Your opinion on this situation

[unit321]

Okay. Here's the situation. I'd be interested in hearing your gut instinct thoughts and if you have any questions, go ahead and ask.

There is a mother, her son and a grandmother. No father involved. So the son has a legitimate job and making so-so money, no college degree. He's an adult, not in high school, but lives with his mom. The grandmother talks to someone she knows who has a business or is a supervisor and asks the dude if he can hook up her grandson with a job. Dude is cool with that and contacts the grandson. He gets hired. The work is the same but the pay is a bit better. Grandson is happy with the new job.
The mother finds out and is angry. She's angry because the mother did this whole thing "behind" her back.

What is your opinion?

 

[Clem]

Mother is behaving foolishly. But there is obviously some bit of information regarding the dynamic that is being left out. Maybe mom is scared the son is going to move out on her now.

 

[john goodman]

The mother is wrong...this is a no brainer

 

[MikeBrownsJob]

Single black moms treat their sons like the husband.

 

[intruder]

There is more to this story

 

[MAKAVELI25]

There has to be a reason the Grandmother didn't let the mother know, and that reflects and how good of a mother she is in the first place

 

[unit321]

There is more to this story

Well, as for the story. There's not that much more. Grandmother went to a guy who is a nephew, so he's a cousin to the mother. I don't believe they have any beef. It's just the fact the grandmother did this behind her back, which, if you think about it, doesn't make any sense because he's an adult in his 20s.

The mother isn't black.

 

[unit321]

There has to be a reason the Grandmother didn't let the mother know, and that reflects and how good of a mother she is in the first place

Mother and grandmother have issues. Grandmother is a nice lady. She was just trying to help out her grandson. You know, times are tough, money is tight.

 

[unit321]

Single black moms treat their sons like the husband.

I didn't mention but she's not black, but she is divorced and he's the only son and she's unemployed right now. But, I believe that there is some truth to your last statement bro.
Well, she's treats him like crap.

 

[intruder]

Well, as for the story. There's not that much more. Grandmother went to a guy who is a nephew, so he's a cousin to the mother. I don't believe they have any beef. It's just the fact the grandmother did this behind her back, which, if you think about it, doesn't make any sense because he's an adult in his 20s.

The mother isn't black.

It's weird. Only job that I had that my mom had a say so were

First job when i was 15 - working with her homegirl's husband on saturdays
Joining the the U.S. Army - And that's only because she had to sign the waiver since i was only 17 when I joined the military

Outside of that my mother has not have any input on my career moves


Which is why this story is weird to me. There mUST be some kinda concern from the mom about her son working with her cousin. Again.. THERE IS MORE TO THIS STORY.

 

[unit321]

It's weird. Only job that I had that my mom had a say so were

First job when i was 15 - working with her homegirl's husband on saturdays
Joining the the U.S. Army - And that's only because she had to sign the waiver since i was only 17 when I joined the military

Outside of that my mother has not have any input on my career moves


Which is why this story is weird to me. There mUST be some kinda concern from the mom about her son working with her cousin. Again.. THERE IS MORE TO THIS STORY.

Oh, she's not concerned about her son working at the cousin's business. He's a nice guy who runs a real business, nothing illegal or dangerous. She was upset her mom went behind her back.

As for the word "concern", that's a joke. She verbally abuses her son. Treats him like crap. His previous job was in a more dangerous part of town and now he's in a safer part of town. Yeah, so it's like that.
Anyway, what kind of suspicions do you have? I'm okay with answering them. I'm keeping the identities of these people anonymous though.

 

[Sex Drugs & Alcohol]

Whats the relationship like between the Boy & Mother and the Boy & Grandmother.

 

[unit321]

Whats the relationship like between the Boy & Mother and the Boy & Grandmother.

Between the boy and grandmother, well he's in his mid-20s so I wouldn't consider him a boy. But, I know what you are saying. The grandson and grandmother have a good relationship. The grandmother is a caring person but doesn't get to see him a lot. She cared enough to try to help out in his work situation. I think she had a gut feeling that she knew if she wanted to help out and went through the mother, the mother would have just rejected her help. Grandmother and mother don't get along. Mother is a... well, I would not recommend anyone on the coli to date her, not even for one date.

Son and mother? Mother treats him like crap. I didn't find out until last year. She verbally and emotionally abuses him. He's a big guy so she can't physically abuse him, as far as I know. She's controlling and is the dominant person in the domestic abuse relationship. Like the victim of the relationship would be the type to say, "Oh, this bruise on my eye? I accidentally ran into his fist. It was all my fault."

This woman, the mother, has constant epic fail stories from the time I knew about her (she's an in-law).

 

[Sex Drugs & Alcohol]

Between the boy and grandmother, well he's in his mid-20s so I wouldn't consider him a boy. But, I know what you are saying. The grandson and grandmother have a good relationship. The grandmother is a caring person but doesn't get to see him a lot. She cared enough to try to help out in his work situation. I think she had a gut feeling that she knew if she wanted to help out and went through the mother, the mother would have just rejected her help. Grandmother and mother don't get along. Mother is a... well, I would not recommend anyone on the coli to date her, not even for one date.

Son and mother? Mother treats him like crap. I didn't find out until last year. She verbally and emotionally abuses him. He's a big guy so she can't physically abuse him, as far as I know. She's controlling and is the dominant person in the domestic abuse relationship. Like the victim of the relationship would be the type to say, "Oh, this bruise on my eye? I accidentally ran into his fist. It was all my fault."

This woman, the mother, has constant epic fail stories from the time I knew about her (she's an in-law).

Thanks.

The Mother is jealous that she had literally had no control over the whole situation at all. Even more annoying to the Mother is that the person who helped is someone she doesnt get along with at present, which makes her even more angry as she feels that she is losing control of her usual strong position she has when it comes to her Son. I wouldn't be surprised if the Mother tried some underhand tactics to get her 'control' back, even tho there is nothing to control.

Just my take on the situation

 

[unit321]

Thanks.

The Mother is jealous that she had literally had no control over the whole situation at all. Even more annoying to the Mother is that the person who helped is someone she doesnt get along with at present, which makes her even more angry as she feels that she is losing control of her usual strong position she has when it comes to her Son. I wouldn't be surprised if the Mother tried some underhand tactics to get her 'control' back, even tho there is nothing to control.

Just my take on the situation

10-4. I agree with you.

When the grandson was in high school and not doing so well, I offered to help because she's a single mother and the father is out of the picture. The mother was like, thanks, but no need. This is years ago. I'm like okay, fine, at least I offered. Little by little, her true colors came though. A couple Christmas' ago I'm visiting the peeps, her son and I are playing a game on Nintento Wii. Then, unprovoked, the mother says this belittling insult to him in front of everyone in the room. I'm like, did she say what I think she said? The son was like "Come on, mom." Mother had this "I just insulted you smug look." I didn't quite put 2 + 2 together at the time because I didn't think she was that kind of person.

Literally, if she pulls that off again, poops gonna get real.