffish & observant but cordial.
I'm very laid back like my Dad was but I am not really a people person like he was - just family & friends.

 

[Ziggiy]

I am pretty much a chiller version of my father

 

[Paradise]

My mother is a hard worker and Susie homemaker all in one. She reminds me of a black Martha Stewart. She isn't big on hugs and kisses, but we know that she loves us.

My daddy was a hustle and a ladies man.

He also had a mister don't play attitude... So
he had a short temper.

I would say I'm like my mama. Hard working, selfless, loving, sweet, people pleaser.

 

[Groanman]

They smoked hella weed
Could not help but catch contact
Black hippies are weird







~it's a haiku

 

[NSSVO]

Was like my mom for most of my life. Then adult life hit me like a ton a bricks, so I am slowly becoming more centered between them.

 

[Carolina Slim]

My pops was very no-nonsense, and my mother is the type who always looks for the good in people, a very kind-hearted soul. I'm kind of a mix of the two of them, but probably more like my pops. He was very protective, always told me not to share stuff with people who didn't need to know it, which was the opposite of my mother, who, if she trusts you, she'll share with you. Not intimate things, just in general. I'm the same way, if you don't need to know, I ain't saying nothing. Funny thing is, my youngest son is more like my pops than I am, and my pops passed four months before he was born. One funny incident, when my kids were in the same elementary school (four years apart), my youngest son's first grade teacher had also been my oldest's first grade teacher, but didn't know they were related. So one day she told my wife she had no idea they were brothers, even when she had asked the class if they had any siblings in the school (my son didn't volunteer anything) So when my wife asked him why he didn't tell the teacher, his reply was "she didn't need to know my business". So since my wife knows how I get down, she automatically assumed that I had told him that. LOL I had never sat down with him to talk to him about that, so that's just him. And that's how he gets down. Very serious, doesn't need to be around a lot of people, has a low tolerance for foolishness, and is very much a cat who is OK rolling dolo. He can be social when he wants or needs to, but much prefers his own company, which is how I get down, but it always amazes how much like his grandfather he is He likes hearing that too, it's kind of like his own little connection to him.

 

[Gold]

My dad is a traditional old-school Nigerian man. He beat me with a cane when I missed curfew once. He made me walk home school (14 minute drive, 4 hour walk) when I forgot to greet him when he picked me up in 5th grade. He sent me to military school. I could go on, but I wont.

On the positive side, he is EXTRMELY intellingent. He has 3 masters, his JD, and he's working on his second doctorate. He is also very frugal.

My mom thinks that men should be masculine and never cry or show too emotion around their family. She believes that you need be the foundation. She also believes that men shoudlnt' listen to women, and if you let a woman control you, you aren't a real man.

On the positive side my mom is tall and used to be very athletic. She also looks very young for her age. She's a great dancer and she has good style. I think I look way more like her than I do my dad.

Negative: Neither of my parents have "I love you" in their vocabulary. I've never seen my parents kiss.

Positive: They both understand their roles in their marraige and put us first.


I don't think i'm anywhere near their level of coldness... but I share alot of positive traits with them.

But i'm not beating my kids with a cane, fukk that.

 

[cjlaw93]

Nope. I'm not a c00n.

 

[Shadow King]

My mother is more logical than most women...not quick to catch a bruised ego over words and would fire right back. Worrisome. Overprotective of me. Poet and wordsmith. Modest. Naturally funny, heightened by the fact that she's dead serious...she doesn't think she's funny. Independent in what I see as it's true form. Homebody. Sincere, too sincere for shallow relationships. There's no "getting game" from Mommy because it was the dude before my dad, my dad, and someone after him. Glad I wasn't exposed to a revolving door. She makes it difficult to find girls my age acceptable as long term partners.

My father is supposedly sensitive but it took a long time for me to see any typical traits of sensitivity. I think the dark space I've been in for a while now has brought it out of him. I've also heard he had a temper in his younger days. He's a natural mentor, he was a good uncle to my cousins before I was born and after. Much more active on the scene in his 20's. He likes talking, he doesn't go out of his way to talk to strangers but will converse. Likes cracking jokes. Not musically inclined as far performing but a music lover and could DJ a little bit before his surgery.

I'm worrisome and a writer like my mother. Modest. Too withdrawn for going out here trying to keep a rotation of chicks, too sincere even for serial dating cause I know it'll end. Homebody like her. I have the same nonchalant mask with the inside chip on the shoulder as Dad. I crack my fair share of jokes. I've never been forced to lead or do for a group of people so I don't about mentorship. Her writing and his ear made me a rapper. Both are bright and passed it on, both are from the hood (Mommy: Bed-Stuy, Dad: Newark) but aren't "hood" so that's also reflected on me. I'm not totally removed from the hood but a lot of stuff I don't identify with.