DrBanneker
Space is the Place
Trying to ask the Coli for real advice (no I am not a c00n 
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Not sure where we will be 10 years from now but I have two young sons (under 5) and my wife got a good new job that required us to move since the commute was killing her. As far as commute and school district (I'm not trying to pay private school) we settled in an area that while not 100% White, is only 10% Black or so.
We can deal and we actually have a great and diverse set of neighbors (Whites, Asians, Indians, etc.). Both of us grew up in 90+% Black neighborhoods and would have been fine in a good Black neighborhood for our kids though logistics isn't working out.
The thing is, while I won't raise my kid as a hater, I am not sure what dynamics to expect if he grows up in this area and goes to these schools. I went to a half White school growing up though my pops was big on Black cultural pride and history so I never really tried to punk out, always loved Black women, and never had identity issues etc.
Not sure what my sons will experience and think though. Anyone else grow up in this context and have any advice? In the end, I know I can't force a kid to fit a certain mold but we were both discussing a friend of hers who raised her kids in a completely White area and now has trouble since they don't want to think of themselves as Black and have trouble relating to other Black kids.
Best case, I would like my kids to learn to navigate both worlds and seamlessly be friends with and know how to interact with those who aren't Black but also understand they are Black and not be ashamed of this, but rather proud. Also, though I am not necessarily against IR I do not want them to put non-Black women on a pedestal as the ideal of beauty and not be able to see what is wonderful is sistas. Any help appreciated.
)Not sure where we will be 10 years from now but I have two young sons (under 5) and my wife got a good new job that required us to move since the commute was killing her. As far as commute and school district (I'm not trying to pay private school) we settled in an area that while not 100% White, is only 10% Black or so.
We can deal and we actually have a great and diverse set of neighbors (Whites, Asians, Indians, etc.). Both of us grew up in 90+% Black neighborhoods and would have been fine in a good Black neighborhood for our kids though logistics isn't working out.
The thing is, while I won't raise my kid as a hater, I am not sure what dynamics to expect if he grows up in this area and goes to these schools. I went to a half White school growing up though my pops was big on Black cultural pride and history so I never really tried to punk out, always loved Black women, and never had identity issues etc.
Not sure what my sons will experience and think though. Anyone else grow up in this context and have any advice? In the end, I know I can't force a kid to fit a certain mold but we were both discussing a friend of hers who raised her kids in a completely White area and now has trouble since they don't want to think of themselves as Black and have trouble relating to other Black kids.
Best case, I would like my kids to learn to navigate both worlds and seamlessly be friends with and know how to interact with those who aren't Black but also understand they are Black and not be ashamed of this, but rather proud. Also, though I am not necessarily against IR I do not want them to put non-Black women on a pedestal as the ideal of beauty and not be able to see what is wonderful is sistas. Any help appreciated.
