Hello Coli, breh's and Brettehs. I have a story followed by a question.
Before I met my girlfriend I was playing the field and trying to sleep with every woman I met. While that didn't always work out I did gain some insight into how "some" women see men.
I met this girl and we exchanged numbers. After a lot of texting I decided to call her like we used to do back in the day. (Before cellphone's) We got to talking about dates and I told her that I stopped paying for first dates because I wasn't trying to spend money on someone I don't know very well yet. And she told me as a man It's my job to pay for the date, now I hate being told what to do by people who aren't related to me or cutting my checks (And even then...) So I hit her with the "Well what do I get out of it?" And she promptly told me "You get my time." At that point a switch flipped in my head and I asked "Well what about my time, is that not important too." Now at this point she was attempting to deflect by saying "That's just the way it's done, but you can't expect anything when you're paying for a date." And "I say fair enough" "But why should I pay for someone who doesn't value my time?" "Why can't we go dutch." She then broke out the story of how hard women have it in a mans world, "
And I responded "What does that have to do with respecting each others time mutually? Why do I have to bring something extra when you just show up?" After a bit of this she finally understood.
Anyone else experience this? Was a being a miser in my explanation? Who should pay for the first date? Should It be dutch or what?
Before I met my girlfriend I was playing the field and trying to sleep with every woman I met. While that didn't always work out I did gain some insight into how "some" women see men.
I met this girl and we exchanged numbers. After a lot of texting I decided to call her like we used to do back in the day. (Before cellphone's) We got to talking about dates and I told her that I stopped paying for first dates because I wasn't trying to spend money on someone I don't know very well yet. And she told me as a man It's my job to pay for the date, now I hate being told what to do by people who aren't related to me or cutting my checks (And even then...) So I hit her with the "Well what do I get out of it?" And she promptly told me "You get my time." At that point a switch flipped in my head and I asked "Well what about my time, is that not important too." Now at this point she was attempting to deflect by saying "That's just the way it's done, but you can't expect anything when you're paying for a date." And "I say fair enough" "But why should I pay for someone who doesn't value my time?" "Why can't we go dutch." She then broke out the story of how hard women have it in a mans world, "
And I responded "What does that have to do with respecting each others time mutually? Why do I have to bring something extra when you just show up?" After a bit of this she finally understood.
Anyone else experience this? Was a being a miser in my explanation? Who should pay for the first date? Should It be dutch or what?
