I understand that different relationships work for different people...Im talking about my preference, and her being "submissive" aint it. I dont look at relationships as some binary concept where she's either some drone that is incapable of agency or thought that contributes to the relationship meaningfully, or some wild hellcat who doesnt know how to treat a man. "Independence" from women has become a loaded word in the modern male psyche, but Im not a subscriber to the idea that a woman questioning and challenging me, is incompatible w/ her being loving and loyal.
I think insecurity is the guiding force with many men here. They interpret a woman daring to breach their authority, as some sort of declaration of war, and an attempt to emasculate them. I dont think I have omnipotent abilities and powers that should never be questioned. I want to be with a partner that has the ability to contribute to me as a man, helping me see things differently, which will only strengthen me as and us as a union. That way a relationship becomes symbiotic, as opposed to me just leading her around on some sort of leash.
Most married women on Earth are led by their husbands. Men are great teachers in how to traverse the demonic realm because its largely been male feet that have seen it all and done it all so we have a lot to offer in passed down knowledge on leadership. It is only a recent phenom that women are able to some semblance of equal footing to men and even still there are less women like this around then you think. 
