Counselors healing women who divorce their closeted gay husbands

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'Did I ever really know him?': the women who married gay men

A Sydney counselling service is filling in what’s often missing in the married man coming out narrative – the woman’s voice

www.theguardian.com

Megan is one of a potentially dying breed of women: those who married closeted gay men. As countries such as Australia and Britain progress towards LGBTQI equality, it’s a social phenomenon that could vaporise within a generation.

When a married man comes out later in life, positive reactions can be heartening. Rainbow garlands are unfurled. People applaud his bravery. They empathise with his struggle. They marvel at how he came through it and celebrate that he can finally be himself. They express gratitude we live in more enlightened times.

Often entirely missing from this narrative is the woman’s voice.

She has had to face her marriage breakdown and potential infidelity and wrestle with feelings that her relationship was a sham. Then there’s the judgment of others who, sometimes openly, say surely she must have suspected – how naive can a person be? Occasionally she is blamed for being the person holding the man back from who he truly is or wants to be.

The anger and heartbreak in these stories is crazy.
One woman says she still felt like she could have put a hit out on her husband. Another says she felt like she it was just confirmation that she was never really wanted.


Reminds me of Jim McGreevey's wife when he had to step down.

 

[hood b. goode]

aight now do men who marry closet lesbians

 

[Umoja]

It is a fukked up thing to do.

It's not like we get a rewind button in life or a new life once the one we have comes at an end.

You're wasting precious years of someone's life for selfish reasons.

 

[Mindfield333]

That Black politician from Florida comes to mind. I thought dude was gonna make major moves.

 

[levitate]

If you are gay, be gay.

Scumbag shyt to lie and fake it.

 

[7th Letter Specialist]

Füçkïñ Fàggôts

 

[MajesticLion]

These things never break down the numbers of how many were legit lied to, versus how many were content to legit lie to themselves to maintain the illusion.

 

[invalid]

That Black politician from Florida comes to mind. I thought dude was gonna make major moves.

Gotta also remember, a lot of these women know and have arrangements. Gillum's wife is still with him. She knew already and the only people who didn't know was the general public. These ain't the folks we need to feel sorry for. Whatever they agreed upon with respect to their marriage, is their business.

 

[315]

Füçkïñ Fàggôts

Won't ask you how

 

[the cac mamba]

The anger and heartbreak in these stories is crazy.
One woman says she still felt like she could have put a hit out on her husband.

you think women cant handle getting rejected? imagine this shyt not that i blame her, obviously

 

[Alix217]

 

[concise]

Gotta also remember, a lot of these women know and have arrangements. Gillum's wife is still with him.

and what of the average women that this article talks about who didn't know?

 

[Manny2828]

aight now do men who marry closet lesbians

Do you have any examples of this? You will never find a women that’s full blown lesbian except some hardcore dykes but they’re a minority. most women are bisexual at most. A closeted lesbian is rare

 

[the elastic]

 

[Fill Collins]

How tf do gay mfs pull that off? If you're gay and women repulse you, how do you keep up the charade?