Why do people deny the fact that relationships are largely about physical attraction/lust?

[FreedS[ohh]lave]

I always find it funny when people say looks shouldn't be the number 1 factor or even a big factor in picking someone out to have a relationship with

All this "it's all about compatibly connection chemistry" etc and finding your soulmate is horsesh1t sure those play a part but none of them is as important as the traits I mentioned

What held most of my relationships and others together was the lust we had for one another. Whenever we fought the fact that we wanted to still rip each others clothes off was the glue that stopped us from breaking up. It's the same way in marriages as well. Sex is the biggest part of a relationship

If it's strictly about soulmates then you'd date someone you weren't all that attracted to then

I've had one or two women who were my "soulmates" in the sense that I could talk to them for hours about anything we got along amazingly well had similliar interests they were also sweet and treated me like a king but I had no attraction to them.

My relationships sure I had a good connection and could talk to them but it was nothing like the women I just mentioned but I was attracted to these women therefore it was enough to maintain a relationship.

The person you get into a relationship and/or marry isn't your soulmate or the person you get along with the best or even love the most it's the person that you are physically in lust with and also happen to get along with them

 

[Solo ✧✦✧]

I do agree with the point about people lying when they claim that looks don't matter or that caring about looks is shallow but chemistry is a big part of a relationship. How largely attraction matters is different for each person. Some people just be lying and are being dishonest when they claim to not care about looks.

That's exactly why when people get with people they consider average or unattractive they end up either cheating or giving up on the relationship eventually because of regret. When I hear somebody claim that looks don't matter or looks aren't important they've either given up on being able to get attractive women or they just have low standards and are desperate for any type of companionship.

 

[AB Ziggy]

OP is right. At least in the honeymoon stage.

At some point, you need new p*ssy.

 

[TinFoilSnapBack]

It's mostly women who deny this, and they are the biggest culprits of it. They are way more shallow than men.

The average guy is cool with an ok-looking broad who treats him right and gives up the pum pum.

The average woman (especially sistas) won't even look twice at a guy who doesn't fulfill her fantasies, and make her wet on sight. Yet, they are the main ones talking about the "compatibly, connection, chemistry" bullshyt.

Men acknowledge that looks are a factor, but we will rock out with an average-looking chick who treats us right.

 

[R.E.N. Spells Ren]

Looks are a pass/fail mechanism, but beyond that they're unimportant. If I'm not attracted to you, that's a non-starter, but other than that looks don't matter.

Meaning the looks of a solid 9 is not going to put her on better standing than a solid 7 if she's deficient in other areas.

 

[010101]

looks are a result of your bloodline moving properly

& naturally that's what counts

health is wealth & you pass your endowment or your debt down genetically

uggamuggas finessed it & put out a bunch of false doctrine based on sentimentality

everything is physical

you can't get deeper than the most shallow mind

that's the individual who sees and accepts life for what it really is

*

 

[DPresidential]

I don't think most people actually deny this.

It's about what the topic - specifically - is about.

When it comes to first impressions, instant attraction and intrigue - yes, it's probably the most powerful factor.

When it comes to dating casually or strictly physical type relationships - yes, it's definitely the most powerful factor.

Now, if you've gotten to the point where you are actively looking for a long term commitment that can lead to marriage or a lifelong bond - no one is saying physical attraction isn't a component. However, the most important factor when looking at relationships as a marathon instead of a sprint? Whether this person actually makes you feel good about yourself, your relationship, and your future.

When you're 70 - that memory of her 24 year old beautiful phat ass isn't going to keep you from jumping out the window because you can't stand her.

The point is, when thinking long term, don't just try to bush a potential mate that has made you LOVE being around them because of their support, friendship and personality because the physical attraction isn't eyes popping out of your head and instant erection vibe.

 

[Worthless Loser]

This is why women stay with dudes that treat them like shyt no matter how many times they say they gonna leave.

 

[Take It In Blood]

NO ONE REALLY LOVES ANYONE IT IS ALL BASED ON SEXUAL ATTRACTION LUST


IF YOU THINK YOU REALLY LOVE YOUR WIFE/HUSBAND THEN WHAT IF THEY DECIDE ONE DAY THAT THEY WANT A SEX CHANGE AND BECOME A JANE/JOHN DOE?


DO YOU LOVE YOUR SPOUSE SO MUCH THAT YOU'RE WILLING TO TAKE A NEWLY CREATED D1CK UP YOUR ASS FROM YOUR FORMER WIFE WHO IS NOW A MAN?

TONGUE KISSING A THE TRANNY WHO USED TO BE YOUR WIFE BUT NOW HAS A MAN BEARD AND A MUSCULAR PHYSIQUE?


THE ANSWER IS PROBABLY NO, and that's because your relationship is BASED ON LUST/HER t*ts AND VAGINA


AND IF IT'S YES THEN IT MEANS YOU REALLY LOVED THAT PERSON

 

[NotAnFBIagent]

NO ONE REALLY LOVES ANYONE IT IS ALL BASED ON SEXUAL ATTRACTION LUST


IF YOU THINK YOU REALLY LOVE YOUR WIFE/HUSBAND THEN WHAT IF THEY DECIDE ONE DAY THAT THEY WANT A SEX CHANGE AND BECOME A JANE/JOHN DOE?


DO YOU LOVE YOUR SPOUSE SO MUCH THAT YOU'RE WILLING TO TAKE A NEWLY CREATED D1CK UP YOUR ASS FROM YOUR FORMER WIFE WHO IS NOW A MAN?

TONGUE KISSING A THE TRANNY WHO USED TO BE YOUR WIFE BUT NOW HAS A MAN BEARD AND A MUSCULAR PHYSIQUE?


THE ANSWER IS PROBABLY NO, and that's because your relationship is BASED ON LUST/HER t*ts AND VAGINA


AND IF IT'S YES THEN IT MEANS YOU REALLY LOVED THAT PERSON

Post gay af

 

[DPresidential]

I'M UPSET THAT I'M NOT LOVED SO I TYPE LIKE THIS.

Breh, chill.

Much of the hypothetical situations you mentioned are based on lies so that could make a person fall out of love with that individual.

Also, if what you say it true, why is it that there are people who are 90 years old and wrinkly and old as hell, lost all of their attractiveness and still down for each other?

Based on what you're saying, once a person's looks fade, it's a wrap for the relationship. That does happen but it isn't the fate of everyone.n

Love or lifelong bonds are real, breh.

 

[Take It In Blood]

Breh, chill.

Much of the hypothetical situations you mentioned are based on lies so that could make a person fall out of love with that individual.

Also, if what you say it true, why is it that there are people who are 90 years old and wrinkly and old as hell, lost all of their attractiveness and still down for each other?

Based on what you're saying, once a person's looks fade, it's a wrap for the relationship. That does happen but it isn't the fate of everyone.n

Love or lifelong bonds are real, breh.

It's all facts, if the so called love of your life decided to get a sex change after 10 yrs of marriage and become a man you'd drop her like a hot potato

Lets just keep it a bean

I thought she was ur soul mate breh.

Not upset about anything, just poking holes in peoples hypocritical ways of thinking

 

[Bumblebreh]

I do agree with the point about people lying when they claim that looks don't matter or that caring about looks is shallow but chemistry is a big part of a relationship. How largely attraction matters is different for each person. Some people just be lying and are being dishonest when they claim to not care about looks.

That's exactly why when people get with people they consider average or unattractive they end up either cheating or giving up on the relationship eventually because of regret. When I hear somebody claim that looks don't matter or looks aren't important they've either given up on being able to get attractive women or they just have low standards and are desperate for any type of companionship.

I do think that it can stem much deeper if we were to look at sexual chemistry within your prime years but it does baffle me in why a person would even bother to be in a relationship with someone who is unattractive.
Looks are very important but there does come a point in which looks cannot really do much to keep the relationship going when things do start to crumble.
Regardless of how bad a chick might look if she really gets on your nerves, she can turn sexy to unattractive in a quick second.
You can witness examples of attractive qualities that go beyond looks and hence in why you will see people who are less attractive but are with someone who is really attractive.
A chick might be average or homely but she might have an attractive aura and an attractive personalty that draws you in.
As men we are naturally taught to seek out the baddest chicks but they are chicks we can lust over and sleep with but that does not mean we would want to start a relationship with such women and it sounds fukked but I am just being real.

 

[Rawtid]

Looks not mattering and not being the deciding factor in someone you want to go long term with are two different things. I think people overrate their attraction and often times when they feel they are settling, they've found someone right on target with looks.

With that said, I think it's stupid to choose someone simply based off looks, if you're desiring long time. Relationships take a maturity in a sense because you have to value the progress you make together over sex and looks. Find you someone that won't fukk you over and goals align with your goals. They may be "uglier" than you feel you deserve, but if so, dress them up and keep their hair and nails done.

 

[Solo ✧✦✧]

I do think that it can stem much deeper if we were to look at sexual chemistry within your prime years but it does baffle me in why a person would even bother to be in a relationship with someone who is unattractive.
Looks are very important but there does come a point in which looks cannot really do much to keep the relationship going when things do start to crumble.
Regardless of how bad a chick might look if she really gets on your nerves, she can turn sexy to unattractive in a quick second.
You can witness examples of attractive qualities that go beyond looks and hence in why you will see people who are less attractive but are with someone who is really attractive.
A chick might be average or homely but she might have an attractive aura and an attractive personalty that draws you in.
As men we are naturally taught to seek out the baddest chicks but they are chicks we can lust over and sleep with but that does not mean we would want to start a relationship with such women and it sounds fukked but I am just being real.

Aura and personality isn't enough unless someone has low standards for looks because it's not difficult to find an attractive woman that you're able to get along with. It's not about choosing either the baddest women or plain average women. There's a between area that people overlook. Anybody with reasonable standards that are neither too high or too low can find an attractive woman that they can get along with. People online act like it has to be one or the other when it's possible to just find both. I've never felt like I have to settle for average or plain looking women because the best looking women have terrible personalities.