When someone regularly takes their stress out on their significant other..

[resurrection]

Is this just a natural evolution of marriage/relationships that we should all get used to?

Or is it problematic, abusive behavior that shouldn't be tolerated?

 

[Steve Piffler]

bottom line.

 

[ManxOfxThexYear]

You need to re-evaluate your relationship cause that's negative as fukk

 

[MikelArteta]

If a relationship is stressing you out and your not married with kids sever the ties

 

[resurrection]

Yeah it's just crazy.. I hear this so often esp from married people, that their partners stay coming home in a nasty ass mood taking it out on them. It almost seems like one of those things we are conditioned to just expect, like getting less sex over time. But that shyt really is unhealthy

 

[Solo ✧✦✧]

The lazy attitude of getting used to it and accepting it is an issue. There's no need to get used to it when people can find other ways to take out their stress. If someone has issues with stress then they should find an activity to release their stress and anger or find ways to calm themselves more.

 

[MAKAVELI25]

As long as it's in the bedroom.........

 

[The Mad Titan]

Unacceptable

Find something else to take your stress out on.

 

[Sandy_Cheeks]

People need to have healthy ways of managing stress. You don't take that shyt out on your partner or family.

 

[CinnaSlim]

It happens. But you both should be actively trying not too do that and apologize and make it up when you do.

Marriage is full of ups and downs and compromises and trying to make it work.

A metaphor that was told to me was. It's like when you put two rocks together in a bag or container. They have rough edges and they occasionally bump and scratch reach other but over time the edges become smooth as you learn to to navigate and get along with eachother. You can become comfortable. But it's like that with any relationship, the only difference is with marriage you've committed to putting the time in together.

However... each person needs to be just as giving and willing. Otherwise, if one rock is harder and less giving than the other it can end up pulverized the other.

 

[IShotTheSheriff]

Your number one goal should be your own happiness.

 

[Matt504]

it's not right but it's reality, very prevalent in the Black community in my experience especially in communities with a heavy police presence and officers who abuse people with impunity, Black people can't fight the police during the encounter without losing their freedom, after the encounters are over, the stress and rage is still there, who will they take it out on? other Black people in the community whether it's people living in the same house as you or someone you encounter on the way home.

 

[Steve Piffler]

It happens. But you both should be actively trying not too do that and apologize and make it up when you do.

Marriage is full of ups and downs and compromises and trying to make it work.

A metaphor that was told to me was. It's like when you put two rocks together in a bag or container. They have rough edges and they occasionally bump and scratch reach other but over time the edges become smooth as you learn to to navigate and get along with eachother. You can become comfortable. But it's like that with any relationship, the only difference is with marriage you've committed to putting the time in together.

However... each person needs to be just as giving and willing. Otherwise, if one rock is harder and less giving than the other it can end up pulverized the other.

i like that analogy....

i'm gonna steal it....

 

[benjamin]

Listen, this is life, things get stressful and the person nearest to you usually gets the bizzness because you are stressed. I have had times where on the job things get a little hectic, not meeting deadlines etc stuff like that. When I come home, my wife may get it sometimes, I might blow up on her and call her out her name, we fight and then an hour later we making up and all is well. Sometimes my ex is the one to get yelled at, I apologize to her and all is well. For the times when I really mess up, after we've made up I might take em both out to dinner or I might treat em to a movie but I always make sure things get back to normal because i want PEACE. Living with women(s) is not easy but I made a committment and I'm not bowing out just because things get rough, only weak men do that. We fight hard and love hard.