When a woman that ISN'T your mother asks "Where were you?"

[Brolic Scholar]

So my girl is visiting family in Northern California and called me while I was at this local spot eating an Acai bowl. I don't answer the phone when I'm eating.

She texted saying someone hit her up about a desk I have for sale, so I called her once i finished. Her first question was "where were you?" To which I replied don't ask me questions like that. I'm not 12 and you're not my mother. She tried to challenge me on it, but I shut it down and said I'm not going to let you get used to asking me that.



I have my reasons and they mostly revolve around avoiding step by step giving a woman control of your life starting with seemingly insignificant stuff. But I'm curious about how other men deal with this.

 

[BigMan]

its not that serious.

 

[Astroslik]

I hate when women ask me that

 

[MaxPain]

Check her. bytch dont be worrying bout what the fukk im doing outchea, im regulating. I should ask her where she been.

 

[Brolic Scholar]

its not that serious.

Give them an inch and it becomes a mile. I'm not checking in with anyone. Can't and won't do it.

 

[Wildhundreds]

I was sitting down eating.

"Why you didn't pick up?"

Because i don't talk on the phone while eating.

If she has a problem with that, then thats her own personal decision that SHE personally have to deal with.

Communication is key to any relationship.

All this passive aggressive shyt is for kids.

Being up front is adult like. If they don't like it, tell them to push on.

 

[Astroslik]

Give them an inch and it becomes a mile. I'm not checking in with anyone. Can't and won't do it.

nikkas be reporting to their bytch like a yelp check In smh

 

[DonDiego]

Depends on if her ass need to know. I ask her where she at. So of I have to lie I lie if not tell the truth. Make it too complicated get yo ass caught up

 

[MillionMills]

I hate when women ask me that

So do I. Its a small question but shyt just irks me for some reason.

 

[Neuromancer]

I don't get asked this question. It's usually are you ok? Or Are you at so and so.

 

[Brolic Scholar]

I was sitting down eating.

"Why you didn't pick up?"

Because i don't talk on the phone while eating.

If she has a problem with that, then thats her own personal decision that SHE personally have to deal with.

Communication is key to any relationship.

All this passive aggressive shyt is for kids.

Being up front is adult like. If they don't like it, tell them to push on.

Telling someone directly that you're not going to do something is the opposite of passive. And I wasn't aggressive, i was standing on my principle of not letting my woman run me like a child. She even texted "Love you" to me after I hung up the phone because she knows I'm right.

Secondly, she's 8 hours away. Why the fukk does it matter where I am? If she trusts me, she shouldn't be worried about it. It's not like two days have passed with no contact.

I'm my opinion, the minute you let your woman ask you kiddie questions that mean nothing except she wants the comfort of being able to control your responses, you slowly start losing her respect.

EDIT: Similarly I don't answer "do you miss me" or "do you love me?" When I do I'll say so. fukk all that answer on my command bs.

 

[Turbulent]

yeah i don't play that shyt especially if my gut feeling is that she's trying to control shyt. give her an inch next thing you know she got your balls in her purse

 

[BigMan]

Give them an inch and it becomes a mile. I'm not checking in with anyone. Can't and won't do it.

Well women respect me so Her question wouldn’t be offensive to me unless other factors were involved

 

[Entropy Fan]

So do I. Its a small question but shyt just irks me for some reason.

It has a demeaning belittling vibe to it. Any man with dignity would be rubbed wrong by it. I'm not your 3 yr old bytch

 

[Buckeye Fever]

I stopped that shyt from the jump:

"Jeff, where were you when I called you??!!"

Me: "Oh, I was in the bathroom jackin off to an xhamster video, category is none of your business. I'll have to answer to God for that one. Now, what did you want?"