She hasn't earned anything more than coffee yet. Granted, there are dates where I put in a lot more effort. In those cases it's because I felt that the woman was worth it. There have been dates where we just went to some coffee house and then chilled in the park. I didn't think any less of those women, but our conversations before the date weren't all that deep or anything. So I chose something lite where we could just relax and chill. If your attitude is that a low budget date implies low effort and a lack of caring, then that means what you really value that person's personality and character. You value what they can offer you in financial security and stability. And there's nothing wrong with that. Just don't gas light by saying that a low budget date implies low effort and a lack of caring.