Who Pays on a First Date?

[Wardo]

I pay. Reach in your pockets. Pay the bill..

 

[Wardo]

I pay. Reach in your pockets. Pay the bill..

 

[cocoabutter27]

Men invest money preparing for dates too so you're still down by 1. How can a man be a hunter and provider in a system where a woman has the ability to make more than him. You're being obtuse and hiding behind archaic language and convenience. My current girlfriend proved that she deserved to have later dates paid for by paying for her own food the first date. That's how I knew she wasn't after a free meal and that she was actually serious. Our first date was impromptu as we had just met earlier that day...a few hours before to be exact. So we invested the same amount of everything. People don't shack up these days because a man can kill a fukking mammoth. They do it because they know the person they're with can actually add the other half to their half. If you're living in the past that's cool but economics and education have changed and relationship dynamics along with it.

So you aren't going to be the hunter because a woman makes more?? Bottom line, if the woman is worth it to you then you don't mind paying for a date. A woman should not have to prove her worth to any man in order to get her food paid for. And yes, since I'm a traditional chick, I don't mind living in the past. It worked well for me.

 

[Neuromancer]

So you aren't going to be the hunter because a woman makes more?? Bottom line, if the woman is worth it to you then you don't mind paying for a date. A woman should not have to prove her worth to any man in order to get her food paid for. And yes, since I'm a traditional chick, I don't mind living in the past. It worked well for me.

Well we can agree to disagree then. What I'm doing is working in my relationship, so i guess it doesn't matter.

 

[Miss Lucifer's Love]

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Lmao! We need to make a perpetual bitter nikka thread.

I requested a Bitter Brehs forum where we should keep all this bullshyt but I got nothin.

 

[Larry Lambo]

Men should pay on the first date because regardless of what the media and some women themselves tell you, gender roles do still play a part in how we progress.

Men GENERALLY want to pick up the check to show the woman that they can provide. The entire "first date" is a period of feeling each other out. The man provides security that the woman feels safe, has a good time, gets taken care of financially (meal) and gets home safe. These are all signals that this can be a routine worth exploring. Leaving any doubt is bad news for the man.

WOMEN tend to respond positively to that because they are obviously out with you and there is a chance of reproduction down the line. Why is this important? Women are the ones who get pregnant, need time to recover and are the primary caregiver to the newborn baby. Men are in a much better position to return to work and keep the resources coming in.

NONE of this shyt is as complicated as people are trying to make it seem. There is nothing wrong with gender roles as long as there is respect and benefits being provided to each other.

Just STFU and pay the $60-$80 on the dinner and keep it moving. If you are broke work an extra shift, dumbass

I generally agree with what you're saying, but there are a lot of women who accept dates with little to no interest in a man. They either are using him for a free night on the town, an ego boost, or just to have a "squad" of men. If every woman only went out with men they found attractive and wanted to see if they could work on a romantic level, then these traditional gender roles make 100% sense. But many women go on dates for reasons other than that, men are falling back and rationalizing not going all out in the initial dating phase.

As I previously mentioned, my method of curbing this behavior is to go through a thorough vetting process before asking a woman out. But that's me. Some guys would rather just invest less upfront until she shows true interest.

 

[MarloStanTrill]

First dates are normally 75$

yeah, for hookers and johns-- I havent been on a date in 15 years

If i DONT KNOW a bytch: its lets "chill", smoke n drank

If I KNOW A BYTCH: Its come thru

If you my girl: then I only wife women who appreciate home cooking

 

[MarloStanTrill]

I requested a Bitter Brehs forum where we should keep all this bullshyt but I got nothin.

Sounds like a little bitter yourself.Most men I know who DONT pay are far from bitter...We happy bc we got tha girl and keep our $$$

 

[Larry Lambo]

yeah, for hookers and johns-- I havent been on a date in 15 years

If i DONT KNOW a bytch: its lets "chill", smoke n drank

If I KNOW A BYTCH: Its come thru

If you my girl: then I only wife women who appreciate home cooking

So do you get women you don't know to come through for smoke and drank? What's the quality of these women down for that?

If you were in the 18-25 range I could see it, but after 30, it seems to be difficult to get quality women to come to your place right off the bat.

I'm not challenging what you're saying but just want to learn how you are pulling this off.

 

[jwonder]

Close thread. On the real tho, my father told me that men should not invest copious amounts of money in a woman early on. That's prostitution. Which is exactly what u described.

LMAO! Instead he should go on little outings to get to know her. Then you can begin truly dating.

But see this goes back to what I was discussing with @Nelomaxwell in another thread. Courtship should work both ways. I've never had a guy even bring this up with me. So I feel sorry for any girl trying to date these internet dudes.

Men have always paid for me on dates. But I try to find ways to take care of them in return as well. I'm not the chick that will suck your dyck in exchange for a date because im not a prostitute. But any man that invests the time and effort in me will always receive the same time and effort in return.

I like doing little shyt and surprising people with stuff. The key is to date generous people.

I've said that plenty of times what you wrote in the first paragraph.

When first meeting there shouldn't be alot of money involve. You should be getting to know each other. Then from there you can up the outings.

Plus you made a great point when you said you take care of a guy and doesn't mean sex. It's a two way street.