http://thyblackman.com/2011/12/16/why-black-men-dont-go-to-church/comment-page-1/#comment-16903
I contend that brothers don’t go to church more because our churches aren’t designed as places of worship FOR MEN. Everything about the way it’s set up and orchestrated is designed to play on the nurturing, communal sensibilities of females. Holding hands. Singing gospel love songs to Jesus. Emotionally driven preaching and yelling. Speaking of Jesus in terms that are purely feminine in nature.
“He’s the LOVER of my soul…Rock me in thine bosom Jesus…”
Men aren’t that keen on holding hands; especially with a strange dude. And singing about loving another man is outright uncomfortable…especially when half the dudes who are present on a Sunday morning look as if they’re already struggling with homosexuality.
Not saying that men shouldn’t love Jesus. But if your goal is to attract more men and not repel them, we should take note that we’re speaking to MEN when we talk about the Lord.
Which leads me to my next point: ninety percent of the teaching and preaching is geared to empower women. When the pastor typically speaks to the congregation, he almost always addresses the WOMEN. Check it out for yourself. The only difference is when he’s in a chastising tone; that’s when he usually addresses the men directly.
This is not done by accident. The insidious tone of feminism that has taken hold on the greater society has also crept unchecked into our churches. So now you have churches filled with a bunch of Ms. Independents, who are being catered to by pastors who desire to keep them coming and giving every Sunday.
In business you tend to cater to your demographic. This is also true for churches. Think about it from a purely financial standpoint: if 70 percent of the givers in your church are women, in order to keep the bills paid and extra money flowing in, you have to cater to THAT segment. It’s a tactic that works for making money. But it’s disastrous for nation-building.
What’s more, it has NOTHING to do with God, Christ, the bible or the Holy Spirit. It’s a worldly tactic used by many pastors to keep the churches full of giving, admiring, crying, singing and dancing women. And it doesn’t take a rocket scientist to figure this out.
Question for you: have you noticed the kind of suits many pastors wear nowadays? Bright yellow…red and black pin striped with red leather gators to match…zuit suits… Again: this ain’t by accident. These things are designed to impress easily impressionable women. It’s a tactic used by pimps when they’re out campaigning for new girls to fill their stables. And it too has crept unchecked into the churches. Not saying a pastor can’t look good. But there’s a fine line between looking good and drawing attention to YOURSELF and away from God.
You also said that black men don’t go to church because they ain’t really feeling a God they can’t see. But that doesn’t explain why black Muslim men worship a god faithfully that they can’t see either. Faithfully.
You also said black men don’t go to church because they got better things to do with their time. Again: Muslim men attend masjid for prayer FIVE TIMES A DAY when possible, and attend the larger gathering every Friday, come hell or high water. So obviously black men aren’t as time sensitive as you suggest.
The truth is: mature black men are a lot smarter than we’re given credit for. We don’t like scams, or anything that looks like a scam. We don’t like being played for a fool. And we definitely ain’t following anything that’s gay or anti-male. Misandry in the church has got to end!
In the military, when something goes wrong out in the field the higher ups don’t chastise the lowly recruit: they call the leadership to task. The reason why there’s so many gays at church is because true masculinity is lacking. And this has nothing to do with the quality of men attending: it has everything to do with the pastor’s style of leadership. Iron sharpens iron.
Real leaders replicate themselves in those who follow them. This is a sad commentary on what I see in churches as I travel the country, because it seems like all these modern day pastors are able to replicate are flaky women and queers.
You can’t get more masculine than the military. But gays now proliferate there too…because the LEADERSHIP allows them to openly represent their sexual preference for sleeping with men. The average recruit you talk to hates it. But the power to change things lies with those in charge, just as it always has. So demonizing men for NOT wanting to be in a place that’s obviously pro-gay, like many churches are, is a little disingenuous.
During the 50’s and 60’s, there were typically as many black men present in church as there were women. But something happened in the 70’s and 80’s that drastically changed all that: churches became decidedly pro-women’s lib and anti-male. Just like the world. They became lax on standards of holiness and allowed homosexuals who played good music to come in and take leadership roles. And once they did this, they forfeited their right to win the hearts and minds of true solid men.
Men exited churches in droves, and pastors found that by catering to women they could keep their bills paid and build a nice nest egg as well. If any men joined, that was a nice bonus; but the marketing (preaching, teaching, music and church decor) would remain decidedly feminine.
So yes, men will go out and drop crazy money on sporting events. Because it’s one of the last bastions of masculinity left in this godless nation. And considering how all these athletes are starting to wear PINK nowadays, I’m not sure how much longer that will last either.
BTW: the political system is BEYOND flawed. But votes are still necessary, especially at the local level where change will be felt at the most.
Great chopping it up with you bruh…
