Give it a few weeks/months they'll have a lot more free time 
Why do nikkas abandon their friends when they got a girlfriend.
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Kenyan West
lazy fba philly nikka,
Because it's the natural course of things for a heterosexual man. When you and your boys are single, you spend your time being aimless, intoxicated, spittin at trollops and playing 2k for YEARS. It's pure recreation, not much emotional growth. It gets old. We love our male friends (pause) but they ain't going anywhere. Every outing becomes predictable.
As they say, behind a great man is a great woman. When you get a solid woman, you have more responsibilities, you evolve and you plan for greater things. Kids, living together, marriage, courtship, dating, business, working, sex. Shyt takes a crazy amount of time, energy and effort.
Abandoning your male friends completely for your woman isn't ideal, of course. But I strongly disagree that your woman's time and your boys time should be balanced. When I was single, I met up with the boys for drinks every weekend, sometimes happy hour during the week. Now, I talk to them pretty much everyday in the group chat, but I may see them in person probably twice a month. The rest of my free time is split between myself and my girl.
A grown ass man should completely understand and respect why the boys fall back when they get in relationship and not take it personally. Just get your own girl and chop it up with the boys whenever everyone's time is in alignment.
As they say, behind a great man is a great woman. When you get a solid woman, you have more responsibilities, you evolve and you plan for greater things. Kids, living together, marriage, courtship, dating, business, working, sex. Shyt takes a crazy amount of time, energy and effort.
Abandoning your male friends completely for your woman isn't ideal, of course. But I strongly disagree that your woman's time and your boys time should be balanced. When I was single, I met up with the boys for drinks every weekend, sometimes happy hour during the week. Now, I talk to them pretty much everyday in the group chat, but I may see them in person probably twice a month. The rest of my free time is split between myself and my girl.
A grown ass man should completely understand and respect why the boys fall back when they get in relationship and not take it personally. Just get your own girl and chop it up with the boys whenever everyone's time is in alignment.
Diondon
Thanks to the lawyers uh, I marbled the foyer
Because she told him to stop hanging with you 
Yaboysix
That nikka
I feel you breh.. I unnecessarily turn up on loved ones who try to tell me about how spoiled of a brat my 11 year old son is..
We be trippin sometimes...
KillerB88
Superstar
nikka balance doesn't always mean 50/50. You typed all that shyt out just to say your life has balance, which is the only argument any one here is trying to make. If you're good, your girl is good, and your nikkas not tripping-- congrats! You've achieved balance.Because it's the natural course of things for a heterosexual man. When you and your boys are single, you spend your time being aimless, intoxicated, spittin at trollops and playing 2k for YEARS. It's pure recreation, not much emotional growth. It gets old. We love our male friends (pause) but they ain't going anywhere. Every outing becomes predictable.
As they say, behind a great man is a great woman. When you get a solid woman, you have more responsibilities, you evolve and you plan for greater things. Kids, living together, marriage, courtship, dating, business, working, sex. Shyt takes a crazy amount of time, energy and effort.
Abandoning your male friends completely for your woman isn't ideal, of course. But I strongly disagree that your woman's time and your boys time should be balanced. When I was single, I met up with the boys for drinks every weekend, sometimes happy hour during the week. Now, I talk to them pretty much everyday in the group chat, but I may see them in person probably twice a month. The rest of my free time is split between myself and my girl.
A grown ass man should completely understand and respect why the boys fall back when they get in relationship and not take it personally. Just get your own girl and chop it up with the boys whenever everyone's time is in alignment.
Its a few reasons. Some women (and men too) are needy and can be needy af. Relationships can be headaches or at least time consuming whereas u gotta do shyt for ur lady even some things that don't interest u.
Then it can get hard balancing shyt in life. Like how when u have kids let alone multiple kids. Some people get so consumed in their relationship or marriage whereas their friendships, family relationships and other associations take back seat. Its hard sometimes to balance shyt.
Its best if u on the same page with ur boys....like y'all both have relationships or y'all both have kids whereas y'all gf's/wives and/or y'all kids can hang all together. Not saying u have to be that aligned with each other but it helps....
Then it can get hard balancing shyt in life. Like how when u have kids let alone multiple kids. Some people get so consumed in their relationship or marriage whereas their friendships, family relationships and other associations take back seat. Its hard sometimes to balance shyt.
Its best if u on the same page with ur boys....like y'all both have relationships or y'all both have kids whereas y'all gf's/wives and/or y'all kids can hang all together. Not saying u have to be that aligned with each other but it helps....
BaldingSoHard
Banned
Same reason nikkas "abandon" their friends when they have a child.
I'll let you make the connection.
I'll let you make the connection.