Would you end a relationship if your partner was bad with money?

[MysticMonroe]

I got this from Baller Alert on instagram. Some of the responses shocked me. Here it is:

“I needed some advice and hoping someone out there can help. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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I love my boyfriend. We’re living together and things are great. But, as we're living together, I've noticed that he's terrible with his finances, has bad credit, and is 15k + in debt. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Money isn't everything, but I also don't want to live the rest of our lives carrying our finances. I am considering breaking up with him. Am I wrong?”

Summary

• bf & gf are living together
• bf is bad with money
• has bad credit
• 15K+ in debt

My question is to men and women. Would you leave or stay?
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My advice for her would be to leave but...they are living together so its harder to pack and move out. But if he was trying to work on getting himself together & if he was the one.. I would stay....but if he wasn't I would leave.

I actually broke up with someone because he didnt have his self together, didnt want to deal with the hard relationship stuff & he wasn't 'the one'. He wanted kids & of his own. But didnt want to go to school, just wanted to work a minimum wage job. We had a disagreement one time & he didnt take it seriously until I had to scream at him. He wanted to do the fun relationship stuff but didnt want to have real discussions. He wanted kids but wouldnt even talk with me about how he wants to raise them, whats his medical history,etc. I think he just wanted a baby because it would give him a place to stay. I could see he would be no help if we had a kid together.

 

[froggle]

I learned the hard way with that. Get someone who has the same mindset and goals....everyone else is bushes status. When you trying to save, they out Blowing Money Fast! like tomorrow doesn't exist

 

[Strapped]

Yes

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

Ummm geez I would at least talk to them about it. I mean you just gonna leave?

Why not just have one person handle the bills? That is what happens in most relationships.

I swear people want everything ready made.

 

[KENNY DA COOKER]

Ummm geez I would at least talk to them about it. I mean you just gonna leave?

Why not just have one person handle the bills? That is what happens in most relationships.

I swear people want everything ready made.

And that is why most RELATIONSHIPS end up FLAT LINED

thoughts of a woman who wants to leech off another person

Heffa get yo mind right..

FInancial security is VERY important In a relationship

It's difficult to virtually do anything besides fukk if I ain't got no funds

 

[Diondon]

Money is probably the 2nd leading cause for divorce.
Hell yeah it's a major issue. If I'm saving and she's BMF
You can try to councel your partner but if they're not willing to change, then what?

 

[SupremexKing]

^^^^ thoughts of a woman who wants to leech off another person

Heffa get yo mind right..

FInancial security is VERY important In a relationship

It's difficult to virtually do anything besides fukk if I ain't got no funds

relax, fam

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

^^^^ thoughts of a woman who wants to leech off another person

Heffa get yo mind right..

FInancial security is VERY important In a relationship

It's difficult to virtually do anything besides fukk if I ain't got no funds

You the same person who ran off from your seed. You opinion holds no weight.

What makes you even dumber is that I have my own business and my credit is so good I didn't have to put a dime down on my new 20k car.

Please go kill yourself you deadbeat cheating degenerate.

 

[Ugo Ogugwa]

Bad credit and 15k debt doesn't mean you're bad with money. Need more facts.


Edit: She said he is terrible with finances so with that in mind he probably won't fix his credit or pay off his debt. Yes she should leave.

 

[SupremexKing]

i think as black people (assuming these are african americans) we need to understand that we exist in the richest country on the planet and control 1 percent of the wealth.
the majority of us are poor working class people (with credit masking the reality of us being poor), aspiring to be middle class with no access to any means of production or generational wealth.

with that being said, if you understand these things, have had discussions with your partner about what you are both going to do to combat said "price of being black", and your partner still isn't getting it, behaving recklessly with funds then yea, you may have to bush them.

 

[Neuromancer]

Discuss it first try to get a plan together. Some people need structure. If she (in my case) Wasn't looking to fix the issue then I'd leave.

 

[ℒℴѵℯJay ELECTUA]

Basically she fukking a rich dude and wants that rich thicker bigger dikk..​

Nathan more Nathan less..

 

[King Poetic]

Only 15 k in debt...that's good compared to others unless he's not working and continuing to add more without paying some off

You know there's people with college loan debt, mortgage, car notes that's well beyond that 15k.

 

[KENNY DA COOKER]

You the same person who ran off from your seed. You opinion holds no weight.

What makes you even dumber is that I have my own business and my credit is so good I didn't have to put a dime down on my new 20k car.

Please go kill yourself you deadbeat cheating degenerate.

Hold up you build a bear Byatch

U got the wrong n1gga ...

You must be talking about the fukkboy whom used you as a cumbucket and dipped on your struggle face azz

I'm a single father who won custody of my son three years ago

I'm on vacation right now with my son in the virgin islands...

And just started production on my second product line

Get yo mind right

 

[KingTut]

And that is why most RELATIONSHIPS end up FLAT LINED

thoughts of a woman who wants to leech off another person

Heffa get yo mind right..

FInancial security is VERY important In a relationship

It's difficult to virtually do anything besides fukk if I ain't got no funds

When she said bills she probably meant budget. As in the other person handles the allocating of funds if the other one is bad with money.