Tommy_Gunn
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When my boyfriend got more successful in his job, he left me for a White Woman, because he said that black women are "too ghetto."
I never thought I would be posting in this subreddit, for the entire time me and my boyfriend have been together, it has been such a perfect relationship. We have grown through a lot of difficult problems, and I truly thought our relationship would weather past it all.
Let me start back when I first met my boyfriend, we were both in our senior year of college. My boyfriend was hopeless when it came to women, but we had a project in a business class we took together, and he was a really warm and nice spirited guy. We started talking and soon enough we were dating.
He had terrible fashion sense, still wore super baggy jeans, wore oversized T-shirts. I helped him out past all of that. And no I wasn't the overbearing girlfriend, he flat out asked me for my advice. This relationship wasn't just me assisting hiim, but I just want it to be known that I am not "some hood bytch", in fact he was probably more so.
After college, we both started working for accounting firms and we were apart from each other for a year. But then we both actually got a job at the same company so we stayed together in an apartment. This is really when things in our relationship started getting serious. Both of our parents and our family members both were talking about us getting married down the road. My boyfriend and I were making serious plans.
Then things hit busy season and a lot of our plans got pushed back. My boyfriend actually started getting promoted in the company and he actually was responsible for managing interns and it really started getting to his head. I could sense the distance between us growing.
The time when I knew things were bad, was when he had a training assignment out of state, and I went to contact him, and he would be annoyed at me reaching out to talk to him. It broke my heart, we were together for so long, and now, I was the crazy one for wanting to ask him how his training was going after three days not talking to each other.
When he came back we had an actual talk and he pointed things out. He said that moving up in the corporate world is hard enough as it is. And that I am not contributing anything to it. He said that I am "too ghetto" and that Black women have no class. He said that he has seen the girlfriends of his White friends and that the reason why he doesn't go to Company house parties and Holidy events is because of me. That I will embarass him with my nappy hair.
I cried so hard that night, I don't know how all of this happened. How did I go from a man that thought I was the best thing that ever happened in his life, to a man that thought he was too good for me. I just feel broken. I know our relationship even if we stay together will not be the same. A part of me really thinks that he just used me as a "step up" to get to the girls he always wanted.
On Instagram and porn, he always liked White womeen, but I just assumed that White people are the majority so hey its normal right? But now I am really starting to see him for what it really is. If he was to tell me, hey I find White women's physical features more attractive, I can atleast understand that. But he doesn't have the courage to do that, instead he had to degrade Black women saying that we aren't good enough.
A part of me is happy that I am not raising a daughter with a man that harbors these hateful views. But it doesn't take away the pain. I know this is ranty, and I know its a Friday night. But I wanted to mourn the loss of my 4 year relationship. Thanks for everyone who took time to read.
I never thought I would be posting in this subreddit, for the entire time me and my boyfriend have been together, it has been such a perfect relationship. We have grown through a lot of difficult problems, and I truly thought our relationship would weather past it all.
Let me start back when I first met my boyfriend, we were both in our senior year of college. My boyfriend was hopeless when it came to women, but we had a project in a business class we took together, and he was a really warm and nice spirited guy. We started talking and soon enough we were dating.
He had terrible fashion sense, still wore super baggy jeans, wore oversized T-shirts. I helped him out past all of that. And no I wasn't the overbearing girlfriend, he flat out asked me for my advice. This relationship wasn't just me assisting hiim, but I just want it to be known that I am not "some hood bytch", in fact he was probably more so.
After college, we both started working for accounting firms and we were apart from each other for a year. But then we both actually got a job at the same company so we stayed together in an apartment. This is really when things in our relationship started getting serious. Both of our parents and our family members both were talking about us getting married down the road. My boyfriend and I were making serious plans.
Then things hit busy season and a lot of our plans got pushed back. My boyfriend actually started getting promoted in the company and he actually was responsible for managing interns and it really started getting to his head. I could sense the distance between us growing.
The time when I knew things were bad, was when he had a training assignment out of state, and I went to contact him, and he would be annoyed at me reaching out to talk to him. It broke my heart, we were together for so long, and now, I was the crazy one for wanting to ask him how his training was going after three days not talking to each other.
When he came back we had an actual talk and he pointed things out. He said that moving up in the corporate world is hard enough as it is. And that I am not contributing anything to it. He said that I am "too ghetto" and that Black women have no class. He said that he has seen the girlfriends of his White friends and that the reason why he doesn't go to Company house parties and Holidy events is because of me. That I will embarass him with my nappy hair.
I cried so hard that night, I don't know how all of this happened. How did I go from a man that thought I was the best thing that ever happened in his life, to a man that thought he was too good for me. I just feel broken. I know our relationship even if we stay together will not be the same. A part of me really thinks that he just used me as a "step up" to get to the girls he always wanted.
On Instagram and porn, he always liked White womeen, but I just assumed that White people are the majority so hey its normal right? But now I am really starting to see him for what it really is. If he was to tell me, hey I find White women's physical features more attractive, I can atleast understand that. But he doesn't have the courage to do that, instead he had to degrade Black women saying that we aren't good enough.
A part of me is happy that I am not raising a daughter with a man that harbors these hateful views. But it doesn't take away the pain. I know this is ranty, and I know its a Friday night. But I wanted to mourn the loss of my 4 year relationship. Thanks for everyone who took time to read.