oh and as for the eyelid surgery. I know this because I've had 3 serious relationships in my last 3 years here in china. that's 1 per year. my first 2 had 'typical' chinese eyes. my girl now, has thicker folds than normal for a chinese. they're more in line with koreans who have the thickest fold on average. she is the ONLY girl ive ever heard talk about the surgery. when I asked her if its because she wants to look more western, she literally busted up laughing and said 'you americans are very arrogant, do you think us chinese think about you? do I look like a daughter of a govt official? (basically another word for rich kid, or one that studies abroad), do you think making my eyes wider will make me less asian? how stupid!" this is an actual quote from last friday.
so you see, the 2 first girlfriends who are by far more westernized, have better english, and way more association with foreigners then my current gf, never mentioned the fold to me, but the current gf, who I am the first foreigner she has ever had contact with......is talking about the fold. it dawned on me, that its not to look western, thats some shyt we made up, she's doing it to blend in with the rest of the population. dark skinned blacks arent lightening their skin to look white, they lightening their skin to blend in with the rest of the population where chocolate brown is normal and more pleasing, or aesthetically more attractive. just like pale skin is usual and seen as sickly, so they tan. everyone wants to be in the middle, no one wants to be on the extreme spectrum of any race.
just look at dudes before and after pic. randomly go through some chinese ads
www.taobao.com look at their folds then look at his before and after folds. which fold do you see the most in the ads? its his after. imo dude looks like a typical chinese commercial model for old spice in his after pic, I see dudes like that naturally at the bars out here. his before pic looks like some loser that doesnt go out and get laid.