The reality for me looks like a lot more disconnected, and free market in my approach, as in whoever accepts the invite is who I am running with, for that night and that night only, if they don't want to go, I will try another option.
Like a lot of things, the more traction you gain, the more complicated it all gets, I thing staying honest and getting ahead of conversations, even if you risk turning someone off, is what works best for me, even if it feels out of sync with everyone else,
example: lets not talk about what us having sex means until it's done and then resent eachothers expectations
feels to me like fundamentally bad way to handle it, but that's what people seem to overwhelmingly prefer, men and women.