Which is worst: Over-appraising or Undervalueing yourself

[Stuntone]

Over-appraising yourself: Feeling that you're 9 or dime, but you can only pull 6s and 7s.

Undervaluing yourself: Feeling that your a 6 or 7, but you're pulling 8s and 9s

I feel that over-appraising yourself can led to a ton of disappointment and can leave you feeling like a failure. If you feel that you deserve to drive a Bentley and live in a fancy house, but you end up live in the project driving a 97 Galant.

I know that I'm a more happier person and feel more successful because I've never really had extremely high expectations. Probably bcuz I grew up poor and never thought I'd have the things that I have or date the caliber of women that I date.

I know society tells you to shoot for the stars, but that can be dangerous when can't get higher then the power-lines. Everyone can't make it big. That's why I don't knock any that decides they want a simple life, working a normal job and doing normal sh:t. That's why you seem to see more happy people in projects smashing chicks, no bills and just doing whatever.

 

[AAKing23]

Under Valuing yourself is worst, I would know I've done it to myself my whole life
You always end up selling yourself short, and end up settling for less

 

[MR. SNIFLES]

OVER VALUING I THINK. NOTHING WORSE THAN HEAR THAT NIKKA TALK SO HIGHLY OF THEMSELVES WHEN YOU KNOW THEY AIN'T shyt.

AT LEAST THE UNDERVALUING GUY SHUTS THE fukk UP.

 

[904]

Under Valuing yourself is worst, I would know I've done it to myself my whole life
You always end up selling yourself short, and end up settling for less

This right here... You may annoy people overvaluing yourself but your own happiness is most important in the long run..

 

[WaveCapsByOscorp™]

they're technically equally bad. it's just that over-valuing yourself is more apparent so it can be more annoying to see...

 

[Nintendough]

Always over value yourself. Confidence can rectify any weakness and push you to get something that on the surface might be beyond your means. Hardwork will always beat talent.

 

[Da_Eggman]

people's main attraction men or women in a person is always confidence

 

[Stuntone]

I'm not talking about trying to make other think you're more valuable, but making yourself think you're entitled to more.

 

[Cory MBA]

I'm not talking about trying to make other think you're more valuable, but making yourself think you're entitled to more.

Is this low self-esteem? I would not recommend that as a way to think.

But if you mean that one should manage his expectations (or even expect the worst), I can partly agree with that AS LONG AS the person still strives to be the best he can be....by setting and achieving some sort of personal goals.

I agree that living in the projects with minimal expectations can be easy....to those on the outside. But those who are there would want to escape that environment, if they could...some do, most don't.

 

[dr. pill biden]

I'm not talking about trying to make other think you're more valuable, but making yourself think you're entitled to more.

High self-esteem is never a bad thing. It's only someone else's second-hand, non-expert opinion that someone is "over"valuing themselves. Who made you the appraiser of shyt?

 

[Ain't That Something]

Under Valuing yourself is worst, I would know I've done it to myself my whole life
You always end up selling yourself short, and end up settling for less

But I Stop doing that shyt after H/S, now I love me some me

 

[MalickSyXShabbaz]

depends if you're overvaluing yourself to yourself, there's nothing wrong with that because we all do it to an extent. Delusion is what causes humanity to strive for greatness.

 

[Black Magisterialness]

people who undervalue themselves feel no need to be excellent. People who are over valuing, which like previously stated everyone does to an extent, can't stand to have less than what they expected.


However, gassed up chicks are the decay of american dating. Every woman on the planet isn't a 10 so stop expecting some ole Boris Kodjoe ass nikka with a 7 figure job 4 cars, a crib off the water and a serious pipe game...



The world don't work like that.

 

[MR. SNIFLES]

people who undervalue themselves feel no need to be excellent. People who are over valuing, which like previously stated everyone does to an extent, can't stand to have less than what they expected.


However, gassed up chicks are the decay of american dating. Every woman on the planet isn't a 10 so stop expecting some ole Boris Kodjoe ass nikka with a 7 figure job 4 cars, a crib off the water and a serious pipe game...



The world don't work like that.

ON THE FLIPSIDE GUYS SHOULD STOP EXPECTING A WOMAN THAT COOKS CLEANS WHILE WORKING AS MUCH AS YOU DO. THEN WANTING HER TO BE A FREAK IN THE BED WHILE HAVING NO MILEAGE AT ALL ON THE PUSS.

BOTH SIDES ARE BEING UNREALISTIC ABOUT RELATIONSHIPS. EVERYBODY WANTS EVERYTHING.

 

[Black Magisterialness]

ON THE FLIPSIDE GUYS SHOULD STOP EXPECTING A WOMAN THAT COOKS CLEANS WHILE WORKING AS MUCH AS YOU DO. THEN WANTING HER TO BE A FREAK IN THE BED WHILE HAVING NO MILEAGE AT ALL ON THE PUSS.

BOTH SIDES ARE BEING UNREALISTIC ABOUT RELATIONSHIPS. EVERYBODY WANTS EVERYTHING.

That's where me and most nikkas differ...I learned to cook myself so i didn't REQUIRE that of a female...i want who ever i fukks with to have a job...I also aint got no problem with mopping the floor or washing no dishes...My crib aint the cleanest in the world but im not gon live in filth thats with or without a woman.

I think truthfully men just want a woman thats gon hold them down mentally, physically and (in some cases) emotionally. People post 20 need to expect a woman to have SOME millage but by the time you get in ya mid 20's there's no excuse as to why you are still a slut. I don't pipe every chick i talk to...i dont expect anything more from a female than i do of myself.


next point...


STOP OVERRATING THE PUSS.....every girl is NOT good at sex so STOP THINKIN JUST CUZ YOU HAVE A VAGINA THAT YOU ARE AMAZING IN BED....BECAUSE YOU AREN'T!