You shouldn't marry the woman you love the most.

[xXOGLEGENDXx]

I was talking with my grandfather the other day and he was telling me I was getting to that age where I need to start preparing to marry a woman. I told him I have a girl I'm thinking about (we most likely will get married anyway).

Then he asked me if I have ever loved any woman more than her. Yes I have. No lie, I was madly in love with my ex.

He told me that not marrying my ex was the best decision. His words were something like (paraphrasing)...

"Don't ever marry a woman you are crazy in love with, rather find a woman that makes sense with you from a business standpoint. Does she fill your gaps and do you fill hers? Are you getting more or less back than what you are putting forth? Marriage is a business. Nobody loves their actual job, they just love what they get from it. A woman you are crazy in love with can blind you from seeing what's real. Don't think that the love is the most important, because whether you want to admit it or not, unless bound by blood, love fades. Your grandmother wasn't my first love or the woman I loved the most, but we made sense."

They have been married for 50+ years.

Do y'all agree?

 

[Supreme365]

No

 

[RickyGQ]

I was talking with my grandfather the other day and he was telling me I was getting to that age where I need to start preparing to marry a woman. I told him I have a girl I'm thinking about (we most likely will get married anyway).

Then he asked me if I have ever loved any woman more than her. Yes I have. No lie, I was madly in love with my ex.

He told me that not marrying my ex was the best decision. His words were something like (paraphrasing)...

"Don't ever marry a woman you are crazy in love with, rather find a woman that makes sense with you from a business standpoint. Does she fill your gaps and do you fill hers? Are you getting more or less back than what you are putting forth? Marriage is a business. Nobody loves their actual job, they just love what they get from it. A woman you are crazy in love with can blind you from seeing what's real. Don't think that the love is the most important, because whether you want to admit it or not, unless bound by blood, love fades. Your grandmother wasn't my first love or the woman I loved the most, but we made sense."

They have been married for 50+ years.

Do y'all agree?

Makes me wonder. I loved my ex to death, still do actually. But the girl I'm with now is just better in every way conceivable. I just don't see my self loving her the same, despite the fact that our relationship is going great.

 

[Dorian Breh]

To gramps

 

[Ashley Banks]

 

[facemask]

Real n*gga sh*t.

 

[Diondon]

That's a wise playa

 

[NotAnFBIagent]

Damn the girl I loved the most turned out to be ain't shyt so this advice has some merit
Apparently arranged marriages end up more successful than traditional ones too

 

[Rocket Scientist]

No disrespect to your grandfather but what's point of spending half ya life orajority of your life without someone you settled for or don't 100% truly love unconditionally.

 

[Ms.CuriousCat]

If I found out that there was a great love lingering in my husband's heart and I wasn't it....causing that kind of heartbreak is just cruel

 

[facemask]

No disrespect to your grandfather but what's point of spending half ya life orajority of your life without someone you settled for or don't 100% truly love unconditionally.

Are you literally twelve?

 

[Rocket Scientist]

Are you literally twelve?

Nikka..

 

[The Coochie Assassin]

His advice shoulda been thrown out the window as soon as he told you you are getting to that age for marriage ....ya grandfather got married in the 1960s too.....different era...not like he coulda hopped on Tinder and met 20 chicks in one month....people had to settle somewhat back then.....not too many options

marriage is like a business but many men love the business they are in and wouldn't do anything else even if you paid them .......I think in today's world...you can find a woman who makes sense "business wise" while also having hella love for her....

 

[Field Marshall Bradley]

No disrespect to your grandfather but what's point of spending half ya life orajority of your life without someone you settled for or don't 100% truly love unconditionally.

Its not settling though.... You're marrying a woman who will make the best wife/mother....... and nowhere did his Grandpa say that you shouldn't love the woman..... that wouldn't even make sense...

 

[Rocket Scientist]

Its not settling though.... You're marrying a woman who will make the best wife/mother....... and nowhere did his Grandpa say that you shouldn't love the woman..... that wouldn't even make sense...

Aight but not love her the most