It's not a deflection

decent men don't try to rationalize or defend that kind of behavior from other men. Decent women who don't do a lot of wrong will try and defend women who do and then call it "solidarity amongst women" and it's pathetic, I notice it a lot especially in present day and within my family, if solidarity is giving other members of your gender a pass for reckless behavior that effects your life and the lives of other people around you that "solidarity" is nothing more than a circle of enablers, such behavior is child like.