Why do some people obsess over the thought of their partner cheating on them?

[KeysT]

Insecurity.
I been there, but for me it was different. Over time after finding out she cheated it started turning me on.
I used to be home in bed at night and her not texting bac den in my mind instead of being upset i was like "damn i bet her baby daddy diccin her down somethin serious right now

Wait breh..you didnt just say that... did you?

 

[Theraflu]

But how do you go through life only wanting one thing from the opposite sex? There's more to relationships than sex. That's why cheating hurts and people become obsessed.

Can't go through life thinking so poorly of the opposite sex. What's the point then?

he doesn't just think low of the opposite sex he think's low of himself.....

clearly not raised in a good home....

 

[FreedMind]

My girlfriend had really heavy jealousy issues when we first started going out, and I think it could have been due to a variety of reasons.

I think the biggest reason though, is that I doubt she ever really had someone like me in her life. She comes from a single parent home, and while she sees her father frequently, he is not that invested in her life, as he's had 3 other children to take care of with his step wife.

Her mom can be extremely demanding, especially because she's beginning to age and also struggling financially. As a result, their relationship is strained almost daily, although they definitely care about each other. She's just always expected to cook dinner, clean the house etc, which stresses her out.

Her sister set a fairly poor example for her as well, as she didn't graduate on time and basically lives (or lived anyways) an 'edgy' hipster life. She's got all these tats and piercings, which isn't necessarily a problem, I guess, but there's definitely a feeling of remorse that floats around the sister as she ages, too; for example, she got guages or w/e in her ears that basically look like salsa bowls -- THEY WILL NEVER CLOSE AGAIN. Furthermore, the sister has dabbled with various drugs (no meth or heroin I think, but yes to opiates), and is currently taking some pills for her anxiety, at least I think she still is. She's genuinely a good person with a good heart, but man, it feels like when she's not partying, she must just be thinking about how any viable future for herself is steadily fading away.

When I met my girlfriend freshman year of high school, she was failing most (if not all) of her classes, including P.E. I, on the other hand, had always been a good student, and while I definitely wasn't a square, I made sure I wasn't in some shyt i/e fukking around with the fukk arounds. She always mentions that she admired how much of a gentleman I was, and along with being respectful and caring, I really have always encouraged her to do better, which is something that I don't think she got too frequently at home.

Whereas she was on track to being like her sister and not graduating on stage, my girl turned her act around completely sophomore year. She even began to take AP and honors classes, as well as taking after school classes so she could make up the credits she didn't receive in freshman year. Shes currently at community college working towards transferring to a UC as a bio major.

That's my girl, didn't even know I subconsciously had an entire file on her like this. Why I typed it out for the Coli, I don't know.

Also, before anyone tells me im a simp: i was a broke 14 year old, the only thing i paid for was my movie tickets and meals, i didnt drop a dime until we started going out

 

[Sad Bunny]

Yea I was always a bit taken aback with how much women liked that song...like they telling dudes something. And too many chicks were feeling that song.

I found it kinda funny and alarming at the same time. If a dude's chick was banging that song then.....

Honestly, I agree with the sentiment some have stated of not worrying about it. Just live your life and do right by your partner until that comes up. And then, you decide whether the relationship is over or worth trying to save. Because if someone wants to cheat, then they're going to cheat...and there's NOTHING you can do about it. The only thing you can control is being the best partner you can be and then handle yourself accordingly if that person doesn't appreciate how well you treat them.

Peace

That 2nd paragraph ... preach

 

[Ultimate Warrior]

***snorts 3838seconds***

thats where cuck genre came from peoples obsession of cheatin

u will be suprise of how many muhfukkas would wanna see their spouse get slayed , get aroused nut, then get pissed off about it

 

[JahBuhLun]

But how do you go through life only wanting one thing from the opposite sex? There's more to relationships than sex. That's why cheating hurts and people become obsessed.

Can't go through life thinking so poorly of the opposite sex. What's the point then?

I'm not saying that you have to go through life just wanting sex, but to deny that a real relationship isn't majority sex, is self denial at best. There is a 50% divorce rate in this country, and the couples that admit to cheating is even higher. And we define cheating as having sex with someone else other than our mate and sex has more of a spiritual connection than people think, and that is why people get obsessed over it. So to repeat, you have to have sex with someone in order to consider it cheating. People like @Theraflu just dismiss my comments as garbage without offering any type of substantive rebuttal to my rhetoric. People want me to be wrong but know in their heart I'm right, they are just in relationships with people who will not optimize their happiness, so they try to make a wrong thing a right instead of seeking a new thing.

 

[JahBuhLun]

he doesn't just think low of the opposite sex he think's low of himself.....

clearly not raised in a good home....

No, I just don't put relationships on a pedestal because I know the pedestal is shaky and relationships are fragile and conditional. I was raised in a 2 parent home, but then my parents separated, does that affect my view on relationships and cheating? of course it does. Does that mean I think low of myself? of course not. There is nothing stopping or hindering your mate from cheating on you; nothing at all, so you have to come to terms with that. At the same time, there is nothing stopping you from cheating on your mate, not love, trust, honesty, fidelity. People, including you, need to be more realistic about their situation. So you can go ahead and take more rep points from me, because those type of things are frivolous and arbitrary. If you can come up with better arguments than what you have posted, than I am willing to engage in that debate, but step your rhetoric game up.

 

[100 others]

My homie told me he used to get turned on at the thought of his woman cheating. He used to tell her to leave condom wrappers throughout the house. He also wanted her to keep an old cellphone in the
house with a code lock on it.

 

[b. woods]

Only insecure men obsess over their partner cheating. I've caught another man in bed with my wife but i knew she loved me.

at the username, avi, and location

 

[Anothergirl]

Its insecurity. The people who are the most afraid of getting cheated on are usually cheaters themselves.

^^^^^^truer words NEVER spoken.
also another reason some people get paranoid is because they are a major a$$hole/bytch and they know it. they also know that eventually their partner is going to get tired of the assholishness and step out.