Broke up with wifey because she wanted to search my phone

[Kisame]

Break up with a woman who recently had your spawn because she wanted to reenact being an nsa agent.

 

[Turbulent]

I think he is giving her reasons to doubt him.... he said it himself that she never would ask before.... If you keep being shady... people will keep doubting your trustworthiness...

@skeetsinternal What suddenly changed?

it,s the same thing as when the police ask you if they can search your vehicle or frisk you. you say you don't consent and they'll say "well if you have nothing to hide, why are you refusing?". but it has nothing to do with wanting to hide and everything to do with respecting my personal boundaries.

 

[Auger]

Yes boo, has he earned her trust?

Being in a relationship with two adults is not enough?

So even if he hasn't earned her trust, she's totally in the right in invading his privacy to calm her trust issues?

 

[Yup]

it,s the same thing as when the police ask you if they can search your vehicle or frisk you. you say you don't consent and they'll say "well if you have nothing to hide, why are you refusing?". but it has nothing to do with wanting to hide and everything to do with respecting my personal boundaries.

Bad analogy I think.
I think the op is withholding some information.

 

[Turbulent]

Bad analogy I think.
I think the op is withholding some information.

why is it a bad analogy?

also, maybe she's just an insecure individual and OP doesn't want to enable her sickness.

 

[Yup]

Being in relationship is not enough?

Being in a relationship is not guarantee that people will not falter. Its for the same reason why std checks need to be regularly regardless of your status.
If this site is not proof of how shady men can be than I don't know what is. I've come to the conclusion that you can't put a 100% trust in anyone, perhaps 80% or even 90% but 100% nah.

 

[Yup]

why is it a bad analogy?

also, maybe she's just an insecure individual and OP doesn't want to enable her sickness.

You read a lot into his post.

 

[Diondon]

You should have told her "fukk going through the phone, let me go through the phone bill"

 

[Auger]

Being in a relationship is not guarantee that people will not falter. Its for the same reason why std checks need to be regularly regardless of your status.
If this site is not proof of how shady men can be than I don't know what is. I've come to the conclusion that you can't put a 100% trust in anyone, perhaps 80% or even 90% but 100% nah.

All of what you described is a reflection of your own insecurites, do not use the coli nor its members as an accurate representation of the opposite sex.

Believe it or not, there are people in the real world who don't have to result to this

 

[Yup]

All of what you described is your own insecurites, do not use the coli nor its members as some accurate representation of the opposite sex.

It's not insecurity, I am speaking from experience not just based on the coli. I don't believe in investing a 100% of yourself in a relationship, especially as a woman.

 

[BlvdBrawler]

With your history, I would be afraid you had something to hide in your phone too...

you really should be an open book.... if she wants to reread a few chapters, what is the problem?

The problem is, she knew that before she got with him, they created a bond of trust together, had a child together, and now she's acting like she just learned skeets was a ho.

 

[Turbulent]

Being in a relationship is not guarantee that people will not falter. Its for the same reason why std checks need to be regularly regardless of your status.
If this site is not proof of how shady men can be than I don't know what is. I've come to the conclusion that you can't put a 100% trust in anyone, perhaps 80% or even 90% but 100% nah.

i agree with not trusting anyone 100%. but that doesn't mean i should consent to people looking at my phone. Any woman who i'm with will have to either deal with it or she'll be forbidden to me.

 

[Colicat]

it,s the same thing as when the police ask you if they can search your vehicle or frisk you. you say you don't consent and they'll say "well if you have nothing to hide, why are you refusing?". but it has nothing to do with wanting to hide and everything to do with respecting my personal boundaries.

We are your partners.... not police....

we should already be dwelling well within those boundaries.... there should be no invasion.... if I have your child, I know what every spot and hair on your body looks like... I should know all of your friends and family, and they should know me...

I should know how regular your bowel movements are and what you need when they aren't regular...

If you are comfortable with me knowing all of that.... why so serious about the phone?

 

[Turbulent]

The problem is, she knew that before she got with him, they created a bond of trust together, had a child together, and now she's acting like she just learned skeets was a ho.

that's what i'm saying. if anything, it sounds to me like she's the one acting out of character.

 

[Yup]

i agree with not trusting anyone 100%. but that doesn't mean i should consent to people looking at my phone. Any woman who i'm with will have to either deal with it or she'll be forbidden to me.

And that's your right to do so. If that's an arrangement that a woman is not happy with then I'd suggest her to leave the relationship.