"You are a man. Do not raise your voice at me."

[Gold]

Dumb advice for 100 Alex.

You can move how you want but if you out here engaging in a shouting match with a female you both end up looking like a female.

If your point is bolstered by logic and reasoning, raising your voice is unnecessary. Leave that for the emotional people.

End up losing your job cuz your emotional

 

[Ain't That Something]

You can move how you want but if you out here engaging in a shouting match with a female you both end up looking like a female.

If your point is bolstered by logic and reasoning, raising your voice is unnecessary. Leave that for the emotional people.

End up losing your job cuz your emotional

Im in a position in life at my place of work where when I raise my voice people listen and shut the fukk up be it male or female. There is no arguing and back and forth

 

[Wildin]

never cussed

didn't even raise my voice. simply let her know what time it is and made her back up off of me. she was tryna get up in my face talking sideways to me. After I set her straight, that's when she said what she said

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And that's how you do it.

As men we must main complete control over our emotions and behaviors and never allow ourselves to come out of pocket or stoop to someone else's level.

Most people want you to yell, scream, act a fool, especially if your black.

 

[Cal Cutta]

Sounds like the client is aware of how they can exploit perceived power imbalances between genders and is trying to do that to you for whatever intended gain. Someone willing to exploit a power imbalance either for misogynistic or misandric purposes is not worth engaging with. Nothing but conflicts, lies and character attacks await.

 

[Wildin]

We all humans with emotions though so I dont quite understand the problem

Being human isn't a problem. Having emotions is a part of being human which is not a problem. How we react and respond to our emotions can be an issue.

You can speak firmly yet at an appropriate volume. It's one thing if distance or other noise is a factor but we know how people are. Just loud for no reason other than not being able to control their behavior.

 

[Blankthawtz]

don't let them bytches win the game.....

 

[Gold]

Im in a position in life at my place of work where when I raise my voice people listen and shut the fukk up be it male or female. There is no arguing and back and forth

So basically nothing you say applies to OPs situation

 

[NinoBrown]

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And that's how you do it.

As men we must main complete control over our emotions and behaviors and never allow ourselves to come out of pocket or stoop to someone else's level.

Most people want you to yell, scream, act a fool, especially if your black.

Quiet and reserved responses frighten people....especially if you are Black....

 

[skeetsinternal]

I had a girl who would tell me I'm telling yelling or to lower my voice when in my opinion I wasn't yelling or was my voice loud. She would get frazzled by the tone of my voice and checked out of our spirited discussions.

Back story on her:
Feminist
Had issues with black men
AKA sorority
Daddy's girl
Father was Sargent in army

 

[fact]

What is your line of work? How important is the “client” and how much revenue does her business represent to your company’s bottom line? Customer service, maybe 10-15 years ago, before I decided people were complete trash, but nowadays, just couldn’t be me.

 

[AllHolosEve]

Didn't read whole thread but fukk this, it's a #MeToo moment in my eyes.

Only reason you can't raise your voice is cause she a female & wanna act scared/threatened. She letting you know you a man so you better tread carefully. She letting you know

My family talk loud all day, swear words are regular vocabulary mixed with dictionary words. I've had plenty arguments over my loud voice, fukk what people saying.