Idk idc about what others think, but as i get older, the more those terms especially the way theyre use gets on my nerves.
EDIT* Maybe i was lucky, but i was never raised to believe in shyt "they make us look bad", like criminals would never make feel bad about myself nor would they make me cast judgement on a whole race.
Tho the answer lies in the fact(contradiction coming) we generally speak in a visceral raw manner, unlike others who speak in code, so when we say something it hits deep and that can be a double edge sword for us and for other groups it might come across as a double standard considering some of the reasons why they have to be covert in their language