You found out you were adopted.

[ltheghost]

Short lil rant....

A cousin of mine found out that he was adopted. He always knew but he didn't know that his birth parents were still alive. He found the info while cleaning out the attic. So now he is on this "fukk my adopted parents who fed my ass all my life" and is hanging out with the nikkas that gave him away. I'm trying to be supportive of my cousin but this shyt is starting to rub me the wrong way. Facebook photos with these bum ass nikkas and saying I'm here with "My Family". I know I shouldn't give a fukk but it's just pissing me off a little because they gave him up when he was a baby. My uncle and aunt RAISED him, paid for college, EVERYTHING. I don't know but I'm trying to just chill in the cut but this nikka man....it's coming off as disrespectful now. Constant facebook updates, "With Mom" "With my Dad".....I don't know. Any thoughts on this?

 

[No_bammer_weed]

Short lil rant....

A cousin of mine found out that he was adopted. He always knew but he didn't know that his birth parents were still alive. He found the info while cleaning out the attic. So now he is on this "fukk my adopted parents who fed my ass all my life" and is hanging out with the nikkas that gave him away. I'm trying to be supportive of my cousin but this shyt is starting to rub me the wrong way. Facebook photos with these bum ass nikkas and saying I'm here with "My Family". I know I shouldn't give a fukk but it's just pissing me off a little because they gave him up when he was a baby. My uncle and aunt RAISED him, paid for college, EVERYTHING. I don't know but I'm trying to just chill in the cut but this nikka man....it's coming off as disrespectful now. Constant facebook updates, "With Mom" "With my Dad".....I don't know. Any thoughts on this?

Im no expert, but hes acting irrationally because he feels betrayed by his adoptive parents given the way he found out about such a traumatic piece of info. He probably feels lied to, and this is his way of acting out those feelings. Im assuming he's grown, and his adoptive parents should just leave him alone until he settles down and sorts out his emotions. Im sure his adoptive parents feel well intentioned, and I can understand why it was probably hard to tell him he was adopted, but he should have NEVER found out that way.

EDIT: I read your post wrong.....yeah, your cousin is wrong.

 

[ltheghost]

Im no expert, but hes acting irrationally because he feels betrayed by his adoptive parents, given the way he found out about such a traumatic piece of info. He probably feels lied to, and this is his way of acting out those feelings. Im assuming he's grown, and his adoptive parents should just leave him alone until he settles down and sorts out his emotions. Im sure his adoptive parents feel well intentioned, and I can understand why it was probably hard to tell him he was adopted, but he should have NEVER found out that way.

I agree. But it just sucks. If you compare the families, it's like night and day. He goes to visit his dad (who lives in the projects) and then his mom (Lives on a country road somewhere) while my uncle and aunt are together building a new house. He should have never found out but man..it's just pissing me off. I don't think they did it to intentional hurt him but to try to protect him from the hood ass two dolla nikkas who gave him away.

 

[PicoRoscoe]

Ain't shyt nikka getting back to his ain't shyt roots

 

[ltheghost]

Ain't shyt nikka getting back to his ain't shyt roots

No!!!!!! lol

 

[No_bammer_weed]

I agree. But it just sucks. If you compare the families, it's like night and day. He goes to visit his dad (who lives in the projects) and then his mom (Lives on a country road somewhere) while my uncle and aunt are together building a new house. He should have never found out but man..it's just pissing me off. I don't think they did it to intentional hurt him but to try to protect him from the hood ass two dolla nikkas who gave him away.

yeah, i was going to edit my post, but I read your initial post wrong. He did know he was adopted but didnt know his birth parents were alive. Correct? Did his adoptive parents keep that info from him? Yeah, the way he is acting out sucks, and he shouldnt be so offensive to the people who raised him, but hes having some sort of strong psychological reaction I would assume. Just give him some time, and then talk some sense into him. Im sure he'll come around.

 

[Chesirecatdaddy]

Short lil rant....

A cousin of mine found out that he was adopted. He always knew but he didn't know that his birth parents were still alive. He found the info while cleaning out the attic. So now he is on this "fukk my adopted parents who fed my ass all my life" and is hanging out with the nikkas that gave him away. I'm trying to be supportive of my cousin but this shyt is starting to rub me the wrong way. Facebook photos with these bum ass nikkas and saying I'm here with "My Family". I know I shouldn't give a fukk but it's just pissing me off a little because they gave him up when he was a baby. My uncle and aunt RAISED him, paid for college, EVERYTHING. I don't know but I'm trying to just chill in the cut but this nikka man....it's coming off as disrespectful now. Constant facebook updates, "With Mom" "With my Dad".....I don't know. Any thoughts on this?

be retarded brehs

 

[Nymeria]

People have different ways of reacting to things. It is disrespectful to your aunt and uncle, but those are his real parents and he's clearly trying to make up for something he probably felt was missing. I can't try to put myself in his shoes. I wouldn't want to know what's it like to just now meet my parents and form a relationship with them.

 

[ltheghost]

yeah, i was going to edit my post, but I read your initial post wrong. He did know he was adopted but didnt know his birth parents were alive. Correct? Did his adoptive parents keep that info from him? Yeah, the way he is acting out sucks, and he shouldnt be so offensive to the people who raised him, but hes having some sort of strong psychological reaction I would assume. Just give him some time, and then talk some sense into him. Im sure he'll come around.

He didn't know his birth parents were alive. And yes, the adoptive parents kept it secret. It's just some mad foul stuff going on right now. Dude told his adoptive mom he had to work on New Years but people found out "facebook" he was with his "real" family partying. My aunt was hurt over that and we are all giving him space to just act out but I'm really restraining myself from keeping it real with him.

 

[PicoRoscoe]

Them ain't his real parents tho foh

 

[ltheghost]

Them ain't his real parents tho foh

That's what I want to tell this fool. But he is all on facebook with these bum nikkas...damn near in the trap with them and it's just killin me. He knows better than this... I'm trying not to get pissed.

 

[PicoRoscoe]

That's what I want to tell this fool. But he is all on facebook with these bum nikkas...damn near in the trap with them and it's just killin me. He knows better than this... I'm trying not to get pissed.

You can tell him how you feel but people do what they want regardless. Most likey something bad will happen and he'll come running back to his parents.....

 

[andre patton]

id probably put hands on that nikka.

 

[ltheghost]

You can tell him how you feel but people do what they want regardless. Most likey something bad will happen and he'll come running back to his parents.....

You are right. I'm just waiting on it. I'm really waiting on these broke nikkas to start asking him for money. I hate it would have to be him tho, I cut ties with another cousin earlier this year over some fukk shyt. It's like you want to love these people but my other cousin tried to hit me up for bail money after he got arrested for stealing.....He KNOWS where I'm at and then had to nerve to pop shyt, saying I'm not helping him......Ties cut.

 

[andre patton]

You can tell him how you feel but people do what they want regardless. Most likey something bad will happen and he'll come running back to his parents.....

most likely his biological parents are looking at him like a fukkin free meal. they're gonna get into some shyt...ask him for money...and he's going to guilt trip his adoptive parents into giving him the money.