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"All Girls Are The Same": What Makes A Woman Typical or Boring To You?
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ben anderson
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What would make a girl different to you? What would make her not seem typical/boring or just like every other woman that you've dated? What would make her stand out to you and consider "locking her down" or "wifing" her?
Just not being a bird brained idiot makes you different from 90% of other women. Well for example my current GF of 1 year 1/2 stands out too me a lot. She has volunteered and cooked for the homeless every Saturday morning since she was 15( shes 22 now). This let's me know she's a kind spirited person on top of all the other things she does for me. example Showing up to my job with my favorite meal, always siding with me. And most importantly letting me be a man. Never telling me no, or shes "too tired" for sex. Also she isn't prissy, entitled or frail and handles pressure extremely well for a woman
i love her.
Has your gender been confirmed yet?
You seem to ask a lot of questions as if you're trying build a personality of what a woman should be
I am a girl.
This isn't about what a woman should be. Trying to be what a male wants isn't a good idea anyway.
I make lots of dating/relationship threads (mostly about cheating) asking for male opinions. That is what I use this site for. To ask for male opinions. When I want female opinions on these things, most of the time I go to lsa.
I also visit the booth to talk about music and post about things that are going on in the music industry.
Reginald Noble
Banned
Lots of Women think they could make my team but they simply don't compare to my Woman intellectually.
Keep in mind I'm 30 this year. Younger cats won't have this criteria:
Anyway, In your opinion, what makes a girl boring and/or typical (actions/reactions, things they say)?
What would make a girl different to you?
What would make her not seem typical/boring or just like every other woman that you've dated?
What would make her stand out to you and consider "locking her down" or "wifing" her?
Keep in mind I'm 30 this year. Younger cats won't have this criteria:
Anyway, In your opinion, what makes a girl boring and/or typical (actions/reactions, things they say)?
- Changing the subject when you are talking about something that actually requires brainpower such as current events (whether national or local)
- Having a blank or confused face when talking about anything other than popular media or concepts, fashion etc.
- When you are discussing your character she changes the conversation to your material assets
- Having poor health habits and drinking/smoking too much - If she has to take a smoke break every 10 minutes in the middle of the convo I'll fukk you but that's it. If she's drinking like a fish during our convo we can't be together like that neither.
- In essence, this is the same question as above so see answers above
What would make a girl different to you?
- Liking something aside from Real Housewives, Basketball Wives, Love and Hip Hop, Ciroc, Dro, Lean, LOUD
- Is business oriented, has some kind of ambition outside her day job or if already in her dream job, looking to setup her own shop etc.
What would make her not seem typical/boring or just like every other woman that you've dated?
- Same question as above so see answers above
What would make her stand out to you and consider "locking her down" or "wifing" her?
- I locked down my Woman because she had some ambition and did work outside of her day job
- She was genuinely interested in my life choices, experience and my background
- She had interests in my field which is very rare. Most Women don't like doing anything too technical they can't maintain focus and find it boring. So she got plus points for that.
- She appreciated my gesture in choosing the location for our first outing and financially contributed to the date by paying the tip
- She wasn't a prude, saw we had chemistry and gave it up on our 3rd outing
- After we had sex I got to know her better and met some of her friends. She passed the friend check test (not the other way around). I won't commit to a Woman with gossipy drama filled friends.
- She cooked well and the food she cooked was very healthy , I am big on nutrition and healthy eating
Reginald Noble
Banned
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By Way of Deception, Thou Shalt Do War
I actually don't mind a woman that some might describe as "boring" .. I'm pretty "boring" too so I think I'd get along with a woman who isn't a busy body or has tons of hobbies or whatever, as long as we could talk about things together
Anyway, In your opinion, what makes a girl boring and/or typical (actions/reactions, things they say)? What makes a convo with a woman boring/typical? What things do women do that make you say they're "all the same"?
What would make a woman "boring" or "typical" to me would be if she was a social media attention whore. It just screams "basic". Or if she was all into designer, brand name stuff. Basically being more about image or surface-level crap than actual substance. Oh and also if she was one of those women that thinks her life should unfold the way her favorite celebrities or TV characters' lives do. Like those women who take quotes off TV or the internet and then try to live by it.
One other thing that would make say women are "all the same" is either being a hoe (for single women) or a controlling wench (for married or in a relationship). Can't stand these single broads who are constantly out here bragging about whatever club or city they're in, meeting all kinds of dudes, then throwing pity parties for themselves when they can't meet a "good guy with values" to settle down with. But then once these women are in a relationship, they want to nag over minute details, control everything about their dudes' lives, expect the world to be tossed at their feet to earn their affections, but then provide nothing in return completely disregarding her man's needs. I have no idea how this became a thing, but most of my married or relationship brehs say the same thing about their women. They expect everything, give nothing, withhold tending to a man's needs (and not just sex) while expecting every last one of hers to be delivered upon, etc. thinking we are all just robots. Miss me with that bullshyt.
What would make a girl different to you? What would make her not seem typical/boring or just like every other woman that you've dated? What would make her stand out to you and consider "locking her down" or "wifing" her?
What would make a woman different is if she doesn't care about attention, doesn't fukk every guy she goes on dates with when she's single, doesn't need validation from social media, and doesn't let TV/movies/music/celebrities influence how she views her relationship with me. If we were in an actual relationship, she'd be different if she prioritized my needs just as much as she prioritizes her own. She'd be different if she would hold herself to the same standards she held me to - for example, if she expects a "traditional" husband (breadwinner, provider, do manly house chores), then she should also hold herself to the "traditional" wife standard of cooking, cleaning, raising kids, etc. or else it doesn't work and will breed resentment. She would be different if she respected my own hobbies, interests, friends, etc. without making me feel guilty every time I indulged. She would be different if I didn't have to worry about who she was texting or meeting up with when I'm not around. I would want to lock her down if she was all of these things and also family-oriented - understanding and respecting how important my family is to me and allowing herself to become a part of it. And also allowing me to become a part of hers. And if being around her made me feel peaceful and at ease rather than stressed and on edge. A lot of women just expect, expect, expect. Their men are always "not doing enough" or "not doing it right" or whatever. Those people stress you out and do not make your home peaceful. But if I could come home a woman I know isn't always trying to put me to work, control how I spend my time, or take out her life/work stresses on me when it's not my fault, then that's who I'd want to lock down. Someone I can always count on to love, nurture, and comfort me in a hostile world rather than add to it.
Does this answer your question?
Anyway, In your opinion, what makes a girl boring and/or typical (actions/reactions, things they say)? What makes a convo with a woman boring/typical? What things do women do that make you say they're "all the same"?
What would make a woman "boring" or "typical" to me would be if she was a social media attention whore. It just screams "basic". Or if she was all into designer, brand name stuff. Basically being more about image or surface-level crap than actual substance. Oh and also if she was one of those women that thinks her life should unfold the way her favorite celebrities or TV characters' lives do. Like those women who take quotes off TV or the internet and then try to live by it.
One other thing that would make say women are "all the same" is either being a hoe (for single women) or a controlling wench (for married or in a relationship). Can't stand these single broads who are constantly out here bragging about whatever club or city they're in, meeting all kinds of dudes, then throwing pity parties for themselves when they can't meet a "good guy with values" to settle down with. But then once these women are in a relationship, they want to nag over minute details, control everything about their dudes' lives, expect the world to be tossed at their feet to earn their affections, but then provide nothing in return completely disregarding her man's needs. I have no idea how this became a thing, but most of my married or relationship brehs say the same thing about their women. They expect everything, give nothing, withhold tending to a man's needs (and not just sex) while expecting every last one of hers to be delivered upon, etc. thinking we are all just robots. Miss me with that bullshyt.
What would make a girl different to you? What would make her not seem typical/boring or just like every other woman that you've dated? What would make her stand out to you and consider "locking her down" or "wifing" her?
What would make a woman different is if she doesn't care about attention, doesn't fukk every guy she goes on dates with when she's single, doesn't need validation from social media, and doesn't let TV/movies/music/celebrities influence how she views her relationship with me. If we were in an actual relationship, she'd be different if she prioritized my needs just as much as she prioritizes her own. She'd be different if she would hold herself to the same standards she held me to - for example, if she expects a "traditional" husband (breadwinner, provider, do manly house chores), then she should also hold herself to the "traditional" wife standard of cooking, cleaning, raising kids, etc. or else it doesn't work and will breed resentment. She would be different if she respected my own hobbies, interests, friends, etc. without making me feel guilty every time I indulged. She would be different if I didn't have to worry about who she was texting or meeting up with when I'm not around. I would want to lock her down if she was all of these things and also family-oriented - understanding and respecting how important my family is to me and allowing herself to become a part of it. And also allowing me to become a part of hers. And if being around her made me feel peaceful and at ease rather than stressed and on edge. A lot of women just expect, expect, expect. Their men are always "not doing enough" or "not doing it right" or whatever. Those people stress you out and do not make your home peaceful. But if I could come home a woman I know isn't always trying to put me to work, control how I spend my time, or take out her life/work stresses on me when it's not my fault, then that's who I'd want to lock down. Someone I can always count on to love, nurture, and comfort me in a hostile world rather than add to it.
Does this answer your question?
But for real on the serious tip
If she has no knowledge of self, no pride in her blackness, and doesn't at least have a MILD curiosity towards black history or culture I'm going to lose interest REAL quick.
A woman who doesn't have a backbone. I was dating this woman who was super cool, but she let any and everybody take advantage of her. She was getting sexually harassed by her boss and wouldn't do ANYTHING about it but complain to me. Her best friend was taking advantage of her, borrowing money and not paying her back. Her roommate was chumping her. I remember a time where she was low on money and had no food so I brought some groceries for her to get by for the week, her roommate ate ALL that shyt and she didn't want to confront her. I'm like "this bytch ate ALL the food I brought for YOU and your scared to set her straight?!!?
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Couldn't do it brehs
If she has no knowledge of self, no pride in her blackness, and doesn't at least have a MILD curiosity towards black history or culture I'm going to lose interest REAL quick.
A woman who doesn't have a backbone. I was dating this woman who was super cool, but she let any and everybody take advantage of her. She was getting sexually harassed by her boss and wouldn't do ANYTHING about it but complain to me. Her best friend was taking advantage of her, borrowing money and not paying her back. Her roommate was chumping her. I remember a time where she was low on money and had no food so I brought some groceries for her to get by for the week, her roommate ate ALL that shyt and she didn't want to confront her. I'm like "this bytch ate ALL the food I brought for YOU and your scared to set her straight?!!?
"Couldn't do it brehs
Men that say that either have very little experience with women, or they keep dating the same type of women. The same thing can be said for women that say all men are dogs or whatever. The problem is usually with the person and their dating choices, not the person they're dating. It's unfair to say All men or women are one way. The dating possibilities are endless. There's someone for everyone, keep trying, change it up a little bit and you'll meet them eventually.
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Reginald Noble
Banned
Well, I took the easy route and she was already pre-qualified thru my Japanese friend. So I found her through networking essentially. This is what I advise most brothers to do.
She was born in Japan but working here for about 10 years. I took the initiative because I liked how she looked and asked for her number and took it from there.
If she wasn't Japanese or referred to me - I'd probably have to vet her in a group environment before even thinking about spending time, money and energy on setting up a date etc.
Now don't get me wrong there are a lot of dumb Japanese women that make it all the way to NYC but I already developed the eye to screen them out. They usually wear terrible makeup that doesn't compliment their skin and laugh even when nothing is funny.
The more sophisticated ones have a closer resemblance to the concept of "Yamato Nadeshiko" which is the ideal archetype of the traditional Japanese Woman: Refined, Gracious, Humble yet Firm when needed.
It's not something that can be explained with words, you just have to see it for yourself. If you ever have the opportunity to attend a traditional tea ceremony in Kyoto it will become very clear. But they have those in Philadelphia and the West Coast too.
I would advise any modern day Woman born in the West to learn from very old Women from traditional eastern cultures on how they should conduct themselves around Men.
Reginald Noble
Banned
This is a common everyday occurrence that happens to ALL Men regardless of experience.
Stop deflecting the blame onto the Men. I understand you may have an agenda, however you're going to need to put some facts, logic and meat behind it if you want people to actually believe in what you are claiming.
You gotta be ambitious.
Reginald Noble
Banned
Right. If she can't stand up for herself how is she going to protect your children while you're out waging war on the front lines?
