Why do married/involved Women go to the club.....

[mcdivit85]

So is the issue her going to the bar or going out in general? I agree a woman who is involved or married shouldn't be "running the streets" but if her once a month or bi-weekly outing is at a bar/club then I don't see that as a big deal. There are a great deal of women that manage to leave the club without having made plans to hook up with someone...you girl COULD be her.

Bi-weekly is pretty regular for a married woman to be at a club though

Peace

 

[mcdivit85]

As Black men, I feel we really need to think about stress as it relates to our health and happiness.
I used to be insecure about these types of situations. But over time, I realized that my happiness was always put on the back burner for a chick. I mean, I always made sure that the women in my life were ALWAYS HAPPY.

My ex wife would frequently go out with the girls. And I would stay up late as fukk stressing out. Wondering what the fukk she was doing and with who. And she would thank me for waiting up for her. And look what happened....we still broke up.

The point is that if you don't include your woman in the shyt you enjoy.....the shyt that makes you happy....you're gonna lose her.

If you "allow" her to frequently go out with the girls, you're gonna lose her. Matter of fact, you're basically fighting over her with dudes you may never see face to face.

And that equals stress. And that stress will eventually kill you.

And when you end up dead or in jail because of stress, guess what your girl is gonna do.

Your happiness comes first.

And if you got a ride or die chick, she'll understand that.

Bro, you came up. Sounds like you shook a half way chick. Nothing worse than that type of female. So, at the end of the day, you won.

Peace

 

[Rawtid]

Bi-weekly is pretty regular for a married woman to be at a club though

Peace

Occurring every two weeks. So that's like two times a month.

 

[Mowgli]

Alot of people got married to say they got married. Not because they're ready for family

 

[mcdivit85]

Occurring every two weeks. So that's like two times a month.

It just seems odd for a married woman to go out to a club every other weekend.

It would seem like she's making it a habit to a place built for singles when she is not single. Unless she wants to be single two nights a month.

I have no issue with someone going out with friends to the club/lounge for special events i.e. birthdays, bachelorette parties, etc. But every other weekend?

She could go, but she would be single after a few months.

Peace

 

[Groanman]

My closing statement on this........

I learned that I am more valuable than any woman I happen to be with.
I am the shyt.
I am the BESS.

And if you're my woman, you'll know everyday is a blessing for you to be with me.
It's an honor to even be in my presence.

Sure, I'll cuddle with you.
I'll show you a damn good time when we're together.
I'll make you feel like a woman.
I want you to feel and look good because you represent me at all times.
And I feel and look good.

That's if.....and only if you're a woman who does right by me.
But, if you habitually cross lines that I clearly define, it's okay. You can step.

I understand that women test men.
I understand that women will do and say shyt just to make me swerve off the road. (like your goof'ass friend who suddenly jerks the steering wheel when you're driving)

I understand all of this.
And if I think you're a worthy chick, I won't blow my top in response to your bullshyt.
I'll either side step it or "agree" with you just to defuse your emotional situation.

I give thanks to imaginary Jesus everyday because I live in Miami Florida.
There's so many women to choose from, it's rigoddamndiculous.

Bottom line, I give thanks to my ex wife.
Because before I was with her and while I was with her, my self esteem was extremely low.
I did shyt to make women happy all the time.
The more I did, the more they wanted.
And they never reciprocated.
I had to impress them just to get them in the first place.
Then I had to continually impress them throughout the relationships.

Something happened with my ex and this conversation took place.....

Her: "I just want to be happy and you're not making me happy."
Me: "Well, what are you doing to make me happy?"
Her: "I'm here."
Me:


Translation.......she had no answer. That's when I realized that I had to man up for myself because the way I had been operating was not working.

In closing, if your girl wants to party all the time Eddie Murphy-style, let her.
Stand your ass up straight and find a chick who'll be into the shyt you enjoy.
Find a chick who is worthy of your sacrifices for her.

A lot of ngas sacrifice their time and money and health on unworthy chicks who think their mere presence is enough.

fukk that shyt. Life's too short to be stuck in a relationship cubicle.

I rest my case, your honor and dem.

 

[MikelArteta]

My nukka

My closing statement on this........

I learned that I am more valuable than any woman I happen to be with.
I am the shyt.
I am the BESS.

And if you're my woman, you'll know everyday is a blessing for you to be with me.
It's an honor to even be in my presence.

Sure, I'll cuddle with you.
I'll show you a damn good time when we're together.
I'll make you feel like a woman.
I want you to feel and look good because you represent me at all times.
And I feel and look good.

That's if.....and only if you're a woman who does right by me.
But, if you habitually cross lines that I clearly define, it's okay. You can step.

I understand that women test men.
I understand that women will do and say shyt just to make me swerve off the road. (like your goof'ass friend who suddenly jerks the steering wheel when you're driving)

I understand all of this.
And if I think you're a worthy chick, I won't blow my top in response to your bullshyt.
I'll either side step it or "agree" with you just to defuse your emotional situation.

I give thanks to imaginary Jesus everyday because I live in Miami Florida.
There's so many women to choose from, it's rigoddamndiculous.

Bottom line, I give thanks to my ex wife.
Because before I was with her and while I was with her, my self esteem was extremely low.
I did shyt to make women happy all the time.
The more I did, the more they wanted.
And they never reciprocated.
I had to impress them just to get them in the first place.
Then I had to continually impress them throughout the relationships.

Something happened with my ex and this conversation took place.....

Her: "I just want to be happy and you're not making me happy."
Me: "Well, what are you doing to make me happy?"
Her: "I'm here."
Me:


Translation.......she had no answer. That's when I realized that I had to man up for myself because the way I had been operating was not working.

In closing, if your girl wants to party all the time Eddie Murphy-style, let her.
Stand your ass up straight and find a chick who'll be into the shyt you enjoy.
Find a chick who is worthy of your sacrifices for her.

A lot of ngas sacrifice their time and money and health on unworthy chicks who think their mere presence is enough.

fukk that shyt. Life's too short to be stuck in a relationship cubicle.

I rest my case, your honor and dem.

 

[Malta]

It's for attention, all these broads in here using the same old tired "To dance with my friends" bullshyt, that's like the company line for women. You got your titties out, your skin tight leggings on, your best weave and a ton of makeup, who you trying to look good for and the company line is always "for myself" yeah right bytch, in order to look good you need an audience to judge.

I'll tell you straight up, you go to the club often and I'm not fukking with you There are far more women in the world than there are dudes like me, I'm the commodity and every chick I been with has lived under my conditions and not vice versa. You wanna go to the club like that, be single and free, dance away the sorrows of losing a nikka like me and end up a single mom in the process.

 

[Diondon]

It's an honor to even be in my presence.

.

Finally, someone gets it

 

[Rawtid]

It just seems odd for a married woman to go out to a club every other weekend.

It would seem like she's making it a habit to a place built for singles when she is not single. Unless she wants to be single two nights a month.

I have no issue with someone going out with friends to the club/lounge for special events i.e. birthdays, bachelorette parties, etc. But every other weekend?

She could go, but she would be single after a few months.

Peace

Are we talking the entire weekend or just a Friday or Saturday twice a month? 2 days out of the month is really not a big deal to me for someone that wants to go to the club/lounge/bar or whatever. I just want to reemphasize that I'm talking DAYS. No, it's not not a good look to club the entire weekend, every other weekend.

 

[Kenny West]

It's for attention, all these broads in here using the same old tired "To dance with my friends" bullshyt, that's like the company line for women. You got your titties out, your skin tight leggings on, your best weave and a ton of makeup, who you trying to look good for and the company line is always "for myself" yeah right bytch, in order to look good you need an audience to judge.

I'll tell you straight up, you go to the club often and I'm not fukking with you There are far more women in the world than there are dudes like me, I'm the commodity and every chick I been with has lived under my conditions and not vice versa. You wanna go to the club like that, be single and free, dance away the sorrows of losing a nikka like me and end up a single mom in the process.

The trillest:wowzer:

close the damn thread:wowie:

 

[Elle Driver]

It's for attention, all these broads in here using the same old tired "To dance with my friends" bullshyt, that's like the company line for women. You got your titties out, your skin tight leggings on, your best weave and a ton of makeup, who you trying to look good for and the company line is always "for myself" yeah right bytch, in order to look good you need an audience to judge.

I'll tell you straight up, you go to the club often and I'm not fukking with you There are far more women in the world than there are dudes like me, I'm the commodity and every chick I been with has lived under my conditions and not vice versa. You wanna go to the club like that, be single and free, dance away the sorrows of losing a nikka like me and end up a single mom in the process.

Lmao. You're something else man.

 

[BedRoomI'z]

My closing statement on this........

I learned that I am more valuable than any woman I happen to be with.
I am the shyt.
I am the BESS.

And if you're my woman, you'll know everyday is a blessing for you to be with me.
It's an honor to even be in my presence.

Sure, I'll cuddle with you.
I'll show you a damn good time when we're together.
I'll make you feel like a woman.
I want you to feel and look good because you represent me at all times.
And I feel and look good.

That's if.....and only if you're a woman who does right by me.
But, if you habitually cross lines that I clearly define, it's okay. You can step.

I understand that women test men.
I understand that women will do and say shyt just to make me swerve off the road. (like your goof'ass friend who suddenly jerks the steering wheel when you're driving)

I understand all of this.
And if I think you're a worthy chick, I won't blow my top in response to your bullshyt.
I'll either side step it or "agree" with you just to defuse your emotional situation.

I give thanks to imaginary Jesus everyday because I live in Miami Florida.
There's so many women to choose from, it's rigoddamndiculous.

Bottom line, I give thanks to my ex wife.
Because before I was with her and while I was with her, my self esteem was extremely low.
I did shyt to make women happy all the time.
The more I did, the more they wanted.
And they never reciprocated.
I had to impress them just to get them in the first place.
Then I had to continually impress them throughout the relationships.

Something happened with my ex and this conversation took place.....

Her: "I just want to be happy and you're not making me happy."
Me: "Well, what are you doing to make me happy?"
Her: "I'm here."
Me:


Translation.......she had no answer. That's when I realized that I had to man up for myself because the way I had been operating was not working.

In closing, if your girl wants to party all the time Eddie Murphy-style, let her.
Stand your ass up straight and find a chick who'll be into the shyt you enjoy.
Find a chick who is worthy of your sacrifices for her.

A lot of ngas sacrifice their time and money and health on unworthy chicks who think their mere presence is enough.

fukk that shyt. Life's too short to be stuck in a relationship cubicle.

I rest my case, your honor and dem.

Beautiful.

 

[mcdivit85]

It's for attention, all these broads in here using the same old tired "To dance with my friends" bullshyt, that's like the company line for women. You got your titties out, your skin tight leggings on, your best weave and a ton of makeup, who you trying to look good for and the company line is always "for myself" yeah right bytch, in order to look good you need an audience to judge.

I'll tell you straight up, you go to the club often and I'm not fukking with you There are far more women in the world than there are dudes like me, I'm the commodity and every chick I been with has lived under my conditions and not vice versa. You wanna go to the club like that, be single and free, dance away the sorrows of losing a nikka like me and end up a single mom in the process.

Let these hoes know

Peace

 

[Mac]

Does your husband go out to clubs with his friends? Or does he go to Dave N Busters to watch the game?

Because that's two totally different environments in the "going out" thing.

Peace

Either place, it's fine with me. We have open lines of communication and seldomly, do we go out to clubs, it's not really fun after a while.We mostly stay at home together, invite people over, or go to someone's home. IMO, If your secure in your relationship and doing everything your supposed to do at home, you shouldn't feel insecure. Not everyone is living like me, I'm good and so is he...